After the five siblings got married, what was supposed to be an important annual gathering time began to become scarce. This is because of the huge family that the five siblings and their families make up, and it takes a lot of effort and expense to get together. Not only do you need to arrange seating, eat and drink, but you also need to buy ingredients and cook in advance. Therefore, starting this year, the five siblings decided to spend their own years and no longer get together.
During the festive season, family gatherings often become a headache. After the five siblings got married, the reunion faced a series of problems. First of all, there are a large number of people, now there are six people in the eldest brother's family, six in the second brother's family, four in the third brother's family, four in the eldest sister's family, and a total of eight people in our family. When everyone comes together, the total number will be 26 people, and three large tables will need to be set up. This undoubtedly puts a lot of pressure on the venue and food and beverage to choose.
After choosing a venue, it was inevitable to face the problem of meal costs. Because the eldest brother's family is not good at cooking, they choose to entertain in a restaurant outside for a day every year, and the cost of a single table meal is as high as 4,800 yuan, not including tobacco and alcohol. The other sibling families also need to take turns to entertain them for a day, whether they cook at home or choose to eat in a restaurant, they need to pay a lot of money. ForEconomyFor those who are under pressure, this is undoubtedly a considerable expense.
As they grew older, the five siblings came to a consensus after so many years of gathering together that it would be easier and more convenient for them to celebrate the New Year. In order to alleviate the stress and burden of the gathering, they decided that starting this year, each family will have their own year.
When the three concubines made this suggestion, we felt deeply relieved. In the crowd chat at home, I replied to her message and agreed. Subsequently, other concubines also expressed their opinions one after another. Everyone agreed with this suggestion and posted emojis of welcome and support. Although the children in each family are still young, because of the large number of children, they also give red envelopes to the children of relatives every year. Such expenditures are already quite large and exhausting.
Despite our reluctance, each family has come to realize that spending the New Year alone is also a relief. Each family has its ownlifeand rhythm, when there are many people, it is also difficult for children to concentrate. There is no need to sacrifice your rest time for the sake of the New Year, or even feel exhausted. On the contrary, through New Year's greetings or other means, it is still possible to maintain the exchange of family affection, which is more relaxed and harmonious.
Through this change in the way the five siblings and their families gather during the Chinese New Year, I also began to think about how the family gatherings should be carried out. Most of the time, families with many siblings face the problem of getting together. Each family has its own rhythm andLifestyleDifferences and contradictions between each other are also inevitable.
In my opinion, family gatherings should be considered first and foremostEconomyStrength and expenses. of different familiesEconomyThe conditions are different and the exorbitant cost cannot be afforded. Therefore, we can explore ways to save money, such as cooking at home, or adopting moreEconomyAffordable venue. At the same time, you can also maintain family communication through New Year's greetings** or other ways to avoid fatigue and pressure caused by the party.
Secondly, the party needs to fully respect the space and space of each familylifeHabit. Try to avoid causing trouble and discomfort to others. If the family is limited, you can choose to take turns in the family gatherings, which will not only reduce the pressure of the meeting, but also enhance the relationship with each otherlifeknowledge and understanding.
Finally, the party should be more of an emotional exchange and interaction than a simple dinner. Whether it is through **, WeChat, etc., or through a small range of family and friend gatherings, it can maintain the relationship between family members. Gatherings are not only an important ancestral worship activity, but also an opportunity to enhance the relationship between family members, and more attention should be paid to emotional experience and communication.
In general, the five siblings reduced their gatherings after they got married, not only to meet the needs of the development of the times, but also to reduce the pressure and burden on the family. The way family members gather can be flexibly adjusted according to their own circumstances and wishes. It is only in unity and harmony that the inheritance and development of the family can be continued.