Those who love you, how can they bear to see you lose
How can someone who loves you so much be willing to let you be lost?
A lady found that her boyfriend was always looking for her faults, taking pictures of her was always not as good as her, and always giving her the worst **, always criticizing her before she started to do things, and claiming that it was for her good.
In the eyes of true lovers, you are right, how can you bear to hit your confidence?
There is a girl who once shared her experience that when she watched a movie with her boyfriend, because of her sensibility, she would cry along with the plot of the movie, but she was not understood and comforted by the other party, and was questioned as a neuropath.
She is convinced that the right people will lend a helping hand and pull you out of your difficult situation, while the wrong people will drag you into the water and put you in trouble in your happy moments.
Anne Ernaux, the first woman in French history to win the Nobel Prize in Literature. Despite the hardships of her literary journey, she persevered in her dreams, first publishing her first work at the age of 34 and winning widespread acclaim around the world until she was 82.
In her story, we see how many difficulties and challenges a woman has to endure in order to achieve her self-worth. Born in 1940 in a poor town in France, her parents ran a dilapidated grocery store, and despite the hardships of life, their greatest wish was for their daughter to marry a rich kid who could take them out of poverty and into the affluent class.
After graduating from university, she married her husband, who came from an intellectual elite family, as her parents wished.
She used to be the backbone of her family and a leader in her teaching position, but time has become a luxury for her. However, her husband not only did not understand and support her dream of writing, but instead sneered at her dream of being a writer, and even ruthlessly belittled it.
So, she could only hide in the study late at night when the whole family was asleep, while working, taking care of the two children, and concentrating on writing every word and sentence that had been repeatedly scrutinized in her heart.
It was when she was thirty-four years old that her first ** was finally published. However, when her husband learned the news, his first reaction was one of deep anger, saying, "If you have the ability to write a book, then you have the potential to deceive me." ”
After all, this marriage could not accommodate her dreams, and Anne finally chose to divorce.
Xu Zhimo still pursued Lin Huiyin after getting married, and after learning that Zhang Youyi was pregnant, he insisted that she have an abortion. Zhang Youyi said that if she had a miscarriage, her life would be in danger, but Xu Zhimo said that it was also dangerous to take the train, so why not take the train?
So, when a person doesn't love you, whatever you do is wrong. Your life or death has nothing to do with him, and he may want you to die early so that he can go to someone else. The person who loves you wants to give you the whole world, and he is afraid that he will not give enough, and the person who does not love you, even if you give him your whole life, he still feels that it is not enough.
So, how difficult is it to find the right person in the sea of people who is willing to be good to you and you are willing to be good to him? How can a man who really loves you bear to say that you are not in front of others, how can he not put himself in your shoes?
Some people say that a woman's greatest happiness is to find a good man, a good man will make you feel at ease, how can he let you lose outside? He will do everything he can to make you have face in front of others and make you win respect outside.
A man who constantly criticizes and belittles you, and no matter what you do, he will find your mistakes. He is extremely lacking in self-confidence and needs to be able to appear more capable than you in this way, to gain a sense of superiority.
This kind of behavior is extremely despicable, he takes pleasure in your pain, and long-term association with him will deeply hit your self-esteem, make you feel that your worth is denied, and even lose confidence in life.
If a man truly loves you, his heart will ache for you, he will be reluctant, and he will be sad for what happened to you. He will lend a helping hand when you are in trouble, and he will shelter you when you are in trouble.
No matter what the circumstances, he will pamper you and feel sorry for your grievances. How can someone who truly loves you watch you suffer?