Customs are a kind of wisdom precipitated by history, which contains people's life experience and reverence for nature. In Chinese lunar culture, the wax moon is the end of the year and the preparatory stage before the arrival of the Spring Festival. And it is precisely because of this special period that the folk have formed many taboos and exquisiteness about the wax moon, which are regarded as traditions by people. Among them, there are five taboos, "When you enter the Layue Gate, don't ask people about five things". The five things are: don't borrow money, don't get engaged, don't quarrel, don't move, and don't build a house. Although these taboos may seem outdated in modern society, the ideas behind them still deserve our reflection and respect.
First of all, it is better not to borrow money during the lunar month. The wax moon is the last month of the year, and it is at this time that people have to prepare for the New Year, buy new clothes, buy New Year's goods, etc., and all kinds of expenses are unavoidable. If you lend or borrow money during the lunar month, it may affect your financial situation and may even lead to a bad Chinese New Year. In addition, the wax moon is the tail of winter, and the cold weather makes people more reluctant to go out, and borrowing money also needs to face the difficulty and risk of going out to collect debts. Therefore, it is in line with practical needs not to borrow money in the lunar month.
Secondly, it is not suitable for engagement or marriage in the lunar month. In traditional Chinese marriage customs, betrothal is an important part of the marriage process, and the wax moon is seen as a time of summary and savings, and people are reluctant to make major decisions at this time. In addition, the wax moon is the peak period of various sacrifices and celebrations, and if you get engaged at this time, it is very likely that it will conflict with the traditional customs of your family, causing unnecessary conflicts and strife. Therefore, it has also become a custom not to be engaged in the lunar month.
Third, quarrels or conflicts should be avoided during the lunar month. The wax moon is seen as a month of joy and peace, and being affected by quarrels or disputes can bring bad luck and bring misfortune to the family. The joyful atmosphere of the first month needs to be created in the lunar month, as the saying goes, "home and everything is prosperous", and a harmonious family atmosphere is the foundation of a good life. Therefore, in the month of La, it is especially necessary to pay attention to maintaining a harmonious attitude to create a warm and happy atmosphere together.
In addition, Layue is not suitable for moving. The weather is cold and freezing, moving requires a lot of physical strength and energy, and the lunar month is the preparation stage for the New Year, people are generally busy purchasing New Year's goods and preparing for the New Year, and have no time to take care of the move. Moreover, in the traditional Chinese concept, moving requires choosing an auspicious time and considering factors such as feng shui and topography, which are difficult to achieve during the special month of Wax. Therefore, not moving in Layue has also become a customary taboo.
Finally, Layue is not suitable for building a house. In traditional Chinese culture, building a house is a major decision that needs to take into account factors such as feng shui and topography. The month of Wax is the coldest time of the year, and construction may be disturbed by severe cold, ice and snow, affecting the construction period and construction quality. Moreover, during the lunar month, people are usually busy with the preparations for the Chinese New Year and are reluctant to participate in the construction of houses. Therefore, it has also become a taboo not to build a house in Layue.
Although these taboos may no longer be strictly observed in modern society, we should respect the wisdom and lessons contained in traditional culture. These taboos are summarized through life experience and the observation of the seasons, and are reminders and warnings of people's busy lives. We can see the importance that people attach to family harmony, the rhythm of life and financial fortune, and we can also feel people's awe and compliance with nature. At the same time, these taboos reflect people's desire to live in harmony with their families, society, and nature.
Therefore, whether as the norms of traditional culture or as a guide to the wisdom of life, we should respect and cherish these taboos and exquisiteness. Whether it's borrowing money, getting engaged, arguing, moving, or building a house, we can better adjust our behavior by understanding the reasons and whys, and maintain a harmonious, safe and healthy attitude in our families to welcome the new year.
In the new era, we can draw wisdom and inspiration from traditional culture, combine with the actual situation of modern society, and celebrate the lunar month and Spring Festival in a more scientific and reasonable way, so as to pass on traditional culture and make our lives more rich and diverse, happy and fulfilling.