In the whole play, Lao Ou's encounter is the most heart-wrenching.
He is such a conceited person, and he even feels ashamed to become a family member with someone like Jiang Defu.
Both he and An Jie expressed dissatisfaction with Jiang Defu's cultural level, and he described: "The people we met in our family before were all smiling scholars, but there was no white ding in our interactions, what kind of era is this." ”
It was because of his outspokenness and inherent arrogance that he was labeled as a rightist and struggled to survive at the bottom of society. He is a small man who has been abandoned by the times. In his heart, it was a dark time when dignity was trampled on.
Antai's cautious personality is similar to that of Jiang Defu's brother-in-law, which is why he was able to live a stable, peaceful, and smooth life during that turbulent period.
Lao Ou's unfortunate experience can be said to be self-reliant, but when I saw his academic qualifications and engineering mechanics major at Tsinghua University, I suddenly understood how his pride came about.
At that time, Lao Ou was undoubtedly a rare talent, but he did not fully display his potential value. At that time, he did not have the opportunity to be exposed to new things, nor did he have enough time to think about life and society. The education he once received became a burden to him, and this was the greatest punishment for him.
However, he has a contemptuous attitude towards many people, but his life is not satisfactory compared to those people.
First of all, he has a contemptuous attitude towards Jiang Defu.
Jiang Defu is essentially a person with a rough cultural background, he came out of the distant countryside, and he does not belong to the same social circle as them.
It was because of my marriage to An Jie that I established a relationship with Lao Ou. However, these two people were often dissatisfied with him, Lao Ou was laughing at him openly and secretly, and Jiang Defu also deliberately called his name wrong.
He was not optimistic about Jiang Defu's lack of education, especially the fact that Jiang Defu was still in a high position although he was not educated. His own environment, in particular, made it even more difficult for him to find a balance.
Why doesn't an outstanding student who graduated from Tsinghua University get the attention he deserves? And Jiang Defu, an illiterate man who has no formal education and can't even understand a single big character, has attracted more attention from society than him.
His opinion of Jiang Defu became more and more contemptuous, because he did not understand this and it became more difficult to convince himself. "How can you look at me like that? In the original book, he even mentioned Jiang Defu and said: "Writing typos in the process of reviewing documents, and speaking in the vernacular when making reports, this position is the best." ”
However, as the storyline gradually unfolded, Jiang Defu gave him the necessary support. He also gradually realized that he turned out to be a kind child. This view is gradually changing, and he is beginning to realize the kindness and beauty of Jiang Defu's character.
When he was banished to that island, no one wanted to have any contact with him, and even Anjie avoided him. He felt like a very poor kid and he didn't want anyone to know about his existence. Only Jiang Defu didn't mind him, and even criticized An Jie for not being mature enough.
After the two daughters grew up, Jiang Defu took the initiative to look for job opportunities for them. In the eyes of his daughters, he was a very good person. Because he understood Lao Ou's conceit, he chose to take the initiative so as not to embarrass himself.
His dislike of Jiang Defu gradually changed, although Jiang Defu was not the person he liked the most, his character was sincere.
The second point is to have a contemptuous attitude towards Aetna.
Antai behaved very cautiously in front of Jiang Defu, although he was Jiang Defu's eldest brother-in-law, he was more like Jiang Defu's brother-in-law or subordinate.
When having dinner at Antai's house, he was too focused on inviting Jiang Defu and playing chess with Jiang Defu, but ignored Lao Ou, who also needed to be invited. In desperation, Lao Ou had to play with An Jie's nephew.
Even Lao Ding, who drank with Antai, was dissatisfied with Antai's obedience and obedience. He said that he was a very fond drinker, and he loved to drink too, but every time he drank too much, he felt a little drunk. But what should he do? If he doesn't act, he could suffer the same fate as Lao Ou.
It is for this reason that Jiang Defu has always felt a sense of distance from Antai. He doesn't like to greet people. Although he and Jiang Defu are related, they do not get along with each other as closely as real relatives, and he never even uses the name Jiang Defu.
In those days, Antey followed the principle of life to protect oneself wisely. Since he was born into a capitalist family, he acted very cautiously and did not dare to make any mistakes.
An Xin and Lao Ou chose the island as their new home, but An Tai never went there in person and did not fulfill his duties as the eldest brother, which made Jiang Defu and An Jie very dissatisfied.
However, Antai is actually a rather sane person, and he is different from Jiang Defu. He did not help others for personal interests, but out of concern and love for the country, for the sake of the country, so he embodied the spirit of patriotism. He was born into a capitalist family, and in that context, his visit to Lao Ou might have made Lao Ou's crime even more serious.
Therefore, Lao Ou was able to understand what he was doing and did not blame him too much. He was a kind and upright person, and in his opinion, people should have their own dignity and independent personality, and should not be hurt and oppressed by others. When he returned to Qingdao, the two families continued to live in harmony without any discord.
Antai's ability is limited, and being able to do it without increasing the burden is already Antai's limit, so Lao Ou's complaints about Antai are not so deep.
Third, Antai's spouse is also Lao Ou's sister-in-law. What really disgusted Lao Ou was the role of the hostess of the An family.
This woman is responsible for managing the affairs of the An family, and An Jie needs her permission if she wants to ask her grandmother to assist in his house. She is a gentle and kind woman who takes care of the lives of her children. Of course, she is also a very hardworking person.
Whenever the family is reunited at home, she is always busy. Because, she wants to decorate her home as warm and beautiful. But even so, Lao Ou's love for her is not sincere.
When An Jie and Jiang Defu went on a blind date, once she learned about Jiang Defu's social status and identity, she couldn't wait to promote the two to become a couple.
But when she learned that Jiang Defu planned to return home to farm, her attitude quickly changed. Although it is out of consideration for An Jie, in the eyes of scholars like Lao Ou, this is nothing more than an influence.
As the hostess of An Jia, her behavior and attitude have largely shaped Antai's views and behaviors. However, she always considers letting An Jie marry Jiang Defu out of personal interests, which is also a huge benefit for her.
She said that in the process of buying ingredients, people no longer need to judge by their expressions, and even her children are arranged by Jiang Defu. Her daughter was admitted to university because of this spirit. Still, she's one set on the outside, but another behind the scenes.
Every time I see Jiang Defu, they will praise him, but when the family behind him eats, they will complain that Jiang Defu always chatters when he eats, which has a bad impact on his son.
Her actions and decisions are largely influenced by her personal background. In the original, her father is a bully landowner, and although he ensures that she has a carefree life since she was a child, she does not provide enough education for her children due to her lack of education.
Considering Lao Ou's educational background, he obviously did not favor the daughters raised by the bully landlords, because they were selfish, self-interested, and had strong influence.
Lao Ou's life experience reflects the life portrayal of many people in that era.
He pursued his worth passionately, but because he was too conceited to notice anyone, he was instead suppressed.
After a series of education and baptism, I rediscovered myself, and although I lost my previous sharpness, I still maintained my attitude towards life, but I learned to hide.
Compared with real life, Lao Ou can be said to be quite lucky, and in the end he also ushered in a pretty good ending.
Many cultured people have the problem of arrogance, but when a person stands in a higher position, he should respect himself more, otherwise he may only follow that old adage:
Standing on a high place is easy to fall hard, but when happiness reaches its extreme, it often triggers sadness.