In the fast-paced modern life, mobile phones seem to have become our most intimate "companions", and the days without mobile phones are simply painful, even if you put your mobile phone in your bag and don't look at it, you are full of security.
However, when the phone screen is on, does it block the connection between us and our children? Does the glow of the mobile phone lower the temperature of family affection?
Recently, a touching story happened to me, and I was very emotional.
A 4-year-old girl next door, because her father only cared about playing with his mobile phone after work and neglected her company, couldn't help but tearfully ask her grandmother for help: "Grandma, you take care of Dad, let him stop playing with his mobile phone all the time, come and accompany me." ”
This cry, like a hammer, made me think deeply, and recently read Professor Li Meijin's two books "Psychological Maintenance" and "Subtle Human Nature", which made my thinking even more layered.
Professor Li Meijin, a well-known parenting expert in China, has repeatedly emphasized: "Companionship is the best education for children." ”
In the process of children's growth, it is not that you are at home with your children to be companionship, high-quality companionship and love are indispensable.
Although mobile phones provide us with a convenient life, over-indulgence in them, even at home with children, is a low-quality companionship, which will not only damage our own health, but also have an irreversible impact on children's growth.
So, as parents, how do we balance work and parenting to avoid becoming a "mobile phone controller"?
1. Set the time to use the mobile phone.
Parents can set a fixed time at home to use their phones, such as after dinner or after their children go to bed.
During this time, put your phone aside and devote yourself to your child's participation in their games, learning, or even a simple chat.
Second, high-quality accompaniment.
Companionship is not only about being around children, but also about participating in their world with heart and affection. When you're with your child, put down your phone, give them a warm hug, or listen to them.
3. Set an example.
Children are natural imitators, and they unconsciously imitate the behavior of their parents. Therefore, if you want your child to love learning, you should love learning, and while you ask your child to stay away from mobile phones, you should also set an example and use mobile phones reasonably.
4. Enrich children's extracurricular life.
In addition to studying, parents can encourage their children to participate in interest classes, sports activities or communicate with other children to enrich their extracurricular life. In this way, the child will naturally not rely too much on the phone to find fun.
Although the mobile phone is good, but it is a double-edged sword, if it is not used reasonably, strengthen the guidance of the child, just like the child around me, crying and letting the grandmother take care of the father's mobile phone, thus causing the alienation of the parent-child relationship, even if you get a short happiness in the mobile phone, but lose the long-term family warmth....
Let's put down our mobile phones, accompany our children with our hearts, and witness every moment of their growth.