Liu Yuxi has such a saying: "There are monks to talk and laugh, and no one has time to come and go." ”
The personal qualities of a person are embodied in the people with whom he associates.
Because Liu Yuxi has a high-quality social circle, even if it is a "dilapidated room", he can confidently ask: "Why is it so shabby?".”
People come together, and things divide into different groups. The circle you associate with also reflects your own level. If these three groups of people come to your home regularly, rising poverty is not a good sign.
01: Relatives use.
Chinese attach great importance to family affection and blood relations. Relatives with broken bones or tendons should help each other.
However, there are relatives who do not see their loved ones as relatives, but as people who are being taken advantage of. I don't want to give anything, but I always want to take advantage of my relatives.
If you often have relatives who are trying to take advantage of you, you need to take action. We cannot continue to ignore such people.
Taking advantage of your relatives may not cause you much damage personally, but it will affect your reputation.
If you show off or sell yourself, others will think you're a good talker and easy to bully. Anyway, they want to come to your house and talk to you. This is the most annoying thing.
To help one person, you have to help a lot of people. Otherwise, with one less person to help, you will receive special treatment and get caught up in the gossip of relatives.
Don't give such relatives a chance from the beginning. Only then will you be able to protect yourself once and for all.
02: Eccentric Elder.
Knowing how to get along with elders is the hardest. The elders themselves are in a strong position in their interactions and have a natural sense of dignity. If you have an elder with an eccentric personality who often comes to your house to do things for you, it can be a real headache.
Elders should treat juniors equally. It is also normal that some preferences are based on personal preferences, compatibility with each other, depth of affection, distance in the relationship, etc.
But if an elder uses his seniority to force you to pay for the young man he likes, you can't blindly follow such an elder, but to refuse, resist, and you have to learn.
Some people just can't say no to their elders, especially their parents.
There are many more such examples in reality. When parents ask their children to pay for another child, children often have to dare to refuse or resist, even if it affects their normal lives.
Qualifications aren't everything. We should live for ourselves. It's never your fault to refuse an unreasonable request from an elder.
03: A gibberish friend.
It's normal for friends to visit each other, but you also have to choose which ones you are allowed to visit each other.
Home is our most intimate place, and all one's secrets are exposed. If you have a lot of soft-spoken friends who like to spread gossip, that's not good for you.
First of all, it shows that you don't know the person very well. Such people should not be invited as friends. It's enough to get to know each other casually.
Secondly, it is difficult to control and cannot control how the information spread by these friends will affect you.
* The power is much greater than you think. If the misinformation spread by these friends leaves a negative impression on others, the effects will be difficult to eliminate.
It's good to be honest with others, but don't let your honesty or kindness be an excuse for others to hurt you.
If these unsuitable people come in and out of your home frequently, you will become more depressed and affect your own growth. What you should do is clear your social circle and leave only the most valuable people behind.