63-year-old Aunt Wang lamented that people become unproductive when they get old, and they are especially eager to reunite with their children, but every time she gets together with them, she must be careful and try to avoid offense, but even so, she still annoys her children because of a word, a thing, and an expression, and she really doesn't know what she is wrong with.
Recently, the grandchildren and grandchildren on winter vacation have made Aunt Wang miss her children even more. She sent a WeChat message at 6 a.m., inviting her three children to come to the house for dinner with her grandchildren and grandchildren, but did not receive a reply from her children until 10 p.m., and they unanimously decided not to go to Aunt Wang's house, but chose to eat hot pot outside because they thought Aunt Wang's cooking was unpalatable and the place at home was small.
Although she was in a bad mood, Aunt Wang happily accepted her children's proposal, saying that the important thing was to be reunited, and she didn't care about eating. She promised to treat her the next day.
At noon the next day, Aunt Wang's two sons, a daughter and their children came to the hot pot restaurant. Aunt Wang smiled like a waitress, but the expressions of the children were not pleasant.
As soon as he sat down, the youngest son began to complain impatiently: "Mom, why don't you listen to me, don't send WeChat messages at six o'clock in the morning, we still have to sleep, and then I will really kick you out of the group." ”
The daughter was also unhappy and said, "Mom, you always think about having dinner, have you ever thought that we all have our own affairs?" Every day is busy, how can you be in the mood to have dinner every day! ”
Aunt Wang smiled and apologized: "I'm sorry, I won't send messages so early in the future, and I won't invite dinner parties frequently, you can contact me once every half a month or once a month." ”
The children did not respond, and the eldest son urged him to order food quickly.
The eldest son said to Aunt Wang, "You order what you like to eat." ”
Aunt Wang hurriedly excused herself: "You order, I'll eat everything." ”
So the children began to order, and after ten minutes, all the dishes were ordered, and only Aunt Wang did not order.
The eldest son said angrily, "Mom, what's wrong with you? Don't you like to eat? Still reluctant to spend money? That's enough! ”
The youngest son said sarcastically: "Mom, you have been like this all your life, you are very picky about eating, I guess you are reluctant to spend money." ”
The daughter said impatiently: "Eat, let Mom see how embarrassing it is!" ”
Aunt Wang lowered her head and red eyes, and asked the waiter to order a few vegetarian dishes and a meat dish.
Aunt Wang was puzzled: "Why do my children laugh at me like this?" Isn't it okay to live a frugal life? Am I doing something wrong? ”
Everyone gathers and starts enjoying a delicious dinner. The table is filled with all kinds of delicacies, and the steaming hot pot is mouth-watering.
Aunt Wang happily soaked some vegetarian dishes and tasted them carefully. However, when she noticed that there were no beef meatballs on her granddaughter's à la carte menu, she quickly cooked one for her granddaughter and put it in her bowl.
However, this act of kindness aroused the disgust of her granddaughter: "Grandma, don't give me vegetables." Even if you want to clip it to me, please use chopsticks, hygiene issues! The granddaughter said as she put the beef meatballs on the trash tray next to her.
Aunt Wang felt a little embarrassed, she nodded and withdrew her chopsticks. At this time, she found that her daughter sitting on the left side did not order beef balls, so she sandwiched one and put it in her daughter's small hot pot.
However, this time it caused her daughter's dissatisfaction, and she loudly reprimanded Aunt Wang: "Mom, it's too unhygienic for you to use used chopsticks to pick up vegetables for others." How can this be eaten! As she spoke, the daughter scooped out the beef meatballs and threw them in the trash.
Aunt Wang lowered her head, remained silent, and held back her tears. In her heart, she remembered the fact that her youngest son liked to eat beef balls the most, even though he didn't order them. This time, she learned a lesson, so she put down her chopsticks, walked up to her youngest son, picked up the only two beef balls left on the plate, and said softly: "You loved to eat this when you were a child, so I will eat it for you." ”
However, the youngest son was furious: "Mom, can you let people eat quietly?" If I want to eat it, I'll order it myself. You just order a few balls, clip this for a while, and give that for a while, it's really annoying! Aunt Wang was frightened by her son's anger and was at a loss, and tears slipped down.
Aunt Wang began to think: "Why is my love for my children always incomprehensible?" Why can't they understand my kindness? ”
At a hot pot restaurant, Aunt Wang eats with her family. The atmosphere was not pleasant, everyone was eating with their heads buried in their own meals, and the children were even more impatient with their mobile phones. Aunt Wang blamed herself in her heart, thinking that if she hadn't ordered the beef meatballs that saved 30 yuan, maybe the children could enjoy the meal more happily.
After eating for a while, Aunt Wang got up to check out, but was taken aback by the bill, a total of 1,799 yuan, almost half a month's pension. She sighed silently in her heart, feeling that if she used this money to buy beef and mutton, she could eat it for as many days, but in a hot pot restaurant, this money was only enough for one meal.
Back in her seat, Aunt Wang began to pack the remaining food, but was reprimanded by her eldest son that the dishes had been washed and would rot overnight, and said that the behavior of packing at a hot pot restaurant was very inappropriate. Despite this, Aunt Wang still stubbornly packed up the leftover vegetables.
To make matters worse, she began to scoop up the meat from each hot pot and put it in a packing bag, which caused displeasure among her younger son and daughter. The daughter even took away the plastic bag and accused Aunt Wang of being unhygienic in doing so, while Aunt Wang defended that it was just food she bought herself and could take it home if she didn't finish it. This caused an argument between family members.
In the end, the eldest son said that he would never go out to eat with Aunt Wang again, and the rest of the family also left one after another. Aunt Wang felt remorseful, and what she was most afraid of was losing the opportunity to eat with her family.
At the urgent urging of his grandson, the family soon left the hot pot restaurant. Aunt Wang was silent, and tears slipped quietly.
In the end, Aunt Wang's eyes were filled with tears and she couldn't help asking, "Am I wrong?" ”
I fell silent and couldn't answer Aunt Wang's question. February** Dynamic Incentive Program
I don't want to accuse Aunt Wang's children of lacking filial piety, nor do I want to criticize Aunt Wang's outdated concepts. But situations like Aunt Wang's are not uncommon, and we should think about how to avoid such situations.
I think that if children can experience more of the regret of "children want to be raised but not treated", they may be more patient.
For parents, no matter how much they pay, it is better to maintain good health and cultivate their own hobbies, so that children can be more at ease.