Take grandchildrenyears, the joy of family is not also, self-comforting.
In the twenty-second year of my retirement, my son called** and said that he and his wife were too busy to take care of the children and wanted me to help. Faced with my son's request, I readily agreed.
Although I originally envisioned my retirement life, I thought it would be a good choice if I could help my son. However, over the past five years, I have come to understand that family happiness is not as good as I originally thought.
Raising kids and working are really two completely different experiences.
It's really not easy to take care of children. Mr. Lu Xun has broken it many years ago, he said: "Children look interesting, but being together all day is trouble." "I also deeply feel the same way, I need to take care of my grandson's food, drink and Lazar every day, and take me to and from school, because of my help, my daughter-in-law no longer has to do housework, but increases my housework.
This kind of toil can only be truly understood by those who have experienced it firsthand.
Although I am a cadre in the unit, I found that it is not good to educate my grandson in the same way as teaching employees. Bringing a baby is a lot of work, and children of every age have their own problems.
Adults can guide them by reasoning, but small children are too young to understand your intentions. Children's emotions are volatile, and crying is also a common thing.
I remember when my little grandson would bounce, he would be even more naughty, going up to the sky and going down to the ground for a while, as if there was no place he couldn't go.
I understand my son's thoughts, it's not that I can't afford to hire a confinement wife, but that my mother is more cost-effective. You may think that your child will always grow up, and it will be easy to take care of your child when it grows up, but this is not the case.
Before my grandson came back from work, I needed to cook and help with homework, and my identity changed qualitatively, in addition to taking care of my grandson, I also had to deal with the complicated relationship between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
I used to think that my daughter-in-law was a good-natured person, but now I found out that her temper is much bigger than I thought.
Probably because we don't see each other much a year, and now I have to face my daughter-in-law's dissatisfaction and pickiness. My daughter-in-law is a teacher who strongly believes that children should be raised according to the science in books, and my experience was gained from my son.
Every time she sees me, my daughter-in-law will start to criticize and educate me, and give me some preaching.
I've been used to talking like this in the past, and I've always been convinced that there is no problem with the way I take care of my grandchildren. I don't let people gossip, so there are a lot of arguments between me and my daughter-in-law.
There is nothing my wife and son can do about such a thing. As time went on, my relationship with my daughter-in-law became more and more strained. Although on the surface it seems that we are still getting along and getting along fairly well, deep down I am full of dissatisfaction and contradictions.
When we look at each other, we feel irritated and dissatisfied, and our relationship has reached the point where we are incompatible.
My son has talked to me privately that he is currently in a difficult situation in the family, facing conflicts between me and my daughter-in-law, and also suffering pressure from us. He hoped to find a solution where we could live in peace, but he felt he was in a dilemma.
I recognize that these issues can be both emotionally distressing and physically painful. I have already gone to the hospital for a check-up, and I have also reached menopause, I remember when my grandson was a child, once I carried him downstairs, and the last flight of stairs was empty, in order to protect him, my waist was smashed, and since then my back hurts so much that it is difficult to even straighten up.
My body was overwhelmed by the chores of taking care of my children and the heavy chores of housework, which was a huge challenge for me, let alone for me, who was already over half a hundred years old.
After five years of hard work in my son's home, instead of getting the recognition I deserved, I was left with all kinds of illnesses. Although they said they felt sorry for me, in reality, I used my pension to pay for most of my expenses.
Every time I hear them cry poor, my heart aches. I used to be able to save some money every year, but now I can't save even a penny, and I even need to use my old money.
I thought I would be able to get out of my life with a baby in five years, but my son told me that my daughter-in-law wanted a second child. When I heard the news, I was tormented. I love her grandchildren dearly and aspire to create a warm and happy family environment for the next generation to grow up healthy and strong.
However, considering my physical condition and my daughter-in-law's decision, I began to think about how to adjust my life and not be able to continue like this.
I want to tell my son and daughter-in-law that I have reached retirement age and I want to live a more relaxed and health-conscious life. In my opinion, health and longevity are the most important things.
I wish I could live a few more years and enjoy more joy in life. I realized that the life of the elderly in modern society is very stressful, not only to raise children, but also to take care of grandchildren.
Just like my son, he gave me the responsibility of raising the child and put me under a lot of pressure. I can't keep working like this, I need a life of my own.
I don't want to be misunderstood as hypocrisy, I want my life to be easier and more enjoyable.
My personal bitterness is something that only I can feel. So, I decided to change the status quo and start focusing on my physical health. I realized that I could only take better care of my children if I maintained good physical health.
Age is not a barrier to our pursuit of happiness and joy. As long as we are willing to change our life and care about our physical and spiritual lives, we can have a fulfilling and happy old age.
No matter when and where, we should create more wonderful memories for our lives. Friends, age has never been a constraint, as long as you want, any time is a new beginning.
In the new year, I plan to embark on a trip with my partner to some big cities and enjoy the scenery that I have always longed for. I think this year's Chinese New Year is an excellent time.
I will slowly let go and let them learn to live independently and not always rely on me and my partner.
What do you say? If your daughter-in-law is about to have a second child, are you willing to help with the child?