Hello dear readers! I'm Lin Fengyu, and today I want to share my special story – the breakdown and growth of marriage. This story tells us what an important revelation lies behind my heart-wrenching and bitter lesson.
I love what I do and am a senior software engineer – that's the main part of my life**. God has given me a decent job with a fixed salary of 25,000 yuan per month, which allows me to live in this small town that is not wealthy, and still live a relatively comfortable life. During the days of working here, I always maintained a serious attitude and professionalism, and worked hard to achieve excellent results. Of course, the most important thing is that my beloved ex-wife met me because of her work relationship.
I reminisce about the romantic times we had, such as watching Hollywood blockbusters, enjoying delicious food, stepping into beautiful natural scenery, etc., and these wonderful memories are enough to make people feel grateful and full of tenderness. However, as time passed, these memories slowly faded in my mind, replaced by deep regret and pain. Faced with the reality of a broken marriage, I had to sort out my emotions and end the relationship with her, whom I once loved.
She, Xiaofang, is a woman with outstanding looks. Working at the front desk of the company, she has won the praise and love of colleagues and customers with her cheerful personality and charming smile. However, it was not all smooth sailing in our marriage. After we chose to get married, I found that she was quite different from me in many ways. As the ancients said, "Words are not speculated in more than half a sentence", and these differences eventually led to the brink of ruin.
Xiaofang's consumption style is the opposite of mine. She is keen to buy luxury items such as designer clothes, exquisite bags, and all kinds of high-end cosmetics, while I have always maintained a rational consumption concept and am good at controlling financial spending. She often gets emotional when we disagree, and on one occasion she even threatened me and broke a porcelain vase that I held so dear, before picking up a fruit knife on the coffee table. This heated quarrel triggered a conflict that had accumulated over a long period of time, so much so that I had to seriously consider ending the marriage.
Looking back, the romantic and sweet times we once enjoyed together seem to have become distant dreams. Xiao Fang often asks me for various shopping needs, and if she doesn't fully meet her expectations, she will make me feel endless stress and exhaustion. I look forward to the future, and I hope that marriage can be like a balance that carries love, where one side gives money and material support, and on the other hand, our heart and soul are perfectly matched. Only in this way can love develop steadily and lastingly.
However, all hopes and hopes were dashed on that fateful night, when a family feud erupted. At that moment, I deeply realized that marriage is a journey full of passion and challenges, not a combination of simple fast food. We need to keep working hard to operate, to maintain, to compromise, to be inclusive. In this process, we must learn to respect each other's perspectives and habits, and try to listen to each other's deepest desires and needs, so that we can find a way forward together.
The road of marriage is a new field for each of us. There is no one-size-fits-all answer or foolproof solution. The only thing we can do is to explore bravely, learn actively, and tolerate patiently. In this process, no matter what kind of difficulties and setbacks we encounter, we should always persevere, stick to the sincerity and true feelings in our hearts, and believe in gold.