In my hometown, there is such a family. The old couple demolished and got four big houses, all of which were given to their son without hesitation. However, the responsibility of providing for the elderly falls on the shoulders of the daughter. This daughter is filial and sensible, and without saying a word, she agreed to take care of her parents. Her husband, a loyal and honest man, also silently accepted the arrangement.
February**Dynamic Incentive Plan For the first two or three years, everything was okay. The old couple is still young and can take care of themselves. My daughter often brings some daily necessities such as rice, flour and oil, and buys them new clothes during the New Year's holidays. Although the son-in-law is not close to his parents-in-law, he has not explicitly objected.
However, as time passed, the physical condition of the old couple gradually deteriorated. They need to take medicine, be hospitalized to see a doctor, and the monthly medical expenses will be five or six hundred, and they will also face the cost of hospitalization from time to time. At this moment, the son-in-law began to feel dissatisfied. He and his wife are ordinary workers, his wife earns more than 3,000 per month, and he earns 7,000, all of which are hard-earned hard-earned money. Not only do they have to save money for their children's future, but they also have to pay off the mortgage, and their sons-in-law have their own parents to support.
Family conflicts gradually intensified, and the daughter and son-in-law began to quarrel frequently. The daughter insists that it is her duty and obligation to be filial to her parents, and she is willing to give no matter how much she gives. The son-in-law felt that his financial pressure was too great to bear the extra burden. Eventually, the son-in-law decided to manage his salary separately and no longer leave the money at his wife's disposal.
A few months later, the old man's physical condition deteriorated again, and he was found to have a mild cerebral infarction and other diseases. He needed to be hospitalized** and undergo dredging surgery (hanging water), which cost more than 10,000 yuan. Although the daughter was financially constrained, she managed to scrape together the money and sent her father to the hospital. However, the more than 5,000 yuan reimbursed was left in his own hands by the old man and finally spent on his grandson.
The old lady also suffers from diabetes and needs to be hospitalized from time to time**. The daughter took leave to accompany her mother to take care of her, but was eventually fired from the unit because of frequent leave. After losing her job, her daughter's financial situation became even more embarrassing, and she couldn't help but complain to her son-in-law. However, this caused the son-in-law to be alert and dissatisfied. He asked to check the family's savings, but his daughter panicked! It turned out that in the past few years, in order to buy medicine, see a doctor and buy various daily necessities for their parents, their savings have been spent ......
After learning the truth, the son-in-law completely broke out. He filed for divorce after a big fight with his wife. And the daughter's parents not only did not have the intention of persuading peace, but instead urged their daughter to divorce and find a better home. Eventually, the marriage came to an end. The RV and other property were purchased by the man, and even the children were awarded to the man. In order to end this painful marriage as soon as possible, the man paid the woman tens of thousands of yuan as compensation. In this way, the woman left the family with a heart full of pain and helplessness......
After a series of family disputes, the daughter reluctantly rented a residence for the old couple. However, their son used various excuses to refuse to provide shelter and financial support for his parents, even though he owns four spacious three-bedroom, two-bedroom houses with a market value that can bring in thousands of yuan in rental income every month.
In 2022, the old man's dental problems are getting worse, and he needs to extract teeth and install dentures, which costs thousands of yuan. Faced with this need, the daughter could no longer afford it and suggested that they seek help from their son. However, the old couple turned to accuse their daughter of being unfilial and turned a blind eye to her efforts.
The daughter who was deeply disappointed and helpless chose to leave and no longer lived with the old couple. Therefore, the old couple complained to the neighborhood committee, claiming that their daughter was unfilial and hoped that the neighborhood committee would intervene to deal with it. This move made the neighborhood committee feel ridiculous.
After many attempts, they found their son again. However, the son has long been accustomed to the responsibility of taking care of his parents by his sister, and for him, the needs of his parents seem to be irrelevant to him. He was not even willing to rent a house for his parents or vacate a house for them to live in.
With the intervention of the village committee, the son of the demolition household reluctantly rented a one-bedroom hut for his father. Although he drives a BMW and earns more than 10,000 yuan a month, he is unwilling to pay a penny for his parents' medical and living expenses. Fortunately, the village committee distributes rice, flour, oil and other daily necessities to the relocated households every year, so that the old couple can barely make ends meet. In order to buy some food to eat, they had to pick up waste every day for money.
After some time, the daughter returned to her parents. She reconciled with her former husband and decided to give her parents five hundred dollars a month, but she made it clear that she did not want to see them again. The old couple has come to the door several times, hoping that their daughter can continue to take on the responsibility of support. However, the daughter warned them that if she was harassed again, she would run away from home, so that no one could find her, and not even the five hundred dollars would be given.
Today, the old couple can only tremble and struggle to pick up waste in the community to make a living. When you are sick, you don't have the money to see a doctor, and you can't afford to buy new ones when your clothes are torn. Their lives are full of hardships and helplessness. While their plight is sympathetic, many also believe that it was all the result of their own choices.
In my village, the demolition policy of a decade ago was generally to give sons a bigger house and a daughter to a smaller house. Parents usually live in one for themselves and divide it equally after their death. This was quite common at the time, and my mere statement of the facts does not mean that I agree with the reasonableness of this approach.
Usually, in such a family structure, the responsibility of providing for the elderly is often borne by the daughter, and although the distribution is unfair, it does not cause too many family disputes.
However, with the last demolition of the village, the distribution has changed. Nowadays, it is more inclined to divide it evenly, or simply register all the property in the name of the elderly, and then inherit it by the children who are responsible for providing for the elderly.
Families who give all their possessions to their sons often don't end well.