When parting, people are always full of sadness, and in her heart, there is only expectation, but fortunately, the weather is gloomy, and she can't see the other party's lost expression.
Watching Mr. Da Li take out a handful of fragments from his bulging pocket and scatter them on the street in front of Yang Yi, he only said that he didn't need to keep them.
At that time, the ignorant Yang Yi didn't think much about it, and walked with Mr. Da Li as usual, chatting about the day, and did not separate until he walked to the door of the house.
I'll see you in Kunming! Yang Yi smiled at Mr. Da Li, and opened the door while jumping, but Mr. Da Li on the opposite side fell into deep thought, wanted to speak, and finally held back.
Mr. Yang Yi Yang Yi, born in 1919, during the May Fourth Movement, died on January 27, 2023
A famous writer and translator, "Wuthering Heights" is her most famous work representative.
She was born in a feudal family, she is the eldest in the family, there are many family rules, and she yearns for a free world outside.
Yang Yi's mother is the aunt of the family, and because she is the youngest child, she has suffered a lot of white eyes, but fortunately, she is playful by nature, but she doesn't remember these embarrassments.
Mr. Da Li, who is Ba Jin's brother Li Yaolin, is the third oldest in the family and has the best relationship with Ba Jin.
At that time, when Ba Jin's works were already well-known in the industry, he never let his brother worry about the affairs of the family, only that his hands were for writing, and he would leave the rest to him.
In Yang Yi's middle school years, at the age of 17, she was very obsessed with Ba Jin, all of Ba Jin's works, she watched them all, and very naturally put herself in the same seat as Juehui in "Home", and like Juehui, she also very much wanted to escape from this home.
It is said that once, she wrote a letter to Ba Jin, and wrote 17 pages in one breath, presumably Mr. Ba Jin was both happy and helpless.
After reading Ba Jin's book, Yang Yi had a whim to write a letter to Ba Jin, but Mr. Ba Jin was already very famous at that time, and she didn't expect to be replied to, but just wanted to borrow a letter to express her heart.
didn't expect Ba Jin to reply, Yang Yi was very excited, and ran to show off in front of her mother, but her mother said:"Can a great writer write back to you? fresh".
Yang Yi's mother is the aunt who supports the family, the eldest aunt in the family, this title is the "origin of inequality" of her mother, and it is also the prison she wants to get rid of all her life, but she is getting deeper and deeper.
At the beginning, because Yang Yi's grandfather wanted to provide for his uncle's education, he sold his mother to the Yang family as a concubine, and because of this, his mother hated his grandfather all his life, and until the old man died, the two never met.
Fortunately, Yang Yi's mother Xu Yanruo is a child who can give birth, and when she entered the Yang family at the age of 15, she gave birth to a big boyBut due to identity reasons, the son she gave birth to had to be raised by the main family, and she could only accept this.
Because in the feudal era, the rules of feudal thought occupied the first place, and no one was allowed to break them.
In addition to this, Yang Yi's mother is the lucky one among the aunts and wives in the feudal era. First, the mother is more expensive than the child, so that she does not need to wrap her little feet; Second, her gentle and intellectual temperament made Father Yang extremely fond of her, and he looked at her differently.
However, the mother did not object to Yang Yi's correspondence with Ba Jin, after all, her children are promising and valued, and she is also the beneficiary, and she is happy in her heart.
But it was also because of Ba Jin that Yang Yi met Mr. Da Li, and the two hit it off at first sight after they met, although they were about 20 years apart, there was no generation gap.
From the first time they met, to Yang Yi's departure from Tianjin to study in Kunming, there were more than 40 correspondences in the intervening half a year, which was only the reply that Yang Yi received, and she wrote more to Mr. Li.
Once, Mr. Da Li said to Yang Yi, you can write the number on the envelope. Yang Yi didn't know why at the time, but she did it, what she said to Mr. Da Li has always been like a treasure.
And she thought that this was also a kind of commemoration, and when she turned it out in the future, she might have a deeper memory and be easier to find.
Although Yang Yi wrote letters to both Ba Jin brothers, the content of the letters was very different.
For Ba Jin, in front of him, Yang Yi has always been called "Mr. Li"; Because Li Yaolin is his elder brother, he is called "Mr. Li".
When writing a letter, it is different, writing a letter to Ba Jin, only calling him "sir"; wrote to Li Yaolin, and called him "Mr. Li".
Letters to Ba Jin are usually used to complain about things that have been depressing, such as the bad things that have happened recently, and the distress that has brought her at home.
The letter to Mr. Da Li is more streamlined, only talking about interesting things, such as what you ate, where you went to play, and who you met ......Report everything.
Judging from the content of the letter, Yang Yi's liking for Ba Jin is respect and love for the elders, and for Mr. Da Li, it is a natural expression of his true feelings.
It's just that at that time, she thought that she was just worshipping and admiring Mr. Da Li, whenever a friend said that Mr. Da Li loved her in his heart, and when the two were clearly in love, she vetoed them one by one, and used "how disgusting" to prove the pure friendship between the two.
In fact, the two people are indeed pure, and the love of the ** period is usually put in the bottom of their hearts, because at that time, they paid attention to the right people, and once there was a condition that did not meet, a character like Mr. Da Li would not easily show his heart.
According to Mr. Yang Yi's later oral records, in addition to correspondence, the two of them walked together only a handful of times, and in this way, their walks were usually carried out by the family without their knowledge.
It's not that it's deliberately hidden, it's just that this feeling of secrecy made Yang Yi feel fun and proud for a while.
Until their "scandal" was spread in the circle of friends, Zhang Zhiqing's words made Yang Yi cry uncomfortably for a long time.
He said:"Whether it's true or not, if your mother finds out about this, she'll lock you up, and you won't be able to come out and play. ”
I guess that Mr. Yang Yi's crying probably has two aspects:
On the one hand, she never felt that there was an arrogant relationship between men and women between herself and Mr. Da Li, so she felt the pain of her idol being insulted;
On the one hand, she was afraid that as Zhang Zhiqing said, after her mother found out, she locked herself at home and deprived her of her hobbies, which was unthinkable for the fun Yang Yi;
In fact, judging from the book "Yang Yi's Oral Autobiography", these emotions must hide a strong love for Mr. Da Li, but in her education in Chinese and Western schools, as well as the upbringing of her family, she is not enlightened about the love for these men and women.
But judging from Mr. Yang Yi's various actions, anyone who understands the relationship between men and women can see it:
For example,When Zhang Zhiqing reminded Yang Yi, because she was afraid that her mother would find out, she would reduce her "date" with Mr. Da Li, but she came up with another way to resonate: run to the upstairs room, turn on the record player to the maximum, and only put what she and Mr. Da Li liked to listen to;
Another exampleBecause she agreed with Mr. Da Li to meet in Kunming, even if her best friend Yan Changsheng's mother proposed to let her study in the United States, she refused, always thinking in her heart that after going to Kunming, she would be happy to meet Mr. Da Li again.
You must know that at that time, the opportunity to study abroad was not easy, and with the company of girlfriends when studying, this life was not too good, but Yang Yi gave up this opportunity very firmly.
Let's ask, if it's not love, how many people can resist this kind of pie-in-the-sky **?
Because Yang Yi's father died early, for her, her brother Yang Xianyi is her biggest dependence, she always followed his ass when she was a child, listened to everything, and believed everything.
Later, my brother went to study abroad, and the appearance of Mr. Li gave Yang Yi great comfort, every time I received a letter from him, I always had to enjoy it for a long time, looking at the words written on the white paper, I couldn't help but laugh non-stop, and the mood was both happy and relaxed.
But the times always seem to like to tease people, the relationship between Mr. Li and Yang Yi is limited to personal distance, only once, it was because Yang Yi had a dirty thing in her hair, and she asked him to brush it off because she was afraid.
Anthropologist Edward Hall divides interpersonal distance into four types, which are:
Intimate distance, ranging between 0 15cm. Couples and girlfriends in life are this kind of distance;Yang Yi has a lot of friends, so many that he can't count them with one pair of hands and two feet, but Mr. Da Li is always a special existence.Personal distance, ranging between 46 and 76cm. A cordial handshake and a friendly conversation are all such distances;
Social distancing, ranging between 120 210cm. A kind of polite distance that needs to be maintained in formal social situations;
For example, between two strangers in a relatively empty elevator, they will automatically stand at both ends of the car, which is basically the reason. ）
Public distance, the range is generally 37m away. This refers specifically to the distance from the public in public speaking.
On the morning of Yang Yi's departure from Tianjin and going to Kunming to study, she made an appointment with Mr. Da Li to meet, because when she left, the whole family had to come to see her off, and he was a foreign man, not only did not conform to the rules, but also brought many bad influences, so she made an appointment to meet alone.
It was a cloudy day, and it was about to rain, but it was holding back, and occasionally a gust of wind blew, making people messy.
They agreed to be in the British Concession and quiet. Yang Yi came to wait early, looked at the corner intersection from afar, and saw that Mr. Da Li came as promised, and her pockets were still bulging, the corners of her mouth immediately raised, and she was calm on the surface, but she was overjoyed in her heart.
And Yang Yi's inner activities, Mr. Li is unknown.
He brought a gift to Yang Yi:A box of handkerchiefs, containing six pieces, produced in Shantou, are all hand-embroidered flowers, which are worth a lot of money at a glance, one by one.
With Mr. Li's income from teaching at that time, buying this gift meant that he was going to live a hard life, but he never said it.
They walked for more than two hours and talked a lot. When it was time to separate, Yang Yi asked what he had in his pocket, bulging.
At this time, Mr. Da Li carefully took it out, it was a handful of shredded paper, Yang Yi couldn't guess what it was, Mr. Da Li explained:"These are the letters you wrote to me! ”
He said that he didn't need to save it, so he dispersed, and Yang Yi didn't realize it at this time, in fact, Mr. Da Li was breaking up with her, and she still chatted and walked as usual as if she was nothing, until she parted.
Unexpectedly, this was their last face.
Later, Yang Yi arrived in Kunming, while studying, while waiting for Mr. Li, there were expectations in his heart, so the days were also settled, and there were many friends, and there was no time when he was not used to it, or was particularly lonely.
It's just that due to the alarm, when they failed to communicate, Yang Yi always missed Mr. Da Li in his heart.
From all indications, Mr. Da Li actually has love for Yang Yi, but he is not very good at expressing it, and later because of Yang Yi's mother's words, the relationship between the two was directly cut off.
Yang Yi loved to watch movies the most at that time, and her family was also wealthy, she always went to watch movies, and after Mr. Li found out, he always bought movie tickets and went to see movies he didn't originally watch, just to meet her.
Although they never make an appointment in advance, even when they meet in the cinema, they never sit next to each other and just watch movies quietly.
Who knows, when Yang Yi watched the movie seriously, did Mr. Da Li peek at her?
After the movie, Mr. Da Li always waited outside for her to appear, and only after saying a few words did he go back to his own home.
Then there are the gifts to Yang Yi, their letters, and each other's favorite records, I don't know how long Mr. Da Li did psychological construction when he tore up the letter.
Later, once when Yang Yi's mother went out, someone recognized Mr. Da Li and identified his mother, and Yang Yi's mother said:"So old? ”made Mr. Da Li finally break off the idea of going to Kunming, perhaps because he was disheartened.
Yang Yi's ignorance, coupled with the disproportionate background of each other, and the age gap between them, are intertwined, and unrequited love is an extremely difficult thing.
Of course, this is just speculation, but there are always regrets.
Yang Yi later got married, but the object was not her willing, there may be an element of gambling in it, and later because she had two children, even if her family no longer looked down on her husband, she did not choose to divorce for the sake of the children.
And Mr. Da Li refunded the ticket due to economic reasons, and also broke Yang Yi's thoughts.
Later, for various reasons, Mr. Da Li finally committed suicide, and Yang Yi was so sad that he couldn't help himself, until he was 100 years old, he had dreamed of him, but they couldn't be together after all.
Maybe it's regret, maybe it's destined, but this love is always pure.
This centenarian has experienced warlord melees, the War of Resistance Against Japan, the War of Liberation, and all kinds of things that happened after the founding of New China, but because of the background of the feudal family, there are many more people and many things in her life.
Although Yang Yi's father, Yang Yuzhang, was the first president of the Bank of China in Tianjin during the ** period, and she received various high-level treatments because of this, the times brought her a lot of tribulations.
But Yang Yi was not beaten by suffering, she approached life with a playful mentality, everything was very novel in her eyes: drama, painting, and dancing and skating, ......They are all her lovers, but she doesn't like to read.
In her later years, when a reporter interviewed her, Yang Yi summed up her life in one sentence:"I think my life is like being soaked in rich juice, and it is indeed a worthwhile life, full of fruits. ”
With such a good attitude and a healthy lifestyle, Yang Yi did not leave the world until she was 105 years old, and I think she went to find her friends.
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