Gai Wen ancient saying: "Tianxingjian, a gentleman is constantly striving for self-improvement." This is true. Since ancient times, everyone in the world has known that it is difficult to change others, just like moving mountains and reclaiming the sea, not in a day. Changing oneself is like a spring breeze and rain, moisturizing things silently, simple and easy. Why, then, do people struggle to change others and neglect their own self-cultivation?
If the husband changes others, he must be involved in human feelings and sophistication, and he must be exhausted. As the old saying goes, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." "However, people's hearts are unpredictable, each has a ghost, and it is not easy to make others good. And the lady's heart is like a face, different, and she wants to use her own strength to reverse the mind of others, just like asking for a fish from a tree, which is rare to get the result. Therefore, Confucius said: "If you don't suffer from people, you don't know people, and you don't know people." "Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are clear." The wise do not complain about the heavens, do not love others, but seek for themselves.
On the other hand, changing oneself is like seeing the sun through the clouds and suddenly opening up. "Those who can't do it, they all turn to themselves. "Self-cultivation Qi family rules the country and the world, all based on self-cultivation. The way of self-cultivation lies in self-reflection. Those who introspect examine their own mistakes and make continuous improvements, in order to make progress day by day and change month by month. As Zeng Tzu said: "I am three times a day, and I am self-conscious." "Only by introspection can we know the deficiencies and change them, and know the bad ones and move them. This so-called "self-change" is actually a process of self-improvement.
And the husband changes himself, without the help of external forces, all by one heart. Buddhism's so-called "put down the butcher's knife and become a Buddha on the spot" is this principle. As long as you have a heart and do something, you can be reborn and renewed. To change others, it is necessary to take into account the feelings of others, seize the opportunity, and use strategies to achieve results. Wouldn't it be easier to change yourself?
However, people in the world tend to ignore their own self-cultivation and are eager to change others. There are three reasons for this: first, people are greedy and always want to control others to satisfy their own selfish desires; Second, lack of self-knowledge, not seeing one's own shortcomings, but caring about the shortcomings of others; Third, evade responsibility, be unwilling to face up to the problem, and blame others. These three are all taboos for self-cultivation.
His body is upright, and he does not give orders; His body is not right, although he does not obey orders. "Only by changing yourself can you influence others. If you are not right, how can you convince others? Only by leading by example can we influence others and convince our hearts. Therefore, it is said: "It is too difficult to change others, but it is very simple to change yourself." ”
Our generation should take this as the motto, always introspective, and constantly improve. Don't take evil as small, don't take good as small. Change yourself, start from little by little, accumulate a lot, and eventually become a great virtue. At that time, changing others will also be a matter of course.
In short, it is too difficult to change others, and it is very simple to change yourself. May the people of the world encourage each other, cultivate one's self and govern the country and level the world, starting from changing oneself.
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