The people of the Chinese nation have always been known for their perseverance, and both Confucian Confucius and Taoist Lao Tzu have emphasized the importance of patience. For example, "if you can't bear it, you will make a big plan". There are many forbearant and successful figures in history. For example, the well-known Han Xin was humiliated by his crotch but was not angry; Zhang Liangneng deigned to advance; Goujian, the king of Yue, can give the king of Wu to lie on the ground as a horse stone, raise a horse for the king of Wu to live on the side of the stable, and can taste the dung of the king of Wu to show ......his loyalty
Lao Tzu said in his "Tao Te Ching": "The song is complete, the vain is correct, the depression is profitable, and the open is ......new."The meaning is that only by being wronged can we preserve, only by wrongdoing can we correct our grievances, only by being low can we (savings) be full, and only by being old can we bring forth the new. This is the same as "Zhou Yi"'s "inchworm's bending, in order to stretch also: the sting of the dragon and snake, in order to survive." There are similarities. What is expounded is the philosophy of enduring humiliation and waiting for the opportunity.
A "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", some people say that Liu Bei's rivers and mountains are crying, and Li Zongwu calls it thick and black. In fact, Liu Bei's patience is the cornerstone of his success. You see that he relied on Yuan Shao, relied on Cao Brown, Liu Biao, sent people under the fence, swallowed his anger, and made a plan to do Tao obscure, and then looked at the thatched house three times, invited Zhuge Liang, and since then he has created a new situation of competing for the world and making three points.
If you look at Sima Yi's patience and kung fu, it can really be described as perfect. The Shu army cursed all day long, kicking its golden helmet on the ground; Zhuge Liang sent a messenger to send women's clothes, not only did he not get angry or angry, but smiled and put on a joke, so that Zhuge Liang, who was invincible in a generation of magic and cunning, had no way to take him. As a result, the Three Kingdoms finally returned to Jin, and the Sima clan unified the world.
"Man is weak in life, but strong in death. The life of all plants and trees is also soft and brittle, and its death is alsoDryTherefore, it is said: the strong are also the dead; Weak and subtle, the living disciples are also invincible if the soldiers are strong, and the wood is strong, and the strong are at the bottom, and the weak and subtle are at the top. "The gist of it is that a person is weak when he is alive, and his body is eventually straight and stiff after death, and all things and plants are soft and fragile when they are alive, and withered and dry after death. It can be said that the strong things belong to the category of death, and the weak and subtle things belong to the category of survival. Therefore, if the army is strong, it will not win, the tree will die if it is strong, the strong will be in a declining position, and the weak and subtle will be in an ascending position.
Dale Carnegie once said that expression is often more important than content. Throughout history and modern times, regardless of military negotiations; business negotiations; daily communication; Leaders' speeches and so on, can understand the truth. Often the result is unhappiness or failure, not because of what is said, but in what way, what tone, what words are said. In other words, sometimes the other person is not opposed to what we say, but rather to individual words, tones and emotions.
In his autobiography, Benjamin Franklin spoke of his unmistakable communication skills. "When I'm pushing for anything that might cause controversy, I always express my point of view in the gentlest way possible. Words that are absolutely certain or beyond doubt are never used, but are replaced by the following words:As far as I understand it, it is like this, and if I had not made a mistake, I think it should be like this; I wonder if that's how it should be; In my opinion, this is not the way it should be. This habit of expressing oneself, which I am not very sure of what I think, has made it easy for me to push many difficult issues over the years. ”
Anthony Robin said, "There is one word in our lives that is quite destructive, but we are too accustomed to using it to realize it, and that word is 'but'." If someone says, 'You have a point, but ......Do you know what he means? He means that what you say doesn't make sense, or is irrelevant. The word 'but' has the ...... to negate what was previously saidWe need to keep in mind that there is no such thing as a world of perpetual resistance, only stubborn and inflexible communicators. Just as some words will inevitably provoke resistance from the listener, there are others that will make the listener open their hearts and want to communicate with you. ”
There is an idiom that says: Be upright. In life, if you can be straight, your qi should not be stronger. When we are reasonable, and others can't have the upper hand in reason, then he will find fault with your emotions or attitudes. Sometimes if you change your concept and divert the audio-visual, you will not be able to make a fuss, or at worst, he will make a rake back, making your original reasonable things full of faults.
poor tolerance; people who are prone to whining and getting angry; People who are so depressed and depressed are all people with low emotional intelligence. The benefits of an enterprise come from management, and emotions can also be managed. Only by constantly improving our emotional intelligence in management can we achieve success as soon as possible. In order to further the many ways of emotional intelligence management, the following are the various effects of emotional intelligence on life, so that we can manage ourselves according to the map