Yesterday coincided with February 14th, the world's largest Valentine's Day, on this day, countless couples in the world poured their hearts to each other, through the festive atmosphere to confess to their loved ones, and express their deep emotions intertwined. In the classical masterpiece "Dream of Red Mansions", there is such an intriguing sentence: Those who take fiery love as the main axis often end up scattering; And those who work hand in hand and are willing to live an ordinary life can share reunion and harmony in the passage of time.
The world often says that marriage is like a furnace for testing true love, even if the love that was once as deep as the sea is like you and me, in the triviality and ordinariness of life, it will eventually be integrated into the fireworks of firewood, rice, oil and salt.
For adults who have entered the mature stage, the emotions in marriage may seem calm, but they have quietly forged a more solid strength, and their tenacity and enduring charm are more evident than the passionate love years.
When people reach middle age, they actually dislike each other
A profound dialogue in the movie "33 Days of Broken Love" still touches people's hearts today. The heroine asks a wise grandmother, "Why can't modern lovers last as long as your generation?" ”
The old grandmother replied in a tone of vicissitudes: "In our time, we would want to repair things when they were broken, but nowadays people are more inclined to replace them than to repair them. ”
It is true that the pace of modern society is becoming more and more rapid, and people's hearts are also restless. When love is a little unsatisfactory, it is easy to change partners; Divorce seems to be the norm once there is a rift in a marriage, and these phenomena have become commonplace in today's society.
However, in the world of emotions, who can be flawless? Many people take their lover's dedication and care for granted, but exaggerate each other's flaws, which eventually leads to the marriage being on the verge of being broken in constant conflicts and contradictions.
However, the cornerstone of a long-term relationship lies in mutual tolerance and understanding. The appearance of true love is not as sweet as sugar all the time, but can find a balance between disgust and deep love - this may be the truest portrayal of love.
There was a ** that was captured by netizens on the bus and circulated on the Internet, triggering countless people's yearning for beautiful love. **, the husband fell asleep on the bumpy bus, his sleeping posture seemed a little embarrassed, and the wife sitting in front of him looked at him with a look of "disgust", but her actions silently told her affection.
During the short drive of several tens of minutes, the wife always held on to the handrail and let her husband lean on her shoulder to prevent him from being bumped in the shaking of the vehicle. Although she constantly adjusted her posture to stay comfortable, the hand that carried the love never left.
And this is precisely the purest and most vivid display of beautiful love: there are no gorgeous vows and thrilling plots, but there is just one person who seems to blame you for your imperfections, but on the other hand, he silently guards you in an extremely delicate way.
In the world, unsatisfactory partners abound, but they are still with each other until the end of their lives. The world is complicated, and many dissatisfaction and dissatisfaction are pervasive in marriage, but they can also stumble side by side to the whitehead. ”
Even if it is a happy marriage, it is also intertwined with love in mutual tolerance and pickiness, and they grow old together in the cycle of dispute and reconciliation. Two people can spend their lives together, in fact, as long as they have the determination to live and die together, and the belief of being in the same boat and unswerving, it is enough.
In the fireworks, it is the real marriage
The concept of love of modern young people is often romanticized as "two people in one room, sharing the warmth of three meals and four seasons, chasing the dream of the stars and the sea, and they can spend it together regardless of elegance and vulgarity; The four seas are home, the three mountains are companions, the two hearts stay together for a lifetime, the breeze blows, the grass and trees are affectionate, and the wind and rain are in the same boat". However, love and marriage in real life are not always poetic.
As Mr. Qian Zhongshu profoundly revealed in "The Siege of the City": No matter who you enter the marriage hall with, you will always find that the person next to you seems to be no longer the familiar face at the beginning, as if it has changed to another person. The once gentle and elegant gradually turned into impatience in daily trivialities, and the elegant life of piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, poetry, hops, and tea in the past will eventually transition to the bland reality of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. However, it is this seemingly ordinary fireworks atmosphere that is the deepest and truest happiness.
The married life of Zhang Guoli and Deng Jie undoubtedly presents us with an enviable picture. They raise flowers and fruits together, splash ink, play games, and bargain to buy vegetables in the vegetable market. They cook together, and the dishes may not be top-notch, but they are full of simple and sincere happiness. The coffee ground by Zhang Guoli was called "paper coffee" by Deng Jie, and when the shredded potatoes cut out by Deng Jie were a little rough, Zhang Guoli responded playfully, "This is a potato stick." These mutual hatreds and complaints in ordinary life constitute the harmonious movement of their daily life.
This is the most authentic and down-to-earth appearance of marriage, as the old saying goes, true love is not just staying at the heart of the first meeting, but can still maintain that deep love and acceptance after a long time. As Chi Li portrays in "Who Do You Think You Are", no matter how romantic love is, it will never be able to transcend real life, it will eventually return and integrate into the ordinary and mundane days.
In the passage of these long years, if there is no fireworks to warm every ordinary day, the rest of your life will seem so lonely and long. Only a marriage that is filled with the smell of fireworks in the world can be called a beautiful marriage that truly touches people's hearts and attracts people's aspirations.
The best marriage is to spend the rest of your life together
In the film "Chongqing Forest", there is a monologue that is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people: "I don't know when everything in the world seems to be given an expiration date, saury has its expiration date, meat sauce cannot escape the fate of spoilage, and even the plastic wrap will eventually expire one day." This made me think deeply about whether there is an eternal and unchanging existence in this vast world. ”
However, not everything has a time limit, and marriage should not be seen as a symbol of trivial life. On the contrary, two people can go through the ups and downs and be with each other until the end of their lives, which is undoubtedly the most affectionate and lasting interpretation of happiness.
There was a news story that touched people's hearts: in a hospital, an elderly couple lived in the third and fourteenth floor wards. Among them, the 92-year-old gentleman knew that his limit was approaching, and resolutely decided to give up**, and the only obsession in his heart was - "I haven't seen my wife for a long time, and I just want to see her again at the moment." ”
The hospital specially arranged a precious reunion for them. Faced with the moment that might become an eternal farewell, the old gentleman tried his best to open his eyes and stare at his lover one last time, despite the faint breath. And his wife also held his hand tightly and made a firm promise: "I will take care of myself, and I will definitely go to you after I **." The picture of the two elderly people holding hands across the hospital bed deeply touched everyone who witnessed this scene.
Love, although it is only one word, carries a lifetime of commitment and perseverance. Even if the years have gone through vicissitudes and faltering, in each other's eyes, the other party is still smiling like a flower when they first met, which is the most pure and moving love picture in the world.
As the ancient oath sung in the Book of Songs: "Hold the hand of the son, grow old with the son." When Hua is full of hair, he is still surrounded by the person who fell in love with him when he was young, this plain and deep happiness, just like a trickle of water, endless, is the most precious long love confession in life.
Some people think that Valentine's Day is just for young people, but this is not the case. Love does not set an age limit, and any couple who loves each other affectionately, no matter how the years pass, are qualified to spend this loving day together. As long as there is love flowing in the heart, then every day can be given the meaning of Valentine's Day.
The most beautiful love is when you are sure that the other party is the soul mate in your life, unreservedly surrender yourself to the other party, make yourself an indispensable part of the other person's life, and then walk hand in hand through the wind and rain, and each other until the white head.
True happiness does not lie in the moment of passion, but in the perseverance and companionship in the ordinary years. That kind of seemingly insipid love just constitutes the most solid and happy cornerstone of marriage.
The belt gradually widens and does not regret it, and it makes people haggard for Yi", which is a vivid portrayal of the dedication to love.
Light up [Attention], I hope that after you have experienced the ordinariness of the fireworks in the world, there is still such a person who is willing to accompany you through the wind and rain, help each other in the same boat, and share weal and bene. Let this affection illuminate every journey you have walked together like candlelight.