The mother-in-law was a girl from a family of landowners, but when she grew up, all the family's property was confiscated. When my mother-in-law and father-in-law got married, they were both the poorest families in the village. However, the mother-in-law'slifeIt didn't get any smoother because of marrying my father-in-law. So, in the year we got married, she was very much looking forward to enjoying the blessings of a few days. However, now that she is 70 years old, the blessing has not come as promised. Today, I'm going to tell the story of my mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law came from a family of landlords, but when she came of age, all the family's property was confiscated, and the family became the poorest. Despite this, the mother-in-law married her father-in-law, who was from the same landlord background as her. It stands to reason that the father-in-law and mother-in-law went through land reform before they got married, and they should be the same as other familieslifeThe levels are all about the same. However, the reality was not what I expected.
My mother-in-law, who was 45 years old when she married my father-in-law, told us that she had worked very hard to raise three children and now she wanted to enjoy the blessings for a few days. According to her mother-in-law, when she was young, her daughter-in-law did not need to do any labor after marriage, she only needed to sit on the kang, she did not have to do anything, and all the housework was completed by her daughter-in-law. Therefore, when I first met my mother-in-law, I instantly felt as if I had traveled back to the ancient family of an official eunuch. However, when I saw the mottled house and the date on the calendar - 1996, I woke up from my dream in an instant.
My mother-in-law was 45 when I got married, and my husband and I were 22 and 23 respectively, so we were young children by today's standards. OursWeddingsSoon after, my mother-in-law told us that she had already worked very hard since she had raised three children, and now she wanted to be able to enjoy the blessings for a few days. The mother-in-law said that in the past, the daughter-in-law did not need to do any labor, she only needed to sit on the kang, and the mother-in-law only needed to command at best, and all the housework was completed by the daughter-in-law. However, the moment I entered my in-laws' house, I realized I was wrong. The mottled house and the hard work and exhaustion on my mother-in-law's face suddenly made me understand her difficult experience.
My in-laws already owed 7,000 yuan in debt before we got married, and 7,000 yuan at that time was enough to build a big tiled house in the 90s. Just three days after we got married, my husband and I went back to work and started running to make moneylife。At that time, I was a private ** teacher, and my monthly salary was only 80 yuan, while my husband was working as a side dish worker in a restaurant, and his monthly salary was 120 yuan. We calculated that even if we saved that money without eating or drinking, it would take three years to pay off the family's debts.
In 1996, I was a private ** teacher, with a monthly salary of only 80 yuan, while my husband worked as a side dish worker in a restaurant, with a monthly income of 120 yuan. We carefully calculated that even if we didn't eat or drink and saved all our salaries every month, it would take three years to pay off the family's debt of 7,000 yuan. So, we decided to quit our jobs and go to work in the south, hoping to pay off our arrears as soon as possible.
We came to Guangdong and started working hardlife。Everyone's salary adds up to a total of 900 yuan, but 800 yuan of them need to be sent back to the family, and only 100 yuan is our ownlifeExpenses. In this way, we spent a year with great difficulty in order to pay off our arrears and save money. The following year, our daughter was born and we decided to stay at home to take care of the child. That year, we took care of our own children and took care of the family. I have to say that there are only three adobe houses in my in-laws' house, and for a young family, the living conditions are very tight.
At this time, we came up with an idea: to earn some money while we are young and build a new house for ourselves. According to rural customs, the eldest usually moves out to live after marriage, and the in-laws also make it clear that the family house belongs to Xiaogang (the husband's younger brother). So, we discussed that when the child was older, we would go to work again and let my in-laws help take care of the child. However, her mother-in-law said that she was too old to take care of the children. We had no choice but to take care of our children and start a small business on our own. In this way, we slowly built up, and when our daughter was five years old, we built three bungalows through our own efforts. In addition, my in-laws' son Xiaogang is also very competitive, and he was admittedUniversity
However, my mother-in-law came to us again and asked us for pension money, which was actually asking us to sponsor XiaogangUniversityTuition. She also said that once Xiaogang's tuition is exhausted, they don't need us to care, and they will follow Xiaogang to enjoy happiness in the future. So, in those years, our business improved, and we took on the responsibility of Xiaogang for four yearsUniversityfees. Xiao GangUniversityAfter graduation, my in-laws did not give any help.
Years passed, and we bought a house in the city through our own efforts, daughterUniversityAfter graduation, he also stayed in the city, got married and had children. And because he didn't get the support of his in-laws, Xiaogang became a city playerDoor-to-door son-in-law, with his mother-in-lawlife。Now, my in-laws are in their 70s and live in the three bungalows we built, which is their own house, but it is still the same. We'll give them some every monthlifefee, butCookingThey have to do it themselves. Mother-in-law has always thoughtCookingIt was the most difficult thing for her, she thought that after her two sons got married, it would be easier for her, and she didn't need it anymoreCookingFinish. However, she didn't realize that if she didn't work hard when she was young, she would be even more sad when she was old.
Everyone has a different life story, nowadaysSociallifeThe pressure is high, and no one can be blessed from a young age. As old people, they have gone through countless hardships and hardships, but in the end they still do not receive the blessings they expected. My mother-in-law is one example of this, she went through a lot of hardships when she was young, and now she is in her 70s and still living a hard life. She had been hoping to be able to enjoy the blessings for a few days, but the blessings never came.
We should cherish what we have nowlife, don't complain and complain. Everyone's life experience is different, some people have a relaxed and happy life, while others suffer and trouble. Don't just focus on your own shortcomings and unsatisfactory, you should see the plight and efforts of others. Perhaps, ourslifeIt's not perfect, but we still have to work hard to create a better place for ourselves and our familieslife。At the same time, we also need to remember our parents and elders, because they have done so much for us and hope that they will enjoy the blessings they deserve.