Mencius said: "Those who respect others will always respect them." "Respecting others is equal to solemnizing oneself, which is the most basic courtesy and cultivation of a person. If you don't feel respected, someone will look down on you, discriminate against you, scorn you, mean you. There is no need to be angry, and there is no need to be troubled, because most of the people who can't learn to respect are unsightly, shallow and rude, remember the following 6 words, and you will win! Don't ask, silence is goldenThere is a cloud in the Tao Te Ching: "If you have too many words and a few poor, it is better to keep the middle." "In the face of people who don't respect you, it's useless to talk too much, it's better to be silent. Because your opening and responding will only waste a lot of your time and energy. In this world, some people appreciate you, some people despise you, some people are thoughtful and warm, and some people are cold and detached. Those who look down on you don't have even the most basic respect for you, let alone kindness and closeness. Explanations are useless and communication is ineffective, but will only provoke unnecessary rights and wrongs and lower your own level. In 2012, Mo Yan won the Nobel Prize in Literature and became famous all over the world. But for a long time, he did not publish a new book, and many people openly and secretly ridiculed him for his talent, and some even wrote directly to criticize his works and slander his personality. Mo Yan always ignored the disrespect and impoliteness of others, but continued to walk at his own pace, precipitating and writing. Later, as soon as "The Late Bloomer" came out, the millions of sales were obvious to all, and it became the most powerful counterattack in one fell swoop. Mo Yan said: "When a person doesn't respect you, put away your generosity, don't communicate, don't communicate, don't be angry and sad, you just need to ignore and stay away, and work hard silently." "People who don't respect you, many times, it's not that you're not good enough, it's that the other party doesn't care about you from the bottom of their hearts. Choose to chatter, explain arguments, always be a loser, silence is golden, peace of mind, immersion to be yourself, the most transparent way to live. 
Ignore it and laugh it offThere is a good saying: "People who don't respect you don't deserve your respect." "Respect or disrespect is the choice of others, and you can have a clear conscience. You don't need to be defined by others; Your value is not to be judged by others. If you get angry and get entangled because of this, you will only spoil your mood and ruin your mood. On the contrary, the more you are calm and light, the more you laugh at it, the other party will often be speechless and at a loss. There is such a story in "Zhuangzi": There is a man named Shi Chengqi, who admired the wisdom of Lao Tzu, so he trekked through mountains and rivers to visit. Seeing Lao Tzu, he felt that Lao Tzu was mediocre in appearance, and even the house was messy. As soon as he opened his mouth, he scolded: "Others say that you are a saint, but I think you are just a mouse." Lao Tzu looked up at him, ignored it again, and continued to bury his head in reading his book. The next day, Shi Chengqi felt that he was too rude and reckless, and came to apologize again. Lao Tzu smiled and said: "If I can get on the road, you will scold me for being a pig, a dog, and a mouse, but I will still be me." "Rude people, don't pay attention. In life, it is easy to be swayed by the provocation and contempt of others, and only oneself is hurt. Keep smiling, look down on everything, and let go of other people's mistakes, in order to free your own heart, live a smooth life, and the years are quiet. 
Don't negotiate, be yourselfThere is a cloud in "Aphorisms": "Sitting quietly and thinking about your own mistakes, gossiping and not talking about others." "If someone doesn't respect you, and after introspection, they still feel wronged, try to be yourself. Don't think about treating others the way they want to be treated, and have a disrespectful and irrational attitude. Otherwise, you will only ruin your reputation and character, and become a person with no quality like the other party. Repair one's own heart, do one's own thing, and manage one's own mouth well, and one is the true wise man. Writers Li Ao and Yu Guangzhong, the two have been at odds for many years. Li Ao once publicly commented on Yu Guangzhong: "Literature is higher than learning, learning is higher than poetry, and poetry is higher than quality." It is even said that he is a "sycophant poet" who specializes in sycophants, and his inner disdain and contempt are well known to everyone. But Yu Guangzhong's attitude was surprisingly calm, neither responding in a high-profile manner, nor talking about the other party behind his back. Instead, he said indifferently, "I don't answer, which means that I can live without him; He didn't stop, saying that his life couldn't live without me", and continued to read and write, teach and educate people. The attitude and conduct in the afterglow made the people who valued him appreciate him even more, and the people who looked down on him were also defeated. As the saying goes: "Horses travel thousands of miles, do not wash mud and sand." "Some people think of you as a treasure, and some people treat you like dirt. It's hard to understand people's hearts, it's hard to reconcile people's mouths, and you can't satisfy and respect everyone. But what others say, do, and think is ultimately someone else's business. Cultivate yourself, strengthen yourself, focus on deep cultivation in your own field, and grow and mature in your own world. When you are good and outstanding enough, you will find that those who bully the weak and fear the hard and do not respect you have long disappeared without a trace.