Many people think that it makes sense to quit their jobs in order to get better development.
Otherwise, if you leave your old job, it will be a problem to even support yourself. Maybe even after a toss, you will find that the mix is not as good as before, then the resignation becomes meaningless, and how can you talk about development?
Once, I thought so, too.
However, after two years of seclusion, I realized that life does not have to be constantly fighting monsters and upgrading.
I prefer to think of life as an experience, a practice.
When I stopped pursuing success in the worldly sense, the results didn't matter to me anymore. I am more concerned with exploring the unknown experience and allowing myself to gain inner self-consistency in the process.
Because of self-consistency, true freedom can be obtained.
In the past, when I was working in a high-rise building, I didn't know what I really wanted, and I just toiled around to make a living. However, complex relationships in the workplace are inherently draining. This kind of persistence is not a long-term solution for highly sensitive people.
It's not that I don't love my job, it's just that it's hard to fit in. Every time I have a team building dinner, I don't drink a drop of wine, I don't say anything to compliment the leader, and I hate to do everything I do, as if I do some superficial work to show others, I will appear to be very accomplished.
Repeatedly pulling in this complex interpersonal communication can only exhaust one's enthusiasm for work little by little.
Later, I chose the idyllic life I liked, and I also cut off social interactions, and there were almost no people and things to consume, which also meant that I had more possibilities for choice.
I also decided to start from scratch and learn the skills I loved. This kind of learning is just out of pure enjoyment, and it is more motivating to learn.
Making money is not my ultimate goal. Cultivating oneself is what it is.
At the beginning, I bravely chose to resign and live the idyllic life I longed for, but it also meant paying a corresponding price.
During these two years of seclusion, I was almost completely immersed in what I loved. Reading, writing, learning English, doing crafts, etc. I love the experience of flow, but I also feel so focused that I don't feel the time passing. Often they want to do more and feel like they don't have enough time.
Day after day, time passed. Life is filled with one's own love.
However, there is a harsh reality that you also need to face. If you want to survive, love alone is not enough.
For the past two years, my income and expenses have been in balance. Except for the initial expenditure on renovating the house, there was almost no big expenditure in the follow-up, and there was not much use of savings.
In other words, from this state of equilibrium, I can barely support myself and allow myself to continue to survive on the road of exploring the unknown. However, the corresponding price is not being able to spend as much as you want.
However, I have weighed this matter carefully.
The life you choose, whether good or bad, is nothing more than learning to be self-consistent. It's a lifelong practice.
For one thing, I spend my time every day on the things I love, and a lot of consumption is no longer necessary.
If you don't go out, you hardly need to use makeup, and you can't wear more clothes. The half-renovated house is no longer installed, and even if it is installed, it is empty.
At present, the most consumed are pens and paper. Now that I've switched to an old-fashioned fountain pen, a pen and a bottle of ink will last for years. The necessary records were written down in the notebook, and the notebook for recording was changed to loose-leaf paper, and the inner core could be replaced after writing. Use A4 paper for unnecessary records, such as memorizing words, which will not waste paper, and it is much easier to learn, so to speak, except for necessary expenses, there is very little extra consumption.
Rather than spending indiscriminately to bring short-term satisfaction to myself, I get more pleasure and satisfaction from being able to focus on my passion.
Second, you don't have to rush to make a living, but you can get what you really want.
I thought about making a living from the beginning, and I tried to do something to make a living. Of course, this is just to leave yourself a way out as soon as possible.
However, the price of making a living is to sacrifice some of your own needs just to survive.
If you have the ability to survive, you don't have to rush to make a living. Because, there is still a long way to go, and money will never be earned.
Just like some people, their fortunes can only get better in middle and late age. Therefore, there is no need to limit yourself by age.
Give yourself a little more time and focus on the process of precipitating yourself, and the time will come sooner or later.
Third, find a path that suits you in self-consistency.
No matter how others define something, the most important thing is whether you can accept it calmly and get a happy experience from it. This is my understanding of self-consistency.
Just like writing, many people write for the purpose of monetization, and there are a few people who generate electricity for love like me.
In fact, it doesn't matter how others define it. The important thing is that you can get inner pleasure and happiness from writing.
This is the path I want to take, even if it is not worth choosing in the eyes of others, or even completely undesirable. I am also willing to go on without hesitation.
To quote a sentence from Mr. Zhou Guoping:
"Nothing in the world is notMundane,In the end, we must return to the ordinary, and we must use ordinary life to measure its value. Greatness, wonderful, and success are nothing, only to live an ordinary life really wellLifeis the consummation. ”
The self-consistency of adults is nothing more than reconciliation with oneself. Recognize the reality, but still love it.
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I'm Yi Feiyu, a freelance writer who retreats to the countryside. Copywriter who has been drifting north for ten years. Focus on self-growth and accompany you to meet a better self.