The topic is the medium of the initial conversation, the basis of the in-depth discussion, and the beginning of indulgence. Without a topic, it's hard to get the conversation going. If you want to create a lively atmosphere, find a topic if you don't have a topic.
The criteria for a good topic are: at least one party is familiar with and can talk about it; Everyone is interested and loves to talk; There is room for development, easy to talk about.
So, how do you find a topic?
A topic that everyone cares about
In the face of many strangers, we should choose the things we care about as the topic, and aim the topic at everyone's excitement center.
Borrow the news or materials from your side
Cleverly use some materials of that time, place, and person as the subject to provoke conversation. Some people are good at using the other party's name, place of origin, age, clothing, living room, etc. to improvise a topic, and often receive good results.
The way the question is asked
Throw stones into the river and find out the depth of the water before moving forward, and you can cross the river with confidence. When talking to strangers, ask some "stone-throwing" questions first, and then talk purposefully after a little understanding, you can talk more freely. If you see a stranger holding something in his hand, ask:"What is this? ......It seems that you must be an expert at this. It just so happens that I have a question for you. ”If you show a strong interest in everything about others, you can reveal yourself through the medium, and the conversation will go smoothly.
Find a common hobby
Asking strangers about their interests can smoothly enter the topic, such as the other party's love of football, you can use this as a topic, talk about the recent wonderful games, the performance of a certain star on the field, and the gap between the Chinese team and foreign teams, etc., can be used as a topic to arouse the other party's interest.
Step by step, from shallow to deep
Confucius said, "The Tao is different, do not conspire with each other", only like-minded people, can we talk together. There are many beautiful talks in our country that are "familiar at first sight", and strangers should be able to talk speculatively, make a fuss about the word "therefore", and change "life" into "therefore". Here are a few ways to turn "birth" into "cause":
A reporter went to interview a teacher, and someone said before the trip that the teacher had a bit of an eccentric personality and often dismissed people in a few words. When the reporter went to the school to look for him, he was losing his temper with the people in the communication room. When the reporter heard that his accent was from Shanxi, he was secretly happy in his heart, because he was also from Shanxi. Later, their conversation started from their hometown, and the more they talked, the more heated it became. This off-topic paragraph also makes a good foreshadowing for the main topic.
In the process of communication, we should be good at finding topics when talking, so that we can get close. A master communicator pointed out that in conversation, you must learn the ability to find words when you have nothing to say.
In the face of different types of people, how can you have nothing to say?
Interpersonal type
If the other person often mentions his relationship with a certain person, or with another person, it means that he is interested in relationships. If you let him know that you also know about human relations, then he will enjoy talking to you.
Logical thinking
If the person speaks in an organized, neat manner, and uses precise words, this type of person usually likes to think logically and talk without leaks. Therefore, when you are having a conversation, you can't just say what you feel, try to mobilize your own "analysis" factor to analyze the truth behind things.
Emotionally rich
When you have a discussion about what you think about someone or something, if the person says, "This person is so pitiful..."Words like this represent that he is emotional, everything is based on feelings, and he has a clear distinction between likes and dislikes. In the face of such a person, do not talk about theory and logical analysis, he may not be interested in this at all.
Art appreciation
This kind of person likes to talk about art or ** and other topics, you can discuss the latest hot product design or ** performance with the other party, etc., ask the other party's opinion, not only let the other party have a chance to perform, you can also learn some knowledge from it.
A scholar once said that if you can talk to anyone for ten minutes without interest in them, you're a first-class conversationer.
When two strangers meet for the first time, if they can't make good use of the opportunity to find out the topic, they can't say what they should say. It is inevitable that the conversation will not be successful.
Talking about things that interest others makes one feel respected, and at the same time it is a way to get to know others deeply and have fun with them.
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