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Many of my friends have confided in me about the experience of being betrayed and calculated by my friends, and it is truly painful.
I know this feeling myself, because I have seen and experienced many of these examples first-hand in the course of my entrepreneurial experience.
I know that on the road to success, sometimes the most difficult thing to guard against may be the hidden arrow from the side.
Therefore, when you have certain advantages, life circumstances are better than those around you, and you have the determination to strive for excellence, learn to keep a low profileDo not easily expose your wealth and strength, and uphold the principle of "making a fortune in silence".
At the same time, don't be naïve enough to assume that everyone can relate to pure feelings, especially when dealing with people at the bottom who are very different from your background
It is also necessary to stay sober and avoid being deceived by superficial phenomena such as morality and ethics.
Excessive trust in the character of the disadvantaged at the bottom often leads to the loss of due vigilance, which can indeed bring fatal risks.
When people around you—including loved ones—find that you have abundant resources—they may consciously or unconsciously test your bottom line and try to figure out the best way to get along with you.
If you're always willing to help and be easy-going, they'll likely try to take advantage of that, and if you don't stop it, it's likely to continue.
Eventually, you will understand that as long as you are in a position to excel, whether in wealth, status, or anything else, as long as you have the resources that others desire but are out of reach
Then you have planted the seeds of potential dependence and even blood-sucking behavior that others may have.
Money is important, but it is possible to recover it after loss.
However, intangible assets such as emotions and mood are far more valuable than money, and are more likely to be targets for "parasites".
When you have resources that are out of the reach of others, jealousy ensues.
If you are a tolerant and unsusceptible person, this jealousy may be further amplified, causing them to shift their grievances from life to you and try to find psychological balance.
The reason why many good-looking women from ordinary families are good at manipulating men and making many men revolve around them is that their beauty naturally attracts all kinds of suitors, and their own lack of a strong background as an umbrella forces them to learn how to deal with men with bad motives, so they gradually develop a set of strategies to deal with men.
On the other hand, if a woman is beautiful but has a bad family background and does not know how to get along with the opposite sex and keep her distance, then her end is often tragic
It is likely that he will become the object of play by different men and end up being abandoned.
So, want to live a comfortable and comfortable life,You must know how to defend moderately, and if you are too kind, you will be easily taken advantage of.
Don't worry about sticking to principles and bottom lines that will make interpersonal relationships worse, the key to determining the quality of interpersonal communication lies in your own strength and value.
As for some who insist on morality, quality,
Character and kindness are important factors in maintaining interpersonal relationships
But in reality, especially in certain situations, these qualities do not translate directly into actual interpersonal strengths.
When dealing with people with poor economic conditions, we should carefully choose ways to help, keep a proper distance, and avoid unnecessary entanglements.
Someone questioned me: "How can you say such a thing, away from the poor and close to the rich, it's unbelievable!" ”
Another person warned: "If you don't have a conscience and morality, you won't be able to go far after all, and disaster will befall you." ”
Some people even agreed, reminding: "I think some of what you said is right, but we still need to keep a good heart."No matter what others do to you
We must try to tolerate each other as much as possible, and be virtuous in order to go long-term. ”
From these responses, it can be seen that some people still have a long way to go in their understanding of wealth accumulation.
Although their starting point advocates understanding and inclusion of others,
With a certain amount of intelligence, but they ignore a key issue:
Too obsessed with idealized character standards,
It is a very dangerous mistake to ignore the complexity of human nature and the rules of the game in the real world.
In other words, their worldview is relatively simple, underestimating the complexity of human nature.
If you are too gullible in the character of others, you are likely to be manipulated and betrayed.
Someone might retort: "I'm doing well now, I've never been hurt, I'm good to others, and others are good to me." ”
I would say that this may be because your value is not yet valued or needed by others.
When you are not "attractive" enough, you will naturally not easily become the target of other people's calculations.
But if you really have a certain amount of wealth and status, those who are waiting for the opportunity to move
Those who try to take advantage of you will follow, and then you will understand what I am talking about today.
If you're sincere and haven't been hurt, there are two possible scenarios:
First, your current value is limited and does not constitute a threat or attraction to others
Therefore, there is no need for others to calculate against you. Just like a harmless little pet dog, it can get along with the people around it because it is not aggressive and threatening.
The little people at the bottom often have less conflict and suspicion with each other because of their limited resources, but this is not because they have noble personalities, but because they do not have much value to use.
Second, your background is so strong that the people around you are in awe of you and don't dare to think anything wrong.
For example, if your father is a powerful person, even if you are completely honest with others and keep giving, others will not dare to deviate from you.
Everyone you meet will greet you with a smile and show that you know how to be grateful in return.
However, they do not do this out of high moral character, but because they know that if they do something sorry for you, they will face serious consequences.
Therefore, they choose to respond to you with kindness and even restrain their greed so as not to invite trouble.
Do you think they will give up the opportunity to take advantage for no reason?
Think they're going to give for no reason instead of taking your value?
If it is due to the high character or your enthusiasm that moves them, I am afraid that even you will not believe it.
Don't overestimate your place and value in the eyes of others.
In reality, most people belong to the former, that is, they are not easy to be exploited because of their own weakness, while the latter has a deep background and is intimidating, and most of the time it is difficult for us to experience it personally.
Pay attention to it and encourage you together.
The more you are like this, the less others dare to mess with you (Deep Beauty Article).