Home should be a palace of love, joy and laughter. It is a warm harbor that people depend on for survival and the most important part of life.
But sometimes, home tends to hurt people, and it starts with these three things.
The thousand-mile embankment, destroyed in the ant nest, seems insignificant, but it is the beginning of a family's misfortune, and it must be avoided after realizing it.
First of all, not knowing how to communicate is a taboo in managing a family.
My readers, Xiao Wang and Xiao Li, are a sweet couple.
When they first got married, in the eyes of relatives and friends, they were a model of loving couples. However, as time went on, Xiao Li was busy with his work and was exhausted when he came home every day. However, her husband Xiao Wang was playing games at home, and Xiao Li couldn't even eat a hot meal.
Xiao Li did not tell the other party how he felt, but directly accused Xiao Wang of not knowing how to care about himself and turning a deaf ear to her tiredness and loneliness.
There is a problem with the way we get along. The two people did not calm down, did not communicate well, and did not try to understand the feelings of their loved ones from each other's accusations, so the gap between the feelings is getting wider and wider.
A good relationship is a chat, two people chatting, you can understand the meaning of each other's behavior, and better communicate how life should be coordinated.
Unwilling to communicate, no one is a worm in the other party's stomach, and there is no way to accurately understand the other party's thoughts, so that the misunderstanding continues, and the relationship becomes more and more strained.
Second, if you don't know how to trust, the relationship will become more and more strained.
After my girlfriend and her husband got married, they immediately had the idea of divorce.
I've seen firsthand how easy it is for them to go from falling in love to getting married. I don't understand the feelings exchanged at the end. Why didn't I cherish them, but chose to give up.
My best friend said that the other party restrained himself too tightly and did not allow friends of the opposite sex, even colleagues at work. The husband deleted all the *** of the opposite sex in the social software behind his girlfriend's back, and the relationship between colleagues was very awkward.
At first, my best friend thought that her husband cared about her performance, but after her best friend**, her husband still didn't restrain herself, and sometimes even followed her best friend to see who she met.
This kind of love will not make a girlfriend happy, but it is a kind of distrust.
A person's heart is separated by a stomach, but even so, if two people are willing to trust each other together, they can gain each other's trust and live in harmony. If there is no trust together, only suspicion, which leads to a series of hurtful behaviors, it is tantamount to going the wrong way for a good relationship.
Third, if you don't know how to be responsible, families can become more and more frustrated.
A good family is cohesive, and each member of the family makes corresponding efforts, so that the aura of such a family can go up and get better and better.
But if one of them doesn't know how to be responsible, it drags the family into a hopeless abyss.
Just like Qu Lianjie in "Ode to Joy", his family conditions are very good. As a wealthy second generation, he does all kinds of things as he wants, only knowing how to please himself, but neglecting to protect the interests of the family.
His acquiescence to the family separated his wife and children, and he became a man of marital frustration at a young age.
In this regard, I still did not know how to restrain myself, blindly indulged my desires, lost a lot of money, and led to the hollowing out of all the property in my family.
People who don't know how to take responsibility for their families become a liability.
People who ignore the feelings of their family members and only care about their own personal gains and losses will inevitably be spurned and denied because they are irresponsible.
Sometimes seemingly small things are inconspicuous, but like a chronic poison, they can gradually erode the happiness and stability of the family.