Love is exciting at first, but as it gets closer, it fades into affection and custom.
So, after the first three months, the beating heart will gradually calm down, the rationality will gradually become stronger, and soon you will know if the couple can continue.
01: Calm down and reconsider.
After the sweet first three months, love enters the run-in period.
Many people mistakenly believe that their partner doesn't love them enough, but in reality, it's their rational reaction and the idea of reconsidering the relationship.
Others say that their partner hid well for the first three months, but then stopped pretending. All sorts of questions started to surface, and I felt a little lost.
Actually, it's not pretending for the sake of pretending. They may have hidden it before for fear of making you sad or disappointed. They care and will do their best to accommodate your preferences.
And, no matter how much he disguises it, you're the closest person to him, so you're bound to see some signs. It's just that you're also tacitly and selectively blind.
If you both feel a little uncomfortable, but still try your best to correct each other's shortcomings and are willing to tolerate each other, it means that the relationship can continue, and it also shows that you deeply value each other. Try to continue dating.
02: Passive and aggressive, the signs are already emerging.
If at the height of the love, the partner shows a negative attitude, then it is likely that he will not change in the relationship later in the future.
Because he's used to passively following you.
It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you or doesn't love you that much, but it's in his nature that he prefers to be a no-brainer, emotionally waiting for you to lead. Relationship.
These people usually have little decision-making power. Their low self-esteem makes them not rash in any relationship. Be careful to follow the other person's decision, fearing that your reckless actions will ruin your relationship.
Many people mistakenly think that they don't love each other enough, but that's not the case.
If they just want to play the love game, they will be very proactive, allowing themselves to be the dominant player in the relationship and have the power to quit at any time.
And, if you think about it, whether the other person pays attention to you politely or responds to you perfunctorily is hidden in the details of daily interactions, and it is difficult to completely hide it.
03: If you're disappointed, stay disappointed.
People who are unwilling to make changes in the best moments will not change their relationship in the future.
Such people are very self-centered and think first of all about themselves. You try to avoid people and things that affect you, but you don't give anyone the selfless love you crave.
The virtue of this type of personality is that it is self-contained, does not change easily, and is consistent. The downside is that you can only adapt to him. In other words, he may feel like he doesn't love you enough, and in fact, he doesn't. Anyone would love this.
If this disappoints you, it will continue to disappoint you. He has been like this since he came into contact with you and intends to keep it that way.
If you agree with this, you can go ahead and date him, as long as it keeps you calm.
Still others are always looking for something new. Even if you are deeply in love with someone, you can't stop showing interest in other people of the opposite sex. And such a person, even if he gets married, will find another partner, but he will never abandon the entire forest for the sake of a tree.
It's easy to change your country, but it's hard to change your character.
A person who does not change when they are at their most stressed will only get worse later. A decision must be made as soon as possible.
The rule for couples dating for three months is very accurate and realistic.
People who are in love for the first time may be disappointed, but that's human nature.
Still, I would like to advise those who go out into the heat to find true love. If you want to be loved, you must learn to love yourself before you can love others.
People who don't know how to protect themselves will never find eternal and perfect love. First, the way we treat ourselves is lacking. How can anything be perfect?
So love yourself well. A person who knows how to evaluate you will eventually run to you sincerely!