The concept of education in "Know": The three laws of children's growth In the classic drama "Know", every plot and role contains profound truths, which are worth tasting and learning repeatedly. In particular, the educational concept embodied in the play has important implications for us to understand the growth process of children. The child's growth is most influenced by the mother, and this influence often follows some hidden and profound laws. After watching this drama three times, I summed up the following three rules:
Strong mothers produce weak sons Speaking of strong mothers and weak sons, the first thing that comes to our mind is the role of Xiao Qin. Xiao Qin's family was born in the Hou family, wisdom and scheming coexist, and he has both courage and strategy. Even if she is not favored in the Hou Mansion, she can still stand, calculate people's hearts, and stir up the situation. However, such a strong woman gave birth to a son who only knows how to spend time and drink and has no ambitions. For the sake of his son's future, Xiao Qin's family can be described as well-intentioned and far-reaching. But her son did not become a strong man as she wished, and finally ended up tragically. A mother's strength does not necessarily produce an equally strong child.
The Gu family in "Do You Know" has three sons, although they are from different mothers, they are all sons-in-law. According to seniority, the position of marquis seems to have no chance with Xiao Qin's son, Lao San Tingwei. However, for the sake of his son's future, Xiao Qin's family calculated the entire family by any means. Her calculations for the Gu family's eldest lang, and her connivance and betrayal of Erlang were all so that her son could inherit the title. But her efforts were in vain, as her son had no interest in the title and only had fun. This example illustrates the educational dilemma faced by sons-in-law: despite their superior origins and resources, how to cultivate their character and abilities is a difficult problem.
The mother's excessive doting and the child's incompetence Xiao Qin's doting and connivance with his son is undoubtedly an important reason for his son's incompetence. Her approach to her son's education is full of calculations and exploitation, but lacks real love and guidance. This kind of education prevents her son from growing up to be a person with a sense of responsibility and responsibility. Excessive doting by mothers often deprive children of opportunities to grow and make them weak and incompetent.
In the second group of strong mothers and weak sons, there is a delicate mother-son relationship between the prominent lord of Pingning and her cowardly son, the little grandfather. The lord of Pingning, a noble person who grew up in the palace, and the position of the duke of the in-law's family, can be described as powerful. Her husband, grandfather, is also an impeccable good man, and he is very fond of the lord of Pingning. Therefore, the lord of Binh Ninh has indisputable authority in the family.
However, it is her strong character that creates a cowardly little grandfather. Unlike Xiao Qin's son, Xiao Gongye is of good character and eager to learn, but his cowardly personality makes him lack decisiveness and cannot stand up in the face of difficulties. Nowhere is this more evident than when he deals with personal issues. He tried to pursue Minglan but hesitated due to his parents' opposition, which eventually led to the death of his confidant. In the face of the threat of King Yan, he chose to give in and married King Yan's daughter, the county lord of Jiacheng. After the palace change, although he became a widower, he did not choose to marry Minglan immediately, but decided to take the imperial examination. In the end, when he finally passed the exam, Minglan had been married by Gu Tingye.
The little grandfather seemed hesitant at every step and lacked the ability to deal with the problem decisively. The formation of this character largely stems from his mother, the lord of Pingning. She is too strict with her children, gives too little freedom, and often makes decisions for her children, which undoubtedly hinders the opportunity for the little grandfather to grow up independently.
The strength of the county lord of Pingning contrasts sharply with the cowardice of the little grandfather, and at the same time reveals a profound educational truth: excessive protection and intervention may hinder the growth of children, so that they lack the courage and wisdom to deal with difficulties.
There is no mother out of the "king fried.""The typical representatives are undoubtedly Gu Tingye and Minglan . Gu Tingye lost his mother at a young age, and living in the complex environment of the Houmen Mansion is like surviving in the tiger's den in Longtan. His family relationships are complicated, and everyone has evil intentions. To make matters worse, his mother's maiden family coveted his property all the time, and even killed him several times. Losing the protection of his mother and the support of his father, Gu Tingye seemed to be trying to survive in the cracks. In this case, he had to seek ways to protect himself. Unlike other lords, his methods are more assertive and adventurous. In the end, he solved the Bai family's problems with his own strength and ensured the safety of his property. His military exploits made him rise to prominence and made the entire Gu family fearful. And his marriage to Minglan was the icing on the cake, and they gave birth to a son together, adding more happiness to his life.
February**Dynamic Incentive Plan Minglan also lost her mother when she was young, but fortunately grew up under the protection of an old lady. If it weren't for the old lady's careful care and protection, her life in Sheng Mansion would have been extremely difficult. Despite the support of the old lady, she still lived a cautious, step-by-step life. In order to protect herself, she had to make herself more mature and adaptable. She quietly used the power of the eldest lady to bring down Lin Yushuang to avenge her mother, which fully demonstrated her ingenuity and determination. Not only that, but she also has a clear concept of mate selection, which is unmatched by other women. Even if she marries into the crisis-ridden Gu family, she is still able to calmly cope with various challenges and live with ease. Her intelligence and ability make her one of the happiest women in the whole play, not only with a noble status but also with sincere love. These vivid examples tell us an important truth: in the parent-child relationship, we can't do everything for the child and raise him to be a flower in the greenhouse. Only children who have experienced the wind and rain can truly thrive and grow into towering trees.