Bao Dad teaches by word and deed, why is he persuaded honest people to compromise with the lowest cost but is criticized by education?
Why is "convincing an honest person to pay the least price"?
Luo Yonghao once said that even if he is a bad person, when educating his children, he will often mention "being a good person". Nowadays, almost no one feels that there is a problem with their children's education.
But objectively speaking, the method of raising children is very different. For example, the question of whether parents should tell their children what happened to them early on, such as "the heart is sinister" or who is in a dilemma because of poverty, becomes controversial.
The price of persuading honest people to make concessions is the smallest", the father said to his child, human nature is **, and the word "honest" may have been a compliment in the sixties and seventies, a sign of trust and trust. Today, though, the term "brainless" has become a mockery of "brainless and bullied by others".
Recently, a parent asked his child to learn taekwondo, which caused a heated discussion on the Internet. The little boy looked to be in his teens and was the second child in the family. He wondered why his sister was going to learn boxing, which was so difficult to learn, while his sister was going to learn to dance.
To my surprise, my dad said that because my sister is a very strict person and you are so kind, I am afraid that you will be bullied in school in the future. The boy was even more confused, he said, today's students are still very friendly, and they can be reasonable or call the police for anything.
Subsequently, the father's words sparked heated discussions on the Internet. He said that being friendly now does not mean that there will be kindness in the future, that there are too many things in the world that cannot be explained by reason, and people are more willing to persuade honest people to make concessions, and that price is minimal.
My dad told me that it was hard to reason with the bad guys and force them to do something. So, if you want to be unharmed, you have to be stronger. Learn taekwondo, and no one will come to you for trouble.
I don't think the world is what you think**. He admits that in this cruel society, it is difficult to deal with even the most basic things without great power.
The parent's actual perception sparked sympathy from others, who said they had the same experience. Excessive kindness and honesty can lead to disaster. Perhaps, it was his father's personal experience that made him understand the meaning of this sentence.
However, some netizens objected, feeling that parents should not tell children of this age about "sinister people's hearts". They thought it was the parents' idea, and the child seemed optimistic, and telling the child something about the dark side of the world might change his already good temperament.
Some suggested that it would be better to communicate with their children individually, although they initially agreed with them. Making this a public idea would allow outsiders to judge that there is "not enough positive value".
In this regard, I have a deep feeling that no matter what the opinion on the Internet is, it will always lead to controversy. Talking about the goodness of humanity may be criticized as whitewashing; The feeling of powerlessness when talking about reality may be interpreted as creating anxiety and leading negative thinking.
The realistic game is really cruel. In the process of teaching, whether to expose negative cases to children or whether to tell children about the family financial situation is actually a parent's trouble: letting children know these harsh realities will make children have negative emotions and even lose their motivation to move upward; But if they don't tell them, they are also afraid that their children will be harmed.
In fact, the cultivation of positive personality of college students and the cultivation of their risk concept are not in conflict. Here's a good example: to do good things requires a sharp mind, and to be honest you need a smart mind.
In fact, nothing is really "good" and "bad". Most people have a good side, but they also have a ** side. Forcing a person to change his or her natural strength or gentleness is not only unrealistic, but counterproductive.
For example, my sister showed a big-hearted, straightforward personality with a bit of "savagery". And her brother is a "little warm man". The warnings of his parents made him learn to be vigilant and learn to protect himself, but this did not stop him from being a gentle person.
In stark contrast, some parents overemphasize their children's humility, gentleness, and see themselves as their children's "number one bully"; That's even worse. For some foreign students, this may be even more pronounced.
Subject] Do you think this parent is right?