01 Forty-year-old Li Wei blinked, and the dense names of relatives on the mobile phone screen made him sigh, and the definition of family affection seemed to have undergone an irreversible transformation in this society.
The post-70s generation bears the imprints of historical traditions, which are like symbols engraved in the bone marrow and cannot be easily erased. However, with the passage of time, these symbols have gradually blurred, and the post-70s generation seems to have become a little "disgusted". In busy big cities, some post-70s generations choose to cut back on their interactions with relatives, and some even stop going back to their hometowns altogether and focus on their small families.
The post-80s generation, a group sandwiched between the two generations, has become a generation that is not in charge. They are different from the tradition of the post-70s, and they are also different from the only children of the post-90s. In the post-80s, a phenomenon of "severing relatives" gradually emerged. With the death of their parents, they began to dilute their traditional customs, and because of their estrangement from their relatives, they evolved into a state of helpless "disconnection".
The post-90s generation is more unique than the previous two generations. Most of the post-90s generation are only children, and their kinship has become very indifferent. They don't even know their cousins and cousins. This trend of individualization makes the relationship of kinship less and less existential.
02 In the changes of this era, people's attitudes towards kinship are also undergoing subtle changes. The post-70s "disgust with relatives" may only be a superficial phenomenon, although they don't like relatives very much, they will still act on the spot on holidays and maintain a certain family relationship. However, this tradition of kinship has become weaker and weaker in the post-80s generation, and they have gradually become a group of "severed relatives". After the death of their parents, they are confronted not only with traditional customs, but also with the reality of alienation from their relatives. The post-90s generation has gone one step further and become the pioneer of "not recognizing relatives", and their strangeness to relatives is even more significant as only children.
The changes of these three generations reflect the gradual decline in the importance of kinship in society. People's concepts gradually favor "small families" and "individuals", and the foundation of large family feelings gradually collapses. With the convenience of life and the advancement of urbanization, people's dependence on relatives is decreasing, and the traditional pattern of family relationships is also changing.
Each generation has its own choices, each generation has its own characteristics, and each generation has its own life. Family relationships or dislike relatives, or disconnection, or disintegration, are part of the changes of this era.
03 The changes in the kinship of these three generations profoundly reflect the evolution of family affection and the change of concepts in society. First of all, people gradually pay less attention to kinship, and people no longer look down as they did in the past. The traditional pattern of rural areas is disappearing, and family affection is gradually fading. Secondly, the change of perception is biased towards the "small family" or "individual", which makes the foundation of the feelings of the large family gradually disintegrate. Think about it, when people no longer have the concept of a big family, how can the rest of the feelings exist? Finally, with the convenience of life and urbanization, people have more choices and no longer need to rely on groups of relatives. Different people in a family live in different cities, and it is difficult to keep warm together. In this way, the traditional pattern of kinship will change radically.
Each generation has its own choices and characteristics, among which the change of kinship or dislike, or disconnection, or disobedience, is a microcosm of the changes of the times. This change not only reflects the development of society, but also expresses the individual's desire for freedom and choice. Family affection may be gradually evolving into a more free and relaxed interpersonal relationship, and everyone is looking for their own way of life in different times and backgrounds.
In this era of rapid change, we may need to be more rational about changes in kinship. Whether it is disgust, disconnection, or disobedience, it is a choice made by individuals in the face of social change. Perhaps, we should pay more attention to and understand the choices made by everyone in this era, and strive to create a more relaxed and understanding social atmosphere. Because, after all, family affection is part of building a warm society.