What exactly are the three items in the family, and the family will be ruined? **The truth behind it.
Uncles are not allowed to sleep in the same bed with their daughters.
In the countryside, it is generally believed that the girl who marries out is not considered a relative of the maiden family, but becomes a foreigner. Therefore, when you go home, you must try not to sleep in the same bed with your aunt, so as not to rob the family of all its luck. This custom is largely derived from the ancient people's belief in the auspiciousness and auspiciousness of the family. They feel that as long as their daughter marries, their home will become their husband's family, and their fortune will be gone. Therefore, when the girl comes home and sleeps in the same bed with her uncle, she will rob the family of all her fortunes and make the family unlucky.
However, the interpretation and implementation of this custom varies from place to place. Some regions may not object to daughters sleeping in the same bed as their sons-in-law, depending on local customs. For example, in some areas, girls are sent to their parents' homes only temporarily and do not have any adverse consequences for their parents. In some areas, this tradition is adhered to, and the woman is regarded as a member of the husband's family, and when she returns to her mother's home, she tries to avoid contact with her son-in-law.
In addition, due to the transformation of human ideology and the progress of human culture, "li" has gradually lost its original meaning. Nowadays, people pay more and more attention to individual happiness and harmony, and they no longer pay much attention to the so-called "rules and regulations". When she returns home, she can live with her husband and does not have to follow those old customs.
Do not give birth to babies in your own house.
In the village, no other woman is allowed to give birth in her own house except her wife. This custom is largely due to the ancient belief that if blood is seen at birth, it will be very bad luck and will make everyone in the house unlucky. According to the traditional thinking of the Chinese, there should be an auspicious and auspicious family in the family, and if outsiders are born in their own homes, it will affect the atmosphere very much and will also cause disasters.
Especially women who have already been married cannot give birth in their own homes. This is because in the ancient times of the countryside, the married woman has long since returned to the house, so it is a very rude and rude thing to give birth to a child in her own home. Originally, he wanted to give birth to children in his husband's family and pass on the family to his family.
However, with the development of science and technology, human fertility consciousness has also changed. Modern society is paying more and more attention to the rights and well-being of individuals, and it is no longer bound by this traditional thinking. Married women have the right to have children in their own home, and relatives and friends can have children in their own home. It is not only a reflection of individual freedom and fairness, but also an inevitable requirement of contemporary development.
It is not appropriate to leave a loved one in a different place.
In rural areas, elderly people who are seriously ill at home are often reluctant to return to their hometowns to seek medical treatment. This is due to the belief in ancient times that if a loved one dies in a foreign place, it will bring bad luck when he returns home. Therefore, some families will set up a tent at home and hold their own funeral.
The reason for its occurrence is due to the bad luck of the ancestral temple and family. In ancient times, people believed that every family had an ancestral shrine, and if a guest died in a foreign country, it would affect the luck and luck of the family. Therefore, families don't want their families to die outside.
However, with the development of the times and the progress of science and technology, human thinking is also constantly changing. Modern society attaches more and more importance to human personality and care for the family, and takes seriously ill relatives into the home for treatment and care. They argue that human dignity and warmth are the most important thing when a loved one is facing death, rather than overemphasizing these old concepts. When choosing the best place for family members, it is important to combine health care resources with environmental and other factors.
Brief summary. The family has three industries, and the whole family will be destroyed", which is a simple and simple rural proverb, which contains a rich philosophy of life and cultural heritage. Through the interpretation and analysis of the three parts of Dream of the Red Chamber, we can better understand the beliefs and values contained in Dream of the Red Chamber. On the one hand, it reflects the ancient people's reverence and trust for family, destiny and nature. However, due to the development of the times and the development of technology, some colloquialisms have become obsolete or a little biased.
In this regard, we must treat it dialectically, take the essence of it, and remove the dross. While inheriting it, we should also examine its rationality and scientificity from a contemporary perspective. Since the specific national conditions of various nationalities and nationalities are different, it is necessary to proceed from reality and combine scientific and technological knowledge to make reasonable considerations and choices. Only by inheriting and carrying forward the fine traditions and wisdom essence of rural culture can we better understand and grasp today's society.