Li Meijin, a teacher at the China University of Political Science and Law, once put forward a point of view:
Courage before the age of six, and wisdom after twelve. ”
It is crucial from the birth of the baby until the age of six.
Many parents want their children to have a happy life.
Therefore, they take care of everything at all costs, thinking that their children can grow up happily.
However, no matter how much money is spent, it may not be able to raise children well.
Parents must not do 4 actions for their children before the age of 6, otherwise it will have a negative impact on the baby's future.
Don't do whatever you want for your child.
Many parents feel that their children are too young to do anything, so they are responsible for everything they do with their children.
In the short term, this practice may seem to keep children away from worry and frustration, but in the long run, it is harmful.
First, children will lose their self-confidence and self-esteem.
They feel that they are not capable of doing this well, so they develop an inferiority complex and lose confidence.
Second, children will lose their independence and self-government.
They are too dependent on their parents to make their own decisions and take care of themselves.
Eventually, they will lose their sense of responsibility and lack a sense of responsibility.
They feel that this is their parents and that they don't need to be responsible.
So, as parents, we need to let our children solve the problems themselves.
Although in the beginning, they didn't do very well.
However, it is in this situation that children are allowed to try, to make mistakes, to improve.
We should let them explore on their own, to experiment, to make mistakes, to grow.
Only in this way can we become responsible and responsible people.
Don't do wrong things for your children.
When their children make mistakes, many parents will eagerly defend their children and take the blame for their children.
In fact, if you do, you can't give your child the initiative to admit their mistakes and correct their mistakes.
When they grow up, making mistakes is inevitable.
Through the mistakes made, children can learn what is not or cannot be accepted, so as to learn how Xi not to repeat the mistakes of the past.
If parents insist on exculpating their children, they will not be able to learn Xi how to face up to their mistakes and how to correct their mistakes.
Therefore, as parents, let them try on their own, make mistakes, and experience.
Only then can they know what is not and what is not to be done, so that they can learn how Xi not to repeat the mistakes of the past.
In this process, we should learn Xi tolerance and understanding.
When children make mistakes, they will inevitably develop fear and anxiety, and we need to give them more help and encouragement, so that they can understand that if they are willing to admit their mistakes and try their best to correct them, then they can gain the understanding and trust of others.
Don't suppress your feelings for him. ”
Many parents see their emotional catharsis as a sign of disobedience, so they want to suppress their emotions.
This kind of behavior is not only detrimental to children's mental health, but may also lead to the occurrence of multiple mental illnesses in children in the future.
Children vent their emotions because their hearts are filled with dissatisfaction and trouble.
If parents keep suppressing their children's emotions, their children will bury their inner dissatisfaction and anxiety in the depths of their hearts.
This practice is not only detrimental to children's mental health, but also causes some psychological problems for children later in life.
Therefore, parents should allow their children to vent their emotions and give them more help and encouragement.
In this case, children can really feel their feelings and learn how Xi control their feelings.
Children should be properly instructed and educated.
We want them to know what can and can't be expressed, what is positive and what is negative.
Through teaching and guidance, children can understand their own emotions and learn Xi control their emotions.
Don't be wronged for your children.
Many parents are afraid of their children's troubles and setbacks, so they will shield their children from all suffering.
Although it avoids children's distress and frustration in the short term, it does more harm than good in the long run.
First, children will lose their self-confidence and self-esteem.
They feel that they have no way to cope with difficulties and setbacks, so they develop an inferiority complex and lose confidence.
Second, children will lose their independence and self-government.
They are too dependent on their parents and will not make their own decisions, nor will they make their own decisions, let alone take care of themselves.
Eventually, they lose their sense of responsibility and are afraid to take responsibility, feeling that it is their fault and that they are not responsible.
Therefore, as a parent, it is necessary to let your children face all kinds of difficulties and setbacks alone.
Even if they seem so helpless and confused at the beginning, we must firmly believe that they can overcome difficulties and overcome their potential.
Let them continue to work hard in the practice of Xi, so that they can make themselves stronger and more mature.
At the same time, we need to give proper guidance and instruction to the children, and we need to say to them:
What is overcome, what is invincible, what is bearable, what is unbearable.
Through educating and mentoring children, we enable them to develop a better understanding of themselves and the world, and enable them to grow into stronger people.
In this process, we should give children more help and encouragement, so that they understand that as long as they are willing to work hard and have perseverance, they can overcome all obstacles and achieve their goals.
Conclusion: Every child is unique and has its own unique strengths.
Parents should teach children according to their aptitude, and provide appropriate guidance and teaching to children, so that children can develop healthily and happily in their growth.
In the same way, we should also let him explore, to try, to make mistakes, to grow.
Only in this way can we be a responsible and responsible person, and our future life will be more stable.
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