Very few women can be as smooth sailing as men on the emotional road and never have an argument.
Occasionally, women try to suppress it, but eventually they can't stand it. Because some of the behaviors of men are really unbearable.
Sometimes, the trigger is simply male negligence.
Women may endure it for a long time, but eventually it will break out.
In general, for women, arguments are inevitable.
However, the dispute itself is not the key, what matters is what should be achieved after the dispute? How will life continue?
If you wish to win in an argument, then you need to follow three principles.
Principle 1: Will the other party correct it?
In real life, many women will get into arguments with men because they can't stand certain behaviors from men.
So the question arises: will the man correct the dispute after the dispute?
Some problems may be corrected by the other party, so that the dispute is valuable.
But everyone has their own deep-seated habits, which are part of human nature.
For example, some women may argue with their husband because he drinks alcohol every day.
Unfortunately, however, this physical dependence is difficult to change.
It's like a person who gets used to a certain taste and develops the habit of playing with a mobile phone, which is very difficult to change.
In real life, there are issues that can be resolved through arguments, and it is useful for women to have a proper tantrum tantrum.
However, there are some issues that are difficult to change. Put the problem on the women themselves, and they will find that some of their problems are just as difficult to overcome.
That's human nature.
Principle 2: Is there any other way to communicate besides disputes?
In real life, if a woman always wants to get into an argument with a man, this actually sends a signal:
Are there any other effective ways to communicate besides arguments?
Because the essence of a dispute is to magnify one's own needs and prevent certain actions of the other party.
Some people argue because they can't communicate through other means.
Before seeing a post a husband always mocking and belittling his wife, putting pressure on her in various things.
And because the wife did not control the family finances, she was also dissatisfied with her husband and began to fight back.
If they are able to sit down and express their needs without getting angry, discuss what is expected of their spouse.
Then, they don't have to sneer at each other and make personal attacks on each other every day.
In real life, disputes can solve some problems, but not all of them.
Because once the argument starts, the person's emotions will get out of control and say something hurtful.
No one will notice what the actual problem is.
Therefore, men and women who often argue need to reflect on whether both parties can sit down calmly and communicate effectively like adults?
Principle 3: How to ensure that both parties can grow from the dispute.
In real life, disputes often do not solve the problem, but can exacerbate the conflict.
Therefore, we need to learn to grow in the midst of disputes.
For women, they need to learn to control their emotions and not let arguments escalate into bad words.
For men, they need to learn to listen, understand women's needs, and not let arguments become a chasm between them.
It's only when both parties grow that a dispute can truly become valuable.
In conclusion, in an emotional life, disputes are unavoidable.
However, as long as we can follow these three principles, we can grow and make life better.
In real strife, every dispute is based on rational debate. Some arguments are really just emotional releases.
This kind of argument, on the surface, brings temporary pleasure and can make people pour out their inner grievances. The problems behind it are still latent and have not been solved.
In some relationships, both men and women, if they encounter difficulties or boredom in life, they tend to find fault with each other's small mistakes and use this as an outlet to vent their emotions.
If this behavior continues, there will inevitably be a rift in the bond between the two sides. How so? Because no one wants to be an emotional trash can.
This practice can easily be seen as vexatious by the partner.
For women, arguing is an expression of emotion. However, it is more important to establish communication mechanisms in your daily life and learn how to communicate your thoughts to your partner in a reasonable way.
Although this is not an easy task, this style of communication is very effective in dealing with relationship issues.