On Chinese New Year's Eve 2012, a 4-year-old boy wearing only a **** was running in the snow, shouting with a crying voice as he ran: "Dad, hug me." But his father did not stop there, but encouraged him until the child ran for more than 5 minutes, and the father asked him to do a push-up, and then let the child put on his clothes.
This is the "eagle dad" He Liesheng's "eagle education" for his son. It stands to reason that there should not be such strict requirements for a 4-year-old child, what makes this "eagle dad" treat his son like this?
After graduating from university in 1987, He was assigned to work as a teacher in a suburban school, and after seven years of hard work, he felt that the education model at that time was not in harmony with his own educational philosophy.
In 1994, he resolutely quit his stable job as a teacher and prepared to go into business. However, although he did enough preparatory and research work for the first time to start a business, he still couldn't resist the law of survival of the fittest in the market, and he went bankrupt and owed 300,000 debts.
Faced with the trough of life, he did not become depressed, but became more and more frustrated. With the help of his friends, he started his business again, and this time, he had more experience and hard work than before. Eventually, he made a comeback, not only paying off his debts, but also becoming a successful entrepreneur.
In the eyes of others, he is self-motivated, can withstand failure, and believes that one thing will go all the way to the dark. His character may be the basis of his "eagle education".
In 2007, He Liesheng's wife was pregnant, and He Liesheng was 40 years old at this time, and he was full of expectations for the upcoming child. But the unexpected came unexpectedly.
In February 2008, He Liesheng's wife showed signs of premature birth, and her son came to earth three months early. When He Liesheng asked the doctor about the condition of his wife and son, the doctor said to him with a serious expression: "The adult is safe, but the child is not doing well now." According to observation, his left ventricle hemorrhage, low brain protein density, and jaundice were also accompanied by other conditions, and the child was born with severe deficiency and was at risk of becoming cerebral palsy in the future. ”
After listening to the doctor's words, He Liesheng felt a bolt from the blue, the child he had been looking forward to for so long might become cerebral palsy in the future, and he couldn't accept this result. But things have happened, and now he can only think about how he can help his child change such a fate.
Perhaps because of his children, He Liesheng has been particularly keen on public welfare since then. May 2008In the 12th National Congress of the Communist Party of China, he directly donated 7.5 million materials, and later, he also did a lot of public welfare activities one after another, donating money and materials, funding students, and condolences to the elderly, he has been doing.
Faced with his son's situation, he quickly pulled himself together. In his concept, there is no problem that cannot be solved, and there are always more ways than difficulties. So, he began to formulate his son's ** plan, and at the same time began to try the "eagle education" he pursued in his son.
He Liesheng believes that parents should cultivate and train their children like eagles. In order for the cubs to learn to fly, the eagle will deliberately take the cub to a high place and arch down, and the cub will try to flutter its wings and learn to fly at the limit of its life.
It's the same with educating children, he thinks that children should be given a certain amount of frustration education, rather than holding children in their arms all day long.
He Liesheng named his son He Yide, with many nicknames. After learning about Duoduo's situation, He Liesheng began to study various parenting books, asked doctors for advice, and finally decided to train his son physically.
Since the 10th day when Duoduo left the incubator, he insisted on taking Duoduo to swim every day, and the water temperature has been kept at 25 degrees. At first, Duoduo was so cold that he cried, and his wife couldn't bear to want to pick up her son, but was stopped by He Liesheng.
For this reason, his wife quarreled with him a lot, and even almost divorced because of the children's education. But no matter how relatives and friends blamed and advised, He Liesheng still insisted on his ideas. However, after that, Duoduo gradually adapted to the water temperature of 25 degrees Celsius, and was able to play more freely in the 25 degree water.
In this regard, the doctor also said that the child's adaptability is relatively strong, and if it is according to the scientific plan, step-by-step training can improve the child's physique. However, this is not suitable for all children, and it is still necessary to train according to the actual situation of the child, and not to be overly forced, otherwise it will cause the opposite effect.
He Liesheng later formulated a detailed training plan for Duoduo and asked his wife to strictly follow the plan. Since Duoduo was six months old, He Liesheng has been studying and training him for 6 hours a day.
When Duoduo first learned to walk, He Liesheng would deliberately create obstacles for him, either by suddenly pushing him and then pushing him down after he got up. Either put obstacles in front of him and let him cross them by his own efforts.
Under this kind of training, when Duoduo was two years old, he was able to follow He Liesheng to climb the Purple Mountain in Nanjing. Even if Duoduo was tired on the way to climb the mountain, He Liesheng would not hold Duoduo and walk, but stopped to rest, rested and continued to climb, insisting that Duoduo climb to the top of the mountain by himself.
In addition, He Liesheng also let Duoduo learn martial arts, taekwondo, hip-hop dance, etc., mainly through these studies to exercise Duoduo's brain.
In this way, three-year-old Duoduo already knew more than 3,000 Chinese characters and learned mathematical addition and subtraction. In order to let his son experience a different education model, He Liesheng took him to an American kindergarten for three months.
According to He Liesheng, in the kindergarten in the United States, Duoduo skipped to the kindergarten class in two weeks, and later entered the genius class. And the controversial naked running in the snow** was also filmed in the United States.
He Liesheng didn't think it was too much, on the contrary, he felt very proud, because his son's physique had improved greatly since following his training regimen, except for a period of time in the hospital when he was born prematurely, and he has not been in the hospital since.
At this time, Duoduo was getting farther and farther away from cerebral palsy, and he also got rid of the shadow of a premature baby. At the age of four, he ran naked in the snow, competed in the Qingdao International Regatta and sailed independently, spending 15 hours climbing Mount Fuji in Japan. Under He Liesheng's training, his physical fitness has far surpassed that of children of the same age.
In 2013, 5-year-old Duoduo, accompanied by his instructor, independently operated and flew the "Bee-3" aircraft for 35 minutes. In the second year, Duoduo and He Liesheng crossed the "Sea of Death" Lop Nur three times. In addition to following my father around for adventure and exercise, the experience is very rich, and Duoduo's learning experience is also amazing.
In 2017, Duoduo participated in the junior college self-examination of Nanjing University and entered the school to study sales management. After graduating from junior college, he was admitted to Nanjing University to major in human resources, and when he was 12 years old, he successfully obtained his undergraduate diploma. But that's far from the end.
In 2021, Duoduo completed 12 MBA courses at a Spanish university and successfully applied for a Ph.D. at a university in the Philippines.
The reason why Duoduo was able to learn so much content in a short period of time has a lot to do with He Liesheng's educational philosophy. He didn't take his son through all the subjects in a step-by-step manner, and in his opinion, many subjects would not be useful in the future.
In an interview, He Liesheng once said that in his mind, all the knowledge in primary and secondary schools can be learned in one year, and junior and senior high schools only need three or four years, and subjects such as physics, chemistry, biology, mathematics and even English are not used in society, so they can not be studied.
Now, he is more of an entrepreneur to cultivate, once he also asked Duoduo to sell newspapers to strengthen his so-called "financial business mind", he through the analysis of the location of the stall, service attitude and other situations to educate Duoduo, do business pay attention to a time and place to pay attention to the right people.
He Liesheng planned almost every aspect of Duoduo's life, including making friends and falling in love in the future. At the same time, he also taught Duoduo to learn to share and be grateful. Every morning after waking up, Duoduo is asked to say hello to his elders. When I go out, I take the initiative to greet and praise my acquaintances when I see them, and I often say "thank you" and "I'm sorry" at school.
In the end, He Liesheng said that before his son was ten years old, he would plan every step he should take. Between the ages of ten and sixteen, when making decisions, you can let Duoduo give your opinion. From 16 to 20 years old, all the choices are made by Duoduo, and he acts as a consultant. After the age of twenty, he will be proud of Duoduo as a father and will also become Duoduo's backing.
When He Liesheng first came to the public's attention, people had mixed reviews of him. Many netizens were excited about him letting his son run naked in the snow, scolding him on the Internet for "abusing children" and "not worthy of being a father". Of course, there are also netizens who support him, saying that they can improve their children's physical fitness through such exercises.
And one of his most controversial points is that his philosophy and method of educating his son are simply unusual. Judging from the results, some people expressed envy and admiration for him for cultivating such an "excellent" son. Judging from the process, some people think that he is too anxious and deprives the child of childhood and precious campus life that can only be experienced once in a lifetime.
However, each parent has their own set of education models and educational philosophies, and the purpose of education has never been to cultivate geniuses, but to allow children to grow up in moral, intellectual, physical and aesthetic aspects.
Every child also has their own way of growth, not everyone has to follow one path, as long as it is suitable for the child.
Just like proper physical training can indeed improve children's immunity and resistance, but only if it is under the scientific method. Different hobbies can also enrich children's lives, but it depends on whether they like it or not.
The path that parents plan for their children may seem safe, but it is not necessarily what the child wants and is suitable for. In the end, the child will become an independent individual, and when he is separated from his parents, will he be able to support his own life independently? This is food for thought.
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