Happy families are similar to each other, and unhappy families are different.
This sentence comes from the semi-autobiographical "Anna Karenina" by the literary titan Leo Tolstoy, which describes the current situation of marriage in various families.
Everyone in the marriage craves love and wants to be the one to be loved. Unfortunately, it backfired, and men and women had different thoughts, practices, and feelings.
Men believe that doing a good job in their careers and providing good economic conditions for their families is the greatest contribution to their families. They think that all women have to do is take care of the family and educate their children well, and they don't have to ask for anything else.
And what women want is more love, understanding and tolerance from men.
The book begins with a marriage in which Oblonsky had a relationship with the child's governess, causing chaos in the family.
After the incident, Oblonsky was in good spirits and did not seem to be affected by the incident, but regretted not hiding it from his wife.
He felt that he was right, and in his opinion, nine years of living together his wife could not forgive the impulse of the moment?
Before this incident, everything was so good and how beautiful the days were. He even thought that she was old and decrepit, devoid of grace, unattractive, and purely a good wife and mother, and that she should be magnanimous to him and not care about anything. Who knows the opposite.
His wife Tao Li felt that she couldn't live this life, but she was extremely conflicted in her heart. It's impossible to reconcile, but what will happen to the children if she leaves—she can't take care of all five children at home, and once she leaves the house, she goes outside.
She knew it was impossible to leave the house, but she still had to pretend that she was going to run away.
When most women are facing a marital crisis, the child is always a mother's weakness, and she can't help it follow her own temperament.
It was only with Anna Karenina's mediation that the crisis in this marriage was alleviated.
Most of the men in marriage make the same mistakes as the Oblonsky family, but what if the women make mistakes? What would it be like?
Anna Karenina was born into an aristocratic family, she was young, beautiful, kind, lively, full of passion for life, and she longed for romantic love. However, she married Karenin, who was twenty years her senior, according to the marriage system of the nobility and the church. Karenin was hypocritical and cold, did not know what love was, and was a complete official machine.
Two people with completely different personalities, with different outlooks on life and values, are destined to become victims of marriage and end in tragedy.
Therefore, when Anna meets Volensky, a personable aristocratic young man, she is shot by Cupid's arrow, falls in love, and begins an immoral relationship.
In the eyes of others, Karenin is a good husband, he tolerates Anna's mistakes, and only asks Anna to keep her duty, play the role of wife, and maintain his reputation, so that nothing happened to him.
But after Anna's first taste of sweet love, how could she still want to return to that lifeless home? She wanted love and freedom, so she broke through the shackles of the world and did what she wanted to do - ran away with Volensky.
At that time, how could anyone tolerate Anna's behavior? Therefore, it is destined to end in tragedy.
Is it true that love and freedom cannot be combined in marriage? Do you think it's worth it for Anna to do this? What are your thoughts on this?