Controversy Project
In real life, although no parent will subjectively deliberately restrict their children's minds and tie their children's hands and feet, they will objectively impose restrictions on their children from time to time to affect their children's healthy growth, which is common. Moreover, when parents restrain their children, they often do not know it at all, and even if they find out a little, they will take it for granted and take it for granted. It's probably because we have too much in our bones"Traditional education", which works subconsciously, may be because we are facing too strong competition for jobs, and we are helpless for the sake of our children. But in any case, it is not alarmist that we should not restrain our children and affect their normal development.
Try to look at our school education, primary school students should sit up straight in class, with their hands behind their backs, and learn multiplication to memorize formulas; In contrast, many foreign children are much more relaxed in the classroom, not only do they not have to sit rigidly and listen to the teaching, but they also do not have to memorize mantras, and they learn mathematical principles. That's what makes us different, and it's probably an important reason why we have to be so motivated by Nobel laureates. Looking at our family education, there are too many problems in our parents that bind our children, and we are not very used to telling our children"That's going to be it"with"Don't be like that"Is it? What is it? Isn't it a demarcation line and a grid for children? We are also accustomed to thinking about our children, before children go to school, we will always remind children to wear red scarves, school emblems, to pack books, pay attention to lectures, to complete homework seriously, etc., as if children leave our advice to achieve nothing, who knows, the more we worry about children, the more they let us suffer. We are also more accustomed to doing our best for our children, children's food, clothing, housing and transportation, parents have to do everything for them, for fear that their children will be wronged. Isn't it common for parents to spend money to get married and start a family, and to improve their lives to be sponsored by their parents?
Have we thought deeply about this? Is it necessary for us to work so hard? Are we really shackling children and affecting their potential? In fact, when we educate and nurture our children, we always manage too strictly, and when children practice walking, we always remind them in advance, walk slowly, be careful of falling, so why not let them really fall? This is the habit of our education, this is our mindset. I remember that there was a psychologist named Thorndike in the United States, who once proposed one"Trial and error"The theory may not be all right, but it is very enlightening and meaningful for us. He believes that the human learning process is an iterative one"Trying and making mistakes"It is a long-term exploratory process of understanding. Why should we artificially let our children refuse"Try"with"Explore"This? Why we give our children the knowledge must be"Success"What about experience? We all know that the world-famous inventor Edison invented the electric light, but do we know that he tried more than 6,000 fiber materials in order to extend the life of the filament? If you don't try, you lose exploration, you will turn away success, but if it's too early"Help"Child、Too much"Bondage"Didn't they let their children lose the opportunity to try, lose the space for exploration, and stay away from the other side of success?
Do we want our children to be a step-by-step person in the future, or do we expect them to be creative? The answer is self-evident. But at present, our education is too rigid, traditional and dogmatic, so that children are under the control of remote controls"Robots"It is inevitable to be good at prescribed actions, and not accustomed to self-selected actions. The author once read a story of "Best Solution", which is very intriguing. One of Japan's largest cosmetics companies received a complaint that a box of soap bought by a customer was empty. So the company's engineers went to great lengths to design an X-ray device with a high-resolution monitor, using two people to monitor the soap boxes as they passed through the production line to ensure that there were no empty boxes. Another small cosmetics company had the same problem, but a rank-and-file employee came up with another way to buy a high-powered industrial fan and place it next to the production line to blow the empty soap box away.
The reason why I tell this story is to inspire our parents' thinking and change our thinking, so that we can overcome the behaviors that bind our children and give them a relaxed growth"environment"。It is true that between the efforts of engineers and the ingenuity of employees in small companies, it is not difficult to appreciate the importance of unfettered creation. But this kind of creation without fetters**, presumably children who have been bound into the frame by us since childhood will not give birth to this kind of creation! Therefore, we must let children have more space for imagination, more opportunities for hands-on, and more conditions for creation from an early age.
From this, I am reminded of Tao Xingzhi, a great people's educator in my country, who once proposed"Life is education"The idea of advocating for the child"Six liberations"。that is, to free the minds of children so that they can think; freeing children's hands and enabling them to do their jobs; free children's eyes so that they can see; free children's mouths so that they can talk; Liberate children's space and don't lock them up in their homes; Free up children's time and don't fill their schedules with schoolwork. Compare with Tao Xingzhi"Six liberations"In the process of educating and nurturing children, we have done a few"Liberation"This? Whether you have restricted the child's growth space, whether you have restrained the child's behavior, and whether it is necessary to do it again with the child"Liberation"What about activities? This is indeed worth pondering for our parents!