As the saying goes: I hope that my son will become a dragon, and I hope that my daughter will become a phoenix. ”
No matter which parent you are, you want your children to thrive and have a great future in the future.
There is nothing wrong with this, this is the inevitable inheritance of the family, and it is also a result of human progress, when parents see that their children can be productive and effective, they can also feel the value of parenting.
It's just that the success of children is not an inevitability, but with too much uncertainty.
The final result is the final convergence of many efforts, never about the success of the effort, but through the parents' own words and deeds, to shape the child in the right direction little by little.
As a parent, you must understand that you are not responsible for everything, because the more you worry about it, the more you will fail.
In my opinion, the role of parents is to guide the way, not to nanny, and the correct guidance lies in not only their own demonstration, but also to know how to let go.
Note that letting go here is not about letting go, but about knowing that there are some things that you need to know and leave alone, which is the best kind treatment for your children.
The greatest success of parents is to ignore their children in these two things, and the more they don't care, the more productive they are
There is a saying: There are many roads in life that need to be walked by oneself, and no one can replace them. ”
In fact, this sentence is more appropriate for the growth of children.
The more parents who want their children to grow up to be promising, the more they understand that it is not necessary to bow to love in everything, but to divide the situation and things, and even if some things are very easy for themselves, they cannot take the initiative to reach out to help their children.
This is the setback they need to experience on the road of self-growth, and they must not bear it for them, this is not a kind of indifference and irresponsibility, it is precisely the most correct love from the heart.
To put it cruelly, parents will not accompany their children for a lifetime, but only accompany them through the journey of life.
And my most important task in this journey is to do a good job of my role as a guide, not to be uneasy when children face setbacks, but to let them experience it themselves.
After all, many things can never catch up with the child's personal experience through his own preaching, so that he understands the pain and sorrow, which is not a bad thing, but more likely to help his own growth.
There are many children who grow up to be fearless, never care about other people's feelings, and think that everything is up to them.
Behind this is precisely that he never experienced setbacks when he was a child, and always grew up in a smooth environment, and slowly developed a self-respecting character, making his life more and more unsmooth.
On the contrary, children who can experience setbacks on the road to growth early will have a strong ability to resist pressure when they grow up, and it is easier to face the ups and downs on the road of life, which is also more conducive to their own success.
Therefore, it should be the frustration that the children themselves need to experience, as parents, they must not overstep their control, but guide, remind, and control the bottom line.
I believe that too many parents have experienced such a scene:
My children like to play basketball today, play guitar tomorrow, and play Go ...... a few days later
It seems that for a period of time, they have never had a fixed hobby, so they want to choose one for him, and then focus on working hard.
This approach is actually a step up to the table, not only will not make the child settle down, but will also make the child bored.
It is a good thing that children are interested in hobbies, which can not only cultivate their sentiments, but also slowly become their own specialty, and when they grow up, they will be based on a field and really make a difference.
However, when it comes to exploring children's self-related interests, parents must not worry about it, because it will not be of much benefit.
The most correct way is to guide children to try more, so that they can discover the beauty of some hobbies and hobbies, and it is the best way to really choose by themselves.
Even if he chooses a little slowly in the end, or if he likes several hobbies, don't scold, but encourage him more, so that his parents can feel respect for him.
In the long run, when you choose a hobby, you can concentrate more on it, which will help you grow greatly.
Some smart parents just expand their children's horizons and take them to see the world in all its forms, instead of making easy decisions for them, and let them know how to make their own choices in the experience.
This benefit can not only exercise children's self-choice ability on the road to growth, but also allow them to invest more time and energy in their self-selected interests and hobbies, and truly achieve themselves.
Parents are the first teachers of their children's life, but they never help their children do everything, so that they become flowers in the greenhouse, and there is no way to withstand the ups and downs.
The real meaning of education is to guide and walk with them, not to make decisions for their lives.
In this case, you can have more care for your children's growth, but you must not interfere too much with the setbacks they need to experience and the exploration of their own interests, but respect and understand more.
Because only by letting them dare to go out and exercise their ability to resist setbacks and choices from an early age, can they really not panic when they grow up and live as they hope.
The best love of parents for their children is to let them slowly bid farewell to immaturity on the road of growth, so that they can have their own wonderful life, a lifetime of happiness, health, peace and happiness!
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