""The nephew who was a soldier introduced by a colleague, three shortcomings made my daughter break up without hesitation! "
Early in the morning, I was just sitting at work, and Sister Liu came to me with a cup of milk tea with a smile on her face: Xiao Han, I heard that your daughter is 25 years old this year, is she still single?
I nodded and replied, "Yes, she doesn't seem to pay much attention to her own affairs, and I was planning to arrange a blind date for her during the Chinese New Year."
Sister Liu said with great interest: It's better to be in advance, I have a nephew named Zhang Peng, who has just been discharged from the army, is 26 years old this year, and has excellent appearance, but he has been in the army before, and he has very little time to go home, and he doesn't even have a partner. I think he and your daughter are a good fit, so let's meet them.
She showed me Zhang Peng's **, he is indeed a handsome young man. Sister Liu also repeatedly praised her nephew's advantages, and finally said: Whether it is suitable or not, let them talk about it by themselves when they meet young people. We're just providing an opportunity, and if it's the right fit, it's better, and if we're not together, we're doing our best, right?
I think this proposal makes a lot of sense, my daughter has never been in a relationship since she graduated, and I actually hope that she will have a home sooner. So, I went home after work and discussed it with my daughter. After seeing Zhang Peng's **, her daughter decided to meet him on the weekend.
On Saturday, I didn't go to work, my daughter went out for an appointment, and I slept at home. I had something to eat at noon, I was going to make soup in the evening, and when I was busy in the kitchen, my daughter walked into the kitchen and took my arm.
I put down the spoon in my hand, turned around and asked her: How did it feel to meet Zhang Peng for the first time? Is he right for you? Can you talk?
My daughter hugged me tightly, rested her head on my shoulder, and whispered: He is very nice and responsible. We had a great time together. Mom, I think I'm going to be in love.
The daughter's first impression of Zhang Peng was very good, and in the following days, the daughter got along with him very smoothly. They eat together, watch movies, and sometimes his daughter comes home late from overtime, he will go to the company to pick up his daughter, and the two will walk downstairs and reluctantly separate.
Seeing that my daughters are happy every day, I am also very optimistic about them. But as we spent more time together, I discovered three shortcomings in Zhang Peng, which made me worry about their future.
That afternoon, my daughter was going to the barber shop to get her hair done, and I happened to want to perm my curls too, so I went with my daughter. Zhang Peng rested that day and sat on the sofa in front of the barbershop waiting for his daughter.
My daughter had been doing her hair for more than two hours, and I saw that Zhang Peng had been smoking, and once his cigarettes were gone, so I went to the nearby commissary to buy a pack. I asked my daughter, does Zhang Peng usually smoke badly?
The daughter nodded, but defended Zhang Peng again, saying that he is much better now than before, she doesn't like to smell smoke, and after talking to Zhang Peng once, he always goes out to smoke, and when he is with his daughter, he will only light one when he is bored.
I asked my daughter to persuade Zhang Peng to quit smoking, he is still so young, smoking is not good for his health. The daughter said that she had said such things, but Zhang Peng only had a small change and was unwilling to quit completely.
My daughter's impression of Zhang Peng is still good, and I can see that this incident does not affect their feelings, so I won't say anything anymore.
They got along for about a month, and one day my brother and sister-in-law came to the house as a guest, and Zhang Peng also came, and we had a meal at home together.
My brother likes to have two drinks when he eats, and it just so happens that Zhang Peng is also there, so my wife takes out two bottles of liquor and drinks while eating.
Zhang Peng drank very fiercely, and when he toasted my brother, he drank all his glass of liquor. My brother couldn't drink that much, so he took a sip. Zhang Peng was a little unhappy at the time, and said: Uncle, I'm done, you only drink this, okay?
My brother didn't want to lose face, so he had to drink it all. That day, my brother and wife drank too much, and Zhang Peng was also drunk, but he continued to drink, and his daughter couldn't persuade him twice.
After sending Zhang Peng home, I decided to have a good talk with my daughter. Zhang Peng is young and vigorous, and there are no small shortcomings, but the problem of drinking and smoking, it seems to be a trivial matter now, and it will be a big thing after a long time. Smoking hurts the lungs, drinking hurts the body, does Zhang Peng have any moderation over tobacco and alcohol, and when they get married in the future, their daughter will not have a good time in her old age.
I witnessed Zhang Peng's careful care of his daughter, but in his heart, his daughter's status did not seem to be as high as it seemed on the outside. My daughter snuggled up to me and confided in me: she had thought about this issue many times and had quarreled with Zhang Peng, but every time he could soothe her with tenderness, as long as he was good to her, she would relent.
I understand that young people need time to get used to falling in love, and if my daughter is unwilling to give up the relationship, maybe I need to give them more time. However, a later incident made the daughter propose to break up without hesitation.
It was my birthday, and Zhang Peng needed to go to work, so we didn't ask him to celebrate together. My daughter and I followed my wife to the mall for dinner, and after eating the hot pot, I was a little full, so I wandered around the mall with my daughter.
At six o'clock, my daughter's mobile phone rang, and it was Zhang Peng who called, asking about her daughter's location. He was also at the mall, but he couldn't find us.
The daughter's sense of direction is very poor, and she can't tell the difference between the southeast and the northwest, while Zhang Peng can't tell the difference between the left and right, and only knows the east, west, north and south. It took her a while to describe our location to Zhang Peng.
When Zhang Peng found us, his first words were: Why can't you tell me clearly whether to go east or west? The mall is so big, I walked around several times to find you, and I was really tired.
I listened to him and was a little shocked. I knew he was a straightforward person, but I didn't expect him to say such things to his daughter. I couldn't get used to his attitude, so I rebuked him. My daughter told him the exact location of our mall, and it was purely his own fault that he turned in the wrong direction, so how could he blame his daughter?
Seeing my unhappy expression, Zhang Peng quickly squeezed out a smile and said that he was just impulsive and would correct it.
At that time, my daughter's face had become ugly, Zhang Peng took my daughter to the movies, and my wife and I went home silently.
At nine o'clock in the evening, my daughter returned. I asked her if the movie was good? Why did you come back so early?
My daughter told me that she had thought about it carefully and that she and Zhang Peng were not suitable. Zhang Peng smokes very much, one pack a day, and he doesn't drink in moderation, he drinks very violently every time, and he doesn't feel like he's getting drunk without getting drunk. She can tolerate both shortcomings, but what she can't accept is Zhang Peng's low emotional intelligence and overly impulsive temper.
Sometimes they quarreled, and Zhang Peng always spoke strongly, making his daughter feel that if she refuted again, he might do it. She hopes to find a partner with a gentle and considerate personality who can communicate well and solve problems, rather than cold-fighting or arguing whenever she encounters difficulties.
Although they are not yet married, these problems are bound to become a reality after marriage. She didn't want to suffer the pain of these problems in her marriage, and she didn't want to lay the groundwork for future quarrels. So, she decided to break up with Zhang Peng.
When I heard my daughter's decision, I felt sorry for her. My daughter's love experience is very simple, she only talked about one boyfriend in college, and I don't want her to hurt in the relationship again. But there are some things that can only be understood by experiencing them firsthand, and I am glad to hear her analyze them so rationally.
I know that love requires not only tolerance and understanding, but also respect and trust for each other, as well as an attitude of willingness to make positive changes for each other. Zhang Peng has a straightforward personality, sincere and not pretentious, but he is not suitable for his daughter.
Soon after I went to work the next day, Sister Liu came to ask me if my daughter had broken up with Zhang Peng? Zhang Peng is the only son in the family, and his family is well-off, like him, I'm afraid it will take a lot of effort to find one.
Sister Liu expressed her regret for her daughter for giving up this relationship, as if missing Zhang Peng was missing a precious opportunity. I patiently explained: Zhang Peng is a good person, and his family conditions are also good, but happiness does not only depend on money, but also on the relationship and lifestyle of two people. If her daughter and Zhang Peng always quarrel, then no matter how rich they are, their lives will not be happy. Marriage is a choice for two people to live together, rather than simply focusing on family background. Besides, my wife and I have an ordinary job, but we are doing well.
Sister Liu smiled awkwardly, then turned to leave.
This incident has made my daughter grow up a lot, and I decided not to urge her to get married anymore, after all, emotional matters depend on fate. I believe that my daughter will eventually meet someone who is more suitable for her.