Zhang Jiaxing is my name, 41 years old this year, and has never been married.
I work in a foreign language training institution in Beijing.
I have a younger sister who is 38 years old and married with two children.
Her brother-in-law and she are high school classmates and have a stable working life in Beijing.
I was born in a small mountain village in the northeast, my parents were farmers, and my family had a few acres of land.
When we were children, our families were poor, and our parents were frugal and kept the house.
My parents' generation had a hard time surviving, so they were more frugal in life.
My mother hadn't bought new clothes for many years, and she always wore patched clothes.
Her father advised her to "not wear patched clothes to make people laugh", but her mother insisted on "saving money for the two children to go to college".
My father started as a casual worker in a mine in the town next door, and a few years later became a full-time worker.
My father worked hard in three shifts down the well.
In order to ensure that he was well rested, his mother basically did not let him do housework.
Mother is very capable and walks easily on the shoulders of resistant sacks.
Our brother and sister have no worries about their studies and have excellent exam results.
I was admitted to a university in Dalian, and my sister went to school in Inner Mongolia.
My parents planned for me to return to the county to work and buy a house in the county after graduation, but I chose to stay in Dalian and work in the field of foreign languages.
Bought my first home a few years later.
Due to my outstanding performance, I was transferred to Beijing by the company.
After graduating, my sister also came to Beijing with her boyfriend, and we settled here.
After work, my life has gradually stabilized, and I no longer need my mother to work so hard.
Although I repeatedly advised her to rent out the land or let someone else farm, she insisted on "exercising" and saving for me to find a partner.
She not only farms, but also picks mountain dates and apricots every year.
Personal problems have not been resolved for a long time, and my sister has a good relationship with her boyfriend, so they should not be allowed to wait.
So, my sister got married first.
After my sister gave birth to the eldest child, my mother-in-law couldn't take care of the child, and my mother took care of her for more than two years.
After the child goes to kindergarten, the mother returns to her hometown.
I was urged to marry by my mother, but I never met a suitable match, so I procrastinated.
A week before my sister was pregnant with her second child, her mother suddenly fainted while shaving potatoes, and she never woke up after being sent to the hospital, and finally passed away.
My mother was frugal and hardworking all her life, but she did not enjoy the joy of family.
My sister was heartbroken and couldn't say goodbye to her mother.
Compared to my sister's grief and me, my father seemed unusually calm, and people felt that he was cold and unforgiving.
After settling my mother, I returned to Beijing to work.
Before leaving, he told his father to take care of himself.
My aunt married in this village and took care of my father, but my father had plans to remarry, but I objected to it to no avail.
My father quietly married a woman he knew, and my sister and I threatened not to return home to take care of him.
The father didn't care, saying that he could take care of himself.
My father lost contact after remarrying, but last year he asked to live with me in Beijing.
I refused and was furious, but my father was unmoved.
Later, I learned that the father transferred his assets to his new wife and sold the house to fund his daughter to build a big house, but he was refused to live together.
The aunt said: Many people persuaded my father not to sell the house, but my father didn't listen, probably because he was confused at that time.
Now my father is too busy to take care of himself, and he has no money on hand, and he wants to find me.
He said that it was okay not to live with me, as long as he was given 3,000 yuan a month, he would go back to his hometown.
Actually, I really don't want to care about him, but after all, it's my biological father, and I still can't bear it.
In the end, I promised him 1,000 yuan a month, and he returned to his hometown temporarily.
But he's definitely going to come back and ask for money, and what do you think I'm going to do when he comes back and asks for money?