Yang Chaoqing.
During the Spring Festival, "The topic of "breaking off relatives" is hotly searched, and young people don't like to visit relatives more and more? The article resonated with the majority of netizens. According to the survey results, most of the post-90s young people aged 26-30 only have "occasional contact with relatives". (The Paper, February 17).
Unlike acquired relationships such as teachers, students, and friends, kinship based on blood ties is innate. The so-called "severance of relatives" is not a formal statement of severing the relationship between relatives, but basically does not intersect with relatives, and is a social phenomenon of laziness, neglect, and disdain to interact and interact with relatives within the second generation.
According to the traditional family concept, it is important to maintain a kinship relationship where "blood is thicker than water". With the acceleration of modernization, more and more young people are gradually realizing that although kinship cannot be chosen, it does not mean that it cannot be abandoned. Especially in today's diversified interests and values, when kinship not only cannot bring enough warmth and comfort to people, but will bring all kinds of troubles, troubles, pain and harm, "severance" has become a realistic choice for many young people.
With the acceleration of social mobility and the specialization and refinement of the social division of labor, different relatives not only live in the north and south of the world, but also have distinct differences in occupation, life experience, hobbies, cultural tastes, and life styles. Many relatives rarely have contact and little intersection on weekdays, which is a kind of "weak relationship", and "severing relatives" is just unwilling to do superficial efforts to maintain this "weak relationship".
The indifference and alienation between young people and their relatives have become the daily life of some individuals. In the final analysis, "severing relatives" means that young people are unwilling to be bound by the "shackles" such as ineffective social interactions, elders' will, and customs in the process of social interaction and social interaction, but emphasize more personal consciousness and care more about individual feelings, and make active choices based on their own emotions, identity, and desires, which is the awakening of self-consciousness.
In the face of "breaking off relatives", some people are worried, showing a kind of nostalgic worry, feeling lost for indifference to family affection and estrangement of relationships, and nostalgic for the joy of "loving each other as a family" in the past. In fact, "severance" is a change in people's behavior in the process of social structural transformation. We should not preconceived about wearing "colored glasses" and label and even stigmatize young people's "severance of relatives", but we must understand the interests and spiritual needs of young people.
From the "rural China" of the past to the modern, open and highly mobile "urban China" of today, people's living ecology has undergone earth-shaking changes. In traditional societies, a family often relies on the clan and clan for opportunities, resources, and shelter and security from kinship. In modern society, the progress of civilization and the rule of law, and the economic independence of individuals and families have given many young people the objective conditions for "severing their relatives".
No man is an island, and when young people do not have timely and effective social support for kinship in their daily lives, they will be replaced by new relationships such as classmates, colleagues, and fellow villagers. It is a mature and warm society to identify the social roots behind the "severance", understand the desires and needs behind the "severance", and provide more humanistic care for young people's urban integration.
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