How can a person who is lacking love judge whether he should stay away from his parents ?

If you are lacking in love, you will be a little uncomfortable with your parents.

But everyone needs family affection, especially those who lack love, because the inner child has never grown up smoothly, and they are more eager to get the love of their parents.

But if the other party has a bad character and doesn't love you at all, if it goes on like this, there is nothing else but consumption, so it's better to stay away.

It's not that you don't want to give anymore, it's that you can't afford it, and no one deserves to live like that.

So how do you tell if you should keep your distance? Judging from the following points, it is a common situation to write, and if the parents grow up and repent in the middle of this, the results will naturally be different.

The basic manifestation of love is recognition, no matter whether your conditions are good or not, he will recognize you, this is love!

It's not that you are good-looking, earn more, and give him enough money that he thinks you are good.

You can have shortcomings or mistakes, and he will point them out, but he will not look down on you or belittle you because of this.

When I was in high school, I wrote **, and my classmates said it was funny, urging me to write it quickly, and I took it home to my aunt to read, and she disdainfully said that it was not very good.

I was frustrated, so I didn't write anymore, and then I heard her praise her cousin for how good, talented, and powerful she was.

I thought it was really good to sing, but when I heard it, I realized that it was really not as exaggerated as she said, and the other party did not get recognition for the competition.

I didn't understand it before, I just thought she was talking very pompous, but now when I look back, it's just thatLove or notThat's it.

She doesn't love me, no matter how good I do, she wants to belittle me, and she has no kindness to you.

She loves her cousin, so no matter how ordinary her cousin is, she is also super good in her heart, this isPreference

If your loved ones love you, you can see the shortcomings in your eyes, justWill wear a filter, will always help you add a few points.

If you find that no matter how good you are, your parents always dismiss you and criticize you no matter how good you are, you should know that this is not a sign of love.

However, this point is to be looked at comprehensively, some parents develop bad habits because of his parents treating him like this, and he always says unpleasant things.

If nothing else, maybe they still love.

Parents who love you, even if they speak hard and have a bad attitude, you will find that they always quietly stuff money into you or find ways to save money for you.

If you buy a gift, he will ask you not to buy it, reluctant to use your money, instead of trying to dig up your money and design a scene where you have to pay.

This wayIt's not that parents shouldn't use their children's money, but when they use your money, do they think about you?

For example, if your income is not high, but your parents still take money, you think it is filial piety, so you are willing to give it.

Later, when I gave birth to a child, the family situation was tight, so I discussed with my parents who were not short of money to give a little less, and they immediately turned their faces and accused you of being calculating and unfilial.

Behavior like this, obviously, isNot thinking about your interests

Or yesIt's not good for you, and it's very partial to other siblings, but it is specified that you will be asked to pay for the insurance.

Even when you need to be sure, you are the first to think of you, not of your siblings, in shortWhat will harm your interests, they will not hesitate to do.

As long as he is good, no matter how you are doing, it will not affect you.

Not thinking about you is the most obvious characteristic of not loving.

Respect is also a sign of love, can you refuse what he asks you to do? If you refuse, will you hear unpleasant words?

Does he want to take control of your important life decisions? Regardless of your feelings, keep pushing you?

There are some parents who love their children very much and think they are responsible, but their actions make their children suffer all the time.

Living under their will, and not being able to live according to their own wishes, the relationship must not be good.

Children are independent individuals and have the right to choose the life they want, even if it seems like a bad decision in the eyes of their parents.

Parents can only remind him that they can't force a decision for him, unless he is still very young or the decision is too exaggerated.

If your parents are not short of money and healthy, and they can live well without you, he doesn't like you in the first place, and for them there is less of you, but there is less people to ask for, so why stay away?

Usually in this case, you don't go to him, and he doesn't bother to come to you because it's not good.

If you have a bad character, you may go to your company to trouble you, or trouble you to force you to take out the money.

But if your parents are very short of money and unhealthy, you can't just leave, and it will be very troublesome.

You may have to deal with a lot of pressure from parents who don't love you, and if you have ever known, you know how hard it is to care for someone who can't take care of themselves.

If he once loved you, it would be like this, and if he didn't love himself or take care of his body, he didn't love you all the time, and the responsibility was really heavy.

The sibling they favor is also often irresponsible, and it will end up on you.

Because you have always been very responsible for yourself, have worked hard and saved money.

How far you want to go is your choice, don't let others make decisions for you, because it's your life.

I've also seen children who aren't loved, and I've always kept in touch with my parents and paid for them, becauseHe could handle it

It doesn't matter if they see that the other person doesn't love their behavior or says bad things, they just feel that they should be filial and do what they should do.

This kind of person is usually more obtuse, otherwise how can he stand it? Whether such behavior is good or bad does not need to be judged.

The world is inconclusive, it depends on which angle you look at.

But ifEvery time you meet them, it's unpleasant and ruins your otherwise peaceful life.

Coupled with the above two behaviors, it is time to stay away, otherwiseYour life will only get worse and worse

But also to see if you have misunderstood them, you can try to communicate with them, if they ignore your expressions, or if they can't come up with a better explanation other than saying that you are sensitive and calculating, you can probably make sure that you are not misunderstood.

It won't be said that not being loved is all the responsibility of parentsChildren who usually lack love are really unpleasant in their own personalities.

You have this personality, which is arranged by God, so that you will bear the fate of not being loved, which is your karma.

ButYour personality is so sensitive and irritable because of the lack of love, you don't have to investigate who is right and wrong, and your parents will not be responsible for you.

Importantly,How do you want to live in the future? You can change your personality and then change your life, otherwise you will lose important people (friends, partners) all the time

I have never believed that parents all over the world love their children, there is no such thing, some people are inferior in nature, they only see themselves.

In fact, being away from their parents is also very uncomfortable for people who lack love, after all, they just need love.

But what can be done? For this kind of parent, as long as you don't give money, he thinks you are not filial.

Even if you give money and pay for your labor, they still belittle you and treat you harshly, and in the end you will find that they are only good to the sibling who is partial to him.

Even if that person didn't give anything and made a mess of his life, he is still their treasure.

If you are very rich and have the spare energy, you don't want to worry about them, so you can give it if you are willing to give.

If you can't get by yourself anymore and he keeps pushing you, you should love yourself.

The responsibility of parents is not only to raise you, but also to love you, let you grow up mentally sound, and help you live a happy life.

Not every parent has this ability, which is why they say at the beginning that they may also love you very much, but they don't know how to treat you well.

I also always say that if you don't have the ability to love others, don't have children and create family tragedies.

As long as there is love, everything is easy to say, but if there is no love, no matter how close you get, all you feel is coldness and hypocrisy, treat you like a commodity, ignore you if you are worthless, and stammer in every way if you are valuable.

At this time, it's time to wake up!

Don't worry what people say about you, because no matter what you do, others will think you're unfilial (unless you give a lot of money).

Because they are never satisfied, they will always go out and speak ill of you, and we don't live for others.

Filial piety doesn't tolerate all the consumption and mistakes of the elders, he doesn't love you anymore, just because he raised you, can he treat you badly for the rest of his life?

He chose not to love you, and you should make a choice.