"We Three" is a memoir written by Yang Jiang at the age of 92 about her husband Qian Zhongshu and daughter Qian Yuan, which describes the 63-year life of a family of three.
In the book, Yang Jiang wrote:
"Now we're all separated. The past cannot be left behind, and the dead cannot be pursued; I can't find the rest of them anymore. I can only relive the years we lived together and reunite with them. ”Reading these simple words, I am often moved by the warmth and happiness of their family of three. As we grow older, we gradually understand that a harmonious and happy family is the most precious treasure in our life. And the best appearance of a family is to know how to be interesting, full of fun, and not lose interest.
Know how to have fun, and the days will be more and more beautifulAfter a long time as a family lives, it is inevitable that life will feel dull and boring, and there will often be some unnecessary quarrels and contradictions. But those who really love life and know how to have fun can always find the joy of life in the ordinary and trivial, and live their lives to the fullest. This is the way Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu get along, although life is sparse and ordinary, they never lack the joy of life. When the two first came to Oxford, England to study, they lived in someone else's house, and because they were not used to eating foreign food, they rented a house to cook and eat by themselves. In this way, two kitchen whites who don't know how to cook at all started their own cooking "experiments".
"Once the store delivered lentils, we didn't know the goods, and we peeled them on one side, and the shell was too thick and the beans were too small. I suddenly realized that this is a shell, lentils, we stewed and eaten, very successful. There are also live shrimp. I'm very expert in saying, 'You have to cut off your beard and feet.'" I had just cut a knife and the live shrimp twitched in my hand, and I was so anxious that I threw down the scissors, threw the shrimp, escaped from the kitchen, and walked back again. We continue to invent and experiment, and gradually become civilized from the cooking of primitive people, and enter the stage of civilization. We had fun learning to cook. ”Two scholars who are already quite famous, but they have always maintained their interest in life, taking cooking as an experiment, constantly trying and enjoying it. In their opinion, life is an adventure, and every unknown hides an accident or surprise, which makes ** forget to return. As the book says:
"It's an adventure for us to move, and it's also an adventure to take care of our own food. Eating braised pork is a successful adventure. ”The two are like children picking up shells on the beach, curious about everything, always enthusiastic and looking forward to everything. Even if Qian Zhongshu fell ill later, had asthma, and breathed like whistling, the two were nicknamed "Wuthering Heights". Every ordinary day, every small thing, has a special meaning in their eyes. The trivialities of life are lit up and radiated in these daily pleasures. A well-informed couple can understand and tolerate each other, and their married life will be happy; A happy and long-lasting marriage is often full of warmth and happiness, and the family gets along harmoniously and happily; A family that knows how to have fun will definitely get better and more beautiful and prosperous.
Full of fun and harmonious family relationshipsAfter Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu's daughter Qian Ying was born, the original two-person world became a family of three, and life added more fun. Yang Jiang wrote in the book:
"There are more than three of us, and each of us can become several people. Sometimes, Ah Ying is the biggest, and she will take care of me, like a sister; will accompany me, like a sister; Will take care of me, like a mother. Sometimes, I'm the biggest, Ah Ying and Dad are buddies, my two naughty boys, and Dad is only worthy of being his daughter's younger brother. Sometimes, my dad is the biggest, and Ah Ying and I are both good students.A family of three, each holding a different role and playing a cameo role, is equal and helps each other. When Qian Ying was a child, Qian Zhongshu would paint a grimace on her stomach and a beard on her face. He also likes to stuff all kinds of toys in her bed, mirrors, brushes, pen holders, brushes, brushes, etc., before her daughter goes to bed, and when her daughter finds the toys, he will be very happy. Once, Qian Zhongshu stacked a "castle" and a "monster" on his daughter's bed: he used a large dictionary as the base, put a small four-legged bench on top as the castle wall, and put a pair of leather shoes on the footstool as the top. Use the big schoolbag that Xiao Qian brought home to make a monster, and use the "shoehorn" as a tail. After being caught by his daughter on his prank, Qian Zhongshu pitifully begged Yang Jiang for help: "Ah Ying deceived me!" Ah Ying replied confidently: "Mother! Daddy does bad things! Get it on the spot! Qian Zhongshu shrunk himself to no longer be smaller, closed his eyes tightly and said, "I'm not here!" At this time, Qian Zhongshu was like this in Yang Jiang's eyes:
He couldn't even stand up straight with a smile. I could see the laughing waves rolling in his belly through his belly. ”Every time I read such a scene, I would see the family laughing and playing with each other, and I couldn't help but smile. Children who grow up in this family atmosphere are both playmates and friends with their parents. The best education is to give children a relaxed and free family environment; The best love is to be a child's playmate, learn together, and grow together. A pair of interesting parents will use their own unique education methods to accompany their children to spend a warm and happy childhood; And an interesting child can maintain the innocence and kindness of his heart and reap more gifts from fate. A fun-filled family will not get along with each other, and will be harmonious and beautiful.
If you don't lose your interest, your life will be happyTolstoy said
"Happy families are all alike, and unhappy families have their own misfortunes. ”A happy family often has the same interests and hobbies, moves towards a common goal, trusts each other, and grows together. Yang Jiang's family of three is indifferent by nature, does not value external fame and fortune, and only focuses on doing their own thing. Although he has been low-key and simple all his life, he has lived more comfortably and contently than anyone else. For a while, Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang lived in a cramped room that had been used as a storage room. On both sides of the house are borrowed iron bookshelves for books and materials, two marching beds are placed horizontally on the west side for resting, and a wooden box in the middle serves as a bedside table and wardrobe. The small desk in the office can only hold a stack of manuscripts and a book, and many large dictionaries can only be spread out on the bed. The superior leaders wanted to change the house for the two many times, but they all politely refused. The reason is that it is very close to the library and reference room of the Institute of Literature, so it is convenient to consult materials, and there are many young people from the Institute of Literature and Foreign Languages who take care of them. It was in such a humble room that their family of three was still at peace and did their own thing. Qian Zhongshu continued to write the first draft of "Pipe Cone Edition", Yang Jiang translated the long ** "Don Quixote", and his daughter Qian Ying prepared handouts to teach and educate people. No matter how difficult the situation, they never stop reading and working, because this is where their passion lies. As Yang Jiang said:
"Our home is very simple; There are three of us, very simple. We have no quarrel with the world, no quarrel with others, we just want to get together, stay together, and do what we can. When we are a little bit happy, we will become very happy. ”The world is disturbed, and the more difficult and difficult the situation, the more we must guard our hearts and do our own things. A simple and simple life and a clean and noble soul are the highest state of life. When a family lives together, has similar interests, and is at peace with each other, it is natural that they can be warm and happy with each other.
In the early spring of 1997, Qian Ying died. At the end of 1998, Qian Zhongshu passed away. Of the three, Yang Jiang was left alone. There is no simple happiness in the world, and there is no fairytale ending. In the face of the death of his relatives, Yang Jiang was not knocked down, but took his heart as the pen and love as the ink, and compiled the joys and sorrows, life and death of a family of three for decades into a memoir "We", showing us a model of a happy family. Mr. Yang Jiang said in the book:
"My life is very fulfilling and interesting because of us. It can also be said: None of us have wasted this life, because we are all we. ”Indeed, a family with fun, fun, and aspirations can live a fulfilling life regardless of whether life is bitter or happy, joyful or sorrowful. Light up [Like], for the rest of your life, may you stay with your family, never give up, and go through the long years together. List of high-quality authors