Thinking of relatives during the festive season, this is a warm phrase, implying that at the time of the festival, people's thoughts and desires for family. The Chinese New Year was rendered incomparably warm and beautiful by everyone.
In real life, many families staged quarrels and discord at the time of the Chinese New Year, which should have been reunion and joy. Recently, many people have been saying that they have been quarreling in the past few days of the New Year, and there are also those who say that they are going to divorce on the eighth day of the new year, and the older generation has said that the New Year is like passing the test, and now it seems that this is really the case.
What causes a quarrel during Chinese New Year?
1. The gap between expectations and reality
Chinese New Year, for many people, means reunion, joy and new beginnings. However, there is often a big gap between this beautiful expectation and reality. For example, whose house do the young couple go to for the New Year? Some families are unable to reunite due to work, study and other reasons; In some families, the atmosphere is tense because of various trivial matters and conflicts. This gap between expectations and reality can easily lead to feelings of loss and dissatisfaction, which can lead to quarrels.
2. Economic pressure and comparison psychology
During the Chinese New Year, various expenses are often much larger than usual, including buying New Year's goods, giving red envelopes to elders and juniors, and attending various gatherings. For some families who are not financially well-off, these expenses will undoubtedly bring a lot of financial pressure.
The Chinese New Year is also a time when the comparison psychology is easy to trouble. For the sake of face and vanity, some families may overspend or exaggerate their economic situation, and this kind of comparison psychology can easily lead to dissatisfaction and quarrels among family members.
3. The conflict between traditional customs and modern values
Chinese New Year is an important part of traditional Chinese culture, and there are many traditional customs and rules. However, with the changes of the times and the progress of society, the values of many people are also changing. This clash of traditional customs with modern values can easily lead to disagreements and quarrels between family members. For example, some young people may think that the Chinese New Year should be more liberal and modern, while the older generation may stick to traditional customs and rules.
4. Poor communication and emotional out-of-control
During the Chinese New Year, communication and communication between family members is often more frequent and complex than usual. However, since everyone's personality, experiences, and perspectives are different, it's easy to miscommunicate. If this miscommunication is not resolved in a timely and effective manner, it can easily lead to emotional loss of control and quarrels. In addition, various activities and gatherings during the Chinese New Year can also easily make people overworked and exhausted, which can lead to emotional instability and irritability.
Xiao Wang's family quarrels over various trivial matters every Chinese New Year. One year, Xiao Wang proposed that the whole family go out for a trip for the New Year, hoping to make the family happier in a different way. However, this proposal was opposed by the parents, who thought that they should be reunited at home during the Chinese New Year, and it was too much of a toss to go out for a trip. The two sides disagreed, and it eventually turned into a heated quarrel.
Chinese New Year is supposed to be a time of reunion and joy, but the pressures and contradictions of real life can easily make this moment unpleasant.
I believe that in order to avoid quarrels and discord during the Chinese New Year, we must first adjust our mentality and expectations, and look at the Chinese New Year festival rationally.
We need to strengthen communication and understanding among family members and respect each other's views and feelings.
We also need to learn to control our emotions and behaviors to avoid unnecessary arguments caused by impulses. Only in this way can we truly enjoy the Chinese New Year as a moment of reunion and joy.