Sometimes I wonder what we live for in this life.
Most people have worked hard for their children all their lives, and when they reach retirement age, they are still working hard for their grandchildren.
If you reach retirement age and can't do it anymore, it's good to have a pension income, but if you don't, it will be more difficult to live.
A grandmother in our village, her wife died of illness in the early years, and when she was young, she worked hard to raise the family's five children.
Now that she is old, her children have their own families.
A few years ago, she could still do some housework and take care of her grandchildren, but now that she is older, her family is not worried about her taking care of her children.
Because she couldn't do anything, she began to be disliked by her family. Later, because the living habits of young people were too different, they came out and lived alone.
Because when she was young, she had no formal job, no social security, and no pension in her old age, so her life was quite miserable.
According to her family, her children rarely give her living allowances, and most of them rely on her own scavenging and selling waste paper and scrap metal for some money.
This grandmother's experience made me think about what people live for in this life!
In life, there are many people like grandma who have lived for others all their lives.
They may be for their parents, or for their children, or for their other half, but they are not for themselves.
In fact, in this world, the person we should love the most is ourselves, because only by letting ourselves live well can we love others better.
Dale Carnegie once said
Loving yourself is the foundation of everything. ”
So, whether it's now, or every ordinary day in the future, love yourself well and live for yourself!
So, how do you love yourself?
Next, I will share 10 ways to love yourself that I hope will inspire you. **
Take care of your body and value your health;
Health is the most important wealth in life, and nothing can be talked about without health.
Therefore, girls should take good care of their bodies, pay attention to diet and nutrition, exercise regularly, and ensure adequate sleep.
Don't neglect your health for the sake of work, study or other things, only when you are healthy can you live and work better.
Accept your imperfect self;
Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and girls have to learn to accept their imperfect selves.
Don't be too yourself, don't always envy others, and believe that you also have advantages that others can't have.
Only by accepting yourself can you better play to your strengths and live a more confident life.
When encountering bad people and bad things, break off in time;
There will always be some bad people and bad things in life, and these things often make us depressed and anxious.
When encountering problems, we should deal with and solve them in a timely manner, and do not delay and evade.
For these negative emotions, we must learn to let go of them in time.
Don't let these things affect your mood and quality of life, learn to let go and start over.
Focus on your own growth and spend your energy on what is worthwhile;
Everyone has their own goals and pursuits, and girls need to learn to focus on their own growth and progress.
Don't always try to compare yourself with others or follow in the footsteps of others, but have your own independent thinking and judgment ability.
Spend your energy on things that are worthwhile, keep learning and growing, so that you can better achieve your dreams. **
Stop pleasing and more importantly make yourself stronger;
To please others will only make oneself humble and insignificant. Don't do things you don't like in order to fit in or please others.
Girls must learn to make themselves stronger, have their own opinions and judgments, and only when they are strong will they win real respect and attention.
Only when you become stronger, can you better protect yourself and the people around you.
Build a healthy social circle;
Social circles have a great impact on a person, and a healthy social circle can make people more positive and full of positive energy.
Therefore, girls should learn to choose a healthy social circle and socialize more with positive and like-minded people.
At the same time, you must also learn to maintain your social circle and not let some negative emotions or bad habits affect yourself and the people around you.
Learn to be alone with yourself and manage your energy;
Being alone is an ability and a way of life.
Girls have to learn to be alone with themselves and enjoy lonely time. When you are alone, you can settle your heart, think about your future, and plan your life.
At the same time, we must also learn to manage our energy, not always in a state of excessive fatigue, but also learn to adjust our mentality and state to maintain a positive mental outlook. **
Learn the skills to make money and make yourself more valuable;
Making money is both an ability and a guarantee. Girls need to learn the skills to make money, and they need to have their own financial independence and autonomy.
Don't always rely on others or give up your dreams and principles for money.
Only when you become more valuable can you better realize your dreams and pursue a better quality of life.
Take care of your image;
Image is a person's business card, but also the embodiment of a person's inner world.
Girls should learn to take care of their image and maintain a clean, tidy and tasteful image.
This is not only respect and care for yourself, but also respect and concern for others.
A good image can not only make you more confident and happy, but also make the people around you feel your charm and temperament.
Take care of your emotions and find a happy balance.
Emotions are a psychological reaction that everyone has, and girls have to learn to take care of their emotions.
Don't let your emotions affect your life and work, learn to adjust your emotions and mentality.
At the same time, it is also necessary to find a balance of happiness, and don't always neglect your own happiness and joy for the sake of perfection.
Recently, I saw a very transparent passage to share with you:
Get married, don't live for your other half. If you have children, don't live for them, live for yourself.
Eat whatever you want, play whatever you want. Don't take things seriously, be relieved, the more you think about it. It can always pass.
Be happy to live every day, and if you are well, you will be good to others. ”
When we learn to love ourselves, we will find that life is full of sunshine and hope, and we will become more confident and happy.
Only when we are happy can we love others better.
As Lin Huiyin said:
Seek love before making a living, love others first love yourself".
I hope that girls can love themselves well, live for themselves, start from these little things, and seek happiness for themselves!
All of the above!