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For the elderly, raising children to prevent old age is for the sake of their old age. However, after the second and third children were opened one after another, many people's minds have quietly changed.
In families with daughters or boys, when couples are considering having a second child, many people invariably want to have another child and make up a "good" word.
The son can provide for himself in his parents' old age, but the daughter can be filial to her parents when she is young, and the daughter is the mother's intimate little padded jacket, therefore, the husband and wife of the family with both children will be envied by the fellow villagers, and feel that they are blessed people.
However, the "children and daughters" are becoming more and more unfavored, the reality is not as beautiful as people imagine, but a little cruel, the old people found that the "double daughter" family began to be popular, in old age, the most comfortable life, in fact, the "double girl" family of the elderly.
Aunt Huang's family has children and should have been happy in her old age, but she didn't expect her life to be unsatisfactory in her later years.
Aunt Huang and her husband are ordinary workers, and after retirement, they only receive a meager pension, and their son wants to marry a daughter-in-law.
Aunt Huang thought that her son had married and could finally come to the bitter end, but she didn't expect that the hard days were still to come.
The son married a daughter-in-law from the city, who was squeamish and the only daughter in the family. Since the daughter-in-law was pregnant to the birth of the child, the mother-in-law was taking care of her, Aunt Huang wanted to take care of her daughter-in-law, and by the way, she looked at her grandson, but she was also repeatedly rejected, and she could only occasionally look at her lovely grandson when she was with her son's **.
The daughter-in-law was reluctant to kiss her mother, and Aunt Huang was helpless, and she could only understand. She thought that her son would definitely bring his grandson home during the Chinese New Year. What I didn't expect was that every Chinese New Year, my son always had something to do, and he couldn't take his wife and daughter home for the New Year.
The son has a good relationship with his mother-in-law, and Aunt Huang is happy to see it, but because the son takes into account the feelings of his mother-in-law and wife, he often ignores the needs of his mother-in-law, which makes her feel uncomfortable.
It is said that a son-in-law is equivalent to half a son, and he obviously has a son, but it is others who are filial, which makes her sad. On the contrary, her daughter married into a neighboring village and often came to take care of the old couple, and even when she and her husband were sick and hospitalized, her daughter was busy taking care of her, so it seems that the son is not as reliable and filial as the daughter around her.
Aunt Huang's neighbor gave birth to 2 daughters, the two daughters are married closely, have decent jobs, stable income, and the son-in-law also respects the elderly.
When the old man is hospitalized, the son-in-law will follow his daughter and take care of the elderly together, which is really enviable! Aunt Huang sighed with her neighbors, "I used to think that both children were good, but I didn't expect to have two daughters and live a happier life in my old age!" ”
"Two-woman" families are more popular, and the parents may become winners in their later years
1.It's easier to raise a daughter
The boy is naughty, no wonder many mothers will say bluntly, no matter what three days, the baby dares to go to the house to reveal the tiles, the boy is lively and active, likes outdoor activities, and of course can't avoid trouble. As a parent, it is really a headache to face a mischievous son.
However, the daughter is different, the girl is delicate, quiet and sensible, well-behaved when she was a child, and when she grows up, she is her mother's intimate little padded jacket.
are all women, daughters can better understand their mother's hard work, not only will take the initiative to take on housework, but also do not have to worry about their mothers in their studies, even after getting married and having children, daughters will continue to be filial to their mothers.
Girls are delicate, empathetic, not as careless as boys, girls are more likely to perceive the changes in their parents' emotions, and will take the initiative to make their parents happy.
2.There is little economic pressure
It is said that "the daughter is China Merchants Bank, and the son is China Construction Bank", the biggest difference between daughters and sons is that when their children grow up, the expenses for marriage are different.
If there is a daughter in the family, the parents only need to prepare the dowry.
However, if there is a son in the family, the parents must not only prepare the bride price, but also the house and car, which is a considerable expense.
Families with daughters have relatively less financial pressure, and families with boys have more financial pressure.
Especially after the son got married, many people became the "gnawing old family", the old man not only has to help take care of the child, but also subsidize the life of the son's family, even so, the old man who pays everything may not be able to get the kindness of his son and daughter-in-law, and even accuse the old man of giving too little.
In a family with a daughter, after the daughter gets married, the parents do not need to support the daughter financially, nor do they have to worry that the daughter will gnaw at the old age, but the life is more comfortable than that of a family with "both children and daughters".
3.Avoid conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
Many people have a deep understanding that the contradiction between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law is the most difficult to reconcile, especially after the child is born, because of the difference in parenting concepts, the contradiction between the two will be intensified.
has a son at home, and the most worrying thing for her mother-in-law is getting along with her daughter-in-law. However, if there is a daughter in the family, but the parents do not have such worries, after the daughter gets married, the parents will be relaxed and will not have to deal with the daughter-in-law, and the conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law will be avoided.
As for the son-in-law, because he does not live under the same roof and meets less often, the mother-in-law can coexist peacefully with the son-in-law, and there will be no conflicts.
Not only that, because after her daughter got married, she spent a short time with her parents, and every time she met, her daughter would do her best to take care of the elderly.
4.Without the burden of bringing a baby, life is easier in old age
If there are 2 sons, parents may spend most of their later years on the road with their babies, and the quality of life in their later years will be greatly reduced.
Parents work hard for their children in the first half of their lives, and revolve around their grandchildren in the second half of their lives, and most of their lives are dedicated to their children and descendants.
However, parents of "two-daughter" families do not have to "bring a baby", after all, "bringing a baby" is something that grandmothers need to consider.
In their later years, they can choose the life they want, travel with their husbands, square dance with friends, or cultivate their hobbies, and live a comfortable and fulfilling life.
On the contrary, the combination advantage of a "two-woman household" family is greater than that of a family with "both children", and the parents' life will be happier in their later years.
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