When love is no longer fresh, when the world of two people begins to bleak, we often ignore the subtle signs of emotional change. And a woman's heart, like the wind by the sea, is gentle and elusive. Their delicate capture of feelings often inadvertently reveals the fading of love. Love, this war without gunpowder, is always the one who is most unwilling to let go.
In a quiet town, there lives a woman named Li Jing.
Her love story is ordinary but touching. Li Jing and her husband Zhang Wei have been married for many years, and they used to be a loving couple envied by the neighborhood.
But as time went by, Li Jing found that Zhang Wei's concern became less and less, and his warmth became less and less.
She began to wonder if the marriage was as unbreakable as she had hoped.
1.Unintentional conversations.
Every time he talked, Zhang Wei was always absent-minded. He often responded to Li Jing's words with only one or two words, or nodded perfunctorily. Such an unintentional conversation made her feel that the cold loneliness was eroding the relationship. As Audrey Hepburn once said, "The most important thing is to enjoy your life, to be happy, that's what it's all about." But in this marriage, Li Jing could not find a source of happiness.
2.There is less joy to share.
They will share the happy moments of the past. Whether it's a movie, a good meal, or a trip. But now, Zhang Wei no longer seems interested in Li Jing's life. When she gleefully recounted her daily routine, he simply responded coldly, "Oh, yes? "It's as if the joy we once shared is gone.
3.No longer a confidant.
If a woman doesn't love you anymore, she no longer sees you as the object of confiding. Li Jing began to choose to chat with friends instead of Zhang Wei. She felt that it was becoming more and more difficult to express her thoughts in front of Zhang Wei. Because no matter what she said, he was only perfunctory, and even sometimes impatient.
4.Ignore the details of life.
The little things in life are often the thermometer of love. Li Jing noticed that Zhang Wei no longer remembered her favorite flower as much as she used to, and no longer prepared surprises for anniversaries. These neglected details are the silent confession of love drifting apart.
5.Lack of physical intimacy.
Physical intimacy is an important part of love. And between Zhang Wei and Li Jing, such intimate contact is becoming less and less. From no longer hugging to not even holding hands, such a change made Li Jing feel that the love between them was a candle in the wind.
Li Jing's story is not unique, and it reflects many of the problems that are common in modern relationships. The fading of emotions often stems from the triviality and neglect of life. When one partner begins to feel ignored and marginalized, the relationship is on the verge of danger. And to redeem such love, the only way is to regain that original intention and rekindle the spark of care and understanding.
At the end of the relationship, we will find that some things, if we had noticed earlier, might have ended differently.
And when we are deeply immersed in it, we often need some external revelation to wake up the sleeping heart.
As Haruki Murakami says in Norwegian Wood, "At some point, one needs a moderate amount of sadness and loss in order to re-recognize oneself in order to re-recognize one's own worth." ”
This sentence reminds us that in love, we should not wait until we lose to regret it, but we should always be vigilant about our emotional state and cherish the person in front of us.