After losing his wife, he didn't marry, and his father-in-law was distressed
Children, don't play with these little things, when you grow up**, establish a noble character, don't do those despicable things. ”
Ma Yifu He Dingzhu has taught children to pursue the inner rather than the material since he was a child, which has played a positive guiding role in Ma Yifu's growth. His father, Ma Yanpei, was also a thinker and studied the study of righteousness and theory after the Song Dynasty, which had a profound impact on Ma Yifu's later philosophical system.
However, when Ma Yifu was 11 and 19 years old, the two most important people in his life passed away one after another. Ma Yifu had three older sisters, the third of whom died when he was 6 years old, and the second sister also died when he was 17 years old.
Ma Yifu's relatives kept dying when he was growing up, but only his eldest sister, who was 10 years older than him, was always by his side, and the relationship between the two was very deep.
Ma Yifu's life journey is full of tribulations, and these difficulties have made him mature early. His personality is not as casual as most people, but more rigorous and serious.
He is well aware that he needs to take on the responsibility of the family, but behind this tough appearance, there is a fragile heart. This is also one of the reasons for the deep emotional bond between him and his wife Tang Xiaochou.
Tang Xiaochou is the daughter of industrialist Tang Shouqian, deeply influenced by her father, with a literati style and indifferent to fame and fortune. When Ma Yifu was sixteen years old, he took the imperial examination, and his teacher Zheng Yi and cultural celebrity Lu Xun were also in the same examination.
Ma Yifu stood out in the highly competitive exam, surpassing Zheng Hao and Lu Xun in first place. His performances have attracted attention and everyone wonders why the 16-year-old has managed to achieve such great results.
Later, the test papers flowed out, and Tang Shouqian was full of praise for Ma Yifu's article after reading it, thinking that he was talented. Tang Shouqian even had the idea of letting Ma Yifu be his daughter and son-in-law, mainly because the two had similar personalities and concepts and appreciated each other.
In contrast, if Tang Shouqian looked at Lu Xun's test papers, he might have a different opinion. Tang Shouqian took active action to find a good son-in-law, and he immediately sent someone to the Ma family to propose marriage.
Ma Yifu's family was surprised by the sudden appearance of the matchmaker, because at that time, Tang Shouqian had not yet become the governor of the Zhejiang Military ** and the Minister of Communications, but was just an influential figure.
Although Ma Yifu had already become famous at a young age, he readily agreed to this family business, in part because of his admiration for Tang Shouqian. Therefore, this marriage is like opening a box of surprises.
What Ma Yifu didn't know was that the next three years would be the happiest three years of his life. After getting married, Tang Xiaochou quickly integrated into the life of the Ma family, mainly because she received a good education and she was also very good at handling family affairs.
In the process of Ma Yifu and Tang Xiaochou's relationship, the eldest sister of the Ma family played an important role. The population of the Ma family is small, except for Ma Yifu and Tang Xiaochou, the only one who needs to please is the eldest sister of the Ma family.
Compared to those famous families, the Ma family has a small number of people, so it is also easier to take care of and deal with. In addition, Tang Xiaochou has a deep admiration for Ma Yifu and willingly cooks for him.
His carefulness and thoughtfulness, as well as his politeness and understanding, have won Ma Yifu's love. Although Ma Yifu himself is more serious and reserved, Tang Xiaochou and the eldest sister of the Ma family get along very well, and the two have a deep relationship.
The eldest sister of the Ma family is a learned woman, influenced by her parents, she reads widely and knows all kinds of knowledge. At that time, there were not many women who could read and write, and it was even rarer to have outstanding knowledge like the eldest sister of the Ma family.
Ma Yifu has the power of "heart", and he can easily make the other party fall under her charm. Although Tang Xiaochou knows how to be a virtuous and virtuous wife, she doesn't know anything about culture, so she is full of admiration for the eldest sister of the Ma family.
In order to promote the relationship between Tang Xiaochou and Ma Yifu, the eldest sister of the Ma family can be said to have worked hard. She knew that her younger brother lacked maternal love since he was a child and had an introverted personality, so she often encouraged the shy Tang Xiaochou to take the initiative.
At first, the eldest sister of the Ma family didn't know that Tang Xiaoshu was illiterate, so she told her that she came from a cultural family and was knowledgeable, and she didn't know if Ma Yifu could match her.
After hearing this, Tang Xiaochou developed a strong curiosity and admiration for Ma Yifu, and often paid attention to him secretly. As soon as Ma raised his head, the eyes of the two met, and that ambiguous feeling quietly grew in the air.
The relationship between the two is like a frog boiled in warm water, gradually heating up. However, as time passed, Tang Xiaochou began to feel inferior, because Ma Yifu was a talented person, and she didn't think she was worthy of him.
She has high expectations for the eldest sister of the Ma family, but she herself relaxes her studies because of laziness, which makes her feel ashamed, and at the same time, she is also worried that Ma Yifu will leave her because of her inadequacy.
Her mood became more and more depressed, and she suffered from gains and losses.
Ma Yifu found that his wife's expression was wrong, so he asked carefully. He did not dislike his wife because she was illiterate, but thought that if he could not read and write, life would be like a blind man.
He comforted his wife, saying that he would find time to teach her to read and write, and also emphasized that she has incomparable advantages and does not need to be inferior.
There are always unfulfilled dreams in life, but it's never too late. The pursuit of excellence is the mission of life, and Ma Yifu did not devalue the value of reading, nor did he favor people with a low level of education.
And his words are more sincere and touching than sweet words. His love story is all the more touching because he and Tang Xiaochou were young and pure as a blank sheet of paper, but they were full of expectations for the future.
Tang Xiaochou began to devote himself to his studies, and received academic support from the eldest sister of the Ma family and Ma Yifu. She was born in a cultural family, and her knowledge and wisdom are excellent, coupled with hard work, her learning progress has been rapid.
Ma Yifu and Tang Xiaochou became acquainted with calligraphy because of calligraphy, and their relationship became deeper and deeper. At this time, Xie Wuliang and Ma Junwu invited Ma Yifu to Shanghai to found the magazine "Twentieth Century Translation World", which undoubtedly provided Ma Yifu with a good opportunity to learn and develop, and Ma Yifu had no reason to refuse.
However, thinking that he would go to Shanghai and could not teach Tang Xiaochou in person, Ma Yifu hesitated. However, the eldest sister of the Ma family and Tang Xiaochou were very supportive of Ma Yifu's decision, and Ma Yifu decided to accept the invitation.
Before leaving, Ma Yifu showed a reluctant emotion, promising that he would continue to teach Tang Xiaochou to study when he returned. Tang Xiaoshu nodded sweetly and promised to study hard.
After Ma Yifu left, Tang Xiaochou became more devoted to learning, and even reached the point of forgetting to sleep and eat, which is not only Ma Yifu's encouragement, but also her deep understanding and love for the charm of literature.
Tang Xiaochou was a little overwhelmed by Ma Yifu's high-intensity study. But she didn't take it to heart because she thought it was just a common cold and fatigue. However, when she read the poems she wrote to the eldest sister of the Ma family, the eldest sister was surprised to find that Tang Xiaochou's progress was so fast, and the poems written were neat and full of literary brilliance.
Although the current Tang Xiaoshu can't be compared to any talented woman, he can already answer the same question as the erudite Ma Yifu. The eldest sister of the Ma family happily shared Tang Xiaochou's poems to her little sister, and everyone praised Tang Xiaochou, a scholarly lady, who lived up to her name.
Tang Xiaochou was very excited because she had finally achieved her goal of becoming a talented woman and the pride of Ma Yifu.
After Tang Xiaoshu learned something, he immediately wrote a letter to Ma Yifu, and every word and stroke was full of deep love. After Ma Yifu received the letter, he was both happy and relieved, so he replied with a long letter.
The seriousness and loveliness of this wife is probably the most precious gift that God has given him. In Ma Yifu's lonely heart, Tang Xiaochou planted the seeds of love and taught him what love is and how to love.
However, unfortunately, it didn't take long for such days to pass, and Tang Xiaochou's physical condition was getting worse and worse. She began to cough, fever, night sweats, and even felt like she had no strength in her whole body.
When Lu Xun accompanied Tang Xiaochou to the hospital for examination, Tang Xiaochou's tuberculosis condition had entered an advanced stage. In those days, such an illness was often seen as a call to death.
Tang Xiaochou could only lie in bed, with a low-grade fever all day long, and sometimes coughing up blood. After receiving this sudden bad news, the eldest sister of the Ma family immediately sent an urgent telegram to Ma Yifu.
Those few days were extremely painful and torturous for the couple. Tang Xiaochou knew that her life was short, but she couldn't get her husband's company. She lay in bed unable to move, suffering from illness day and night.
Tang Xiaochou's only wish is to be able to take another look at Ma Yifu before he dies, show him her poems, and tell him to take care of himself. However, this wish was ultimately not realized.
Ma Yifu waited for Ma Yifu to receive the telegram and hurried home, but saw his wife lying quietly in the coffin, with no previous vitality and excitement on her face. That night, Ma Yifu seemed to be ten years old, he closed himself in his own world, did not cry or make trouble, just sat quietly on the side and looked at Tang Xiaochou's beautiful face.
He couldn't believe it, Tang Xiaochou's quiet and lovely appearance seemed to be yesterday, how could he suddenly leave this world? Ma Yifu began to blame herself, if she hadn't gone out to study and had been by Tang Xiaochou's side, would she still stay in this world without getting sick?
If he had come back earlier, would he have been able to see her for the last time? Ma Yifu's heart was turbulent, but he didn't want to tell others.
Ma Yifu, a talented man, an affectionate man. His life ** appeared a woman, and she was like a ray of light, pulling him out of the dim world. However, when she left, it was like a deep darkness that sent him to hell completely.
This woman is his deceased wife Tang Xiaochou. In "Mourning for the Deceased Wife Tang Xiao", Ma Yifu wrote his deep condolences and endless thoughts for his deceased wife with heavy strokes.
He said, "Filial piety belongs to me for three elves, and there is more chaos in the middle, and there is no day in grief. ”
His words were full of understanding and gratitude for his deceased wife. After his deceased wife Tang Xiaoshu left, Ma Yifu completely closed the door of his heart and made a vow that he would never marry anyone again in this life.
He said bitterly, "Qing is about to die, Ma Fu's ambition, learning, temperament, and consciousness, who else can peek into it!" Such an affectionate confession is heart-wrenching.
Tang Xiaochou, a woman who has an important meaning to him, how could he easily forget her? There is no way to insert someone else between them anymore. Ma Yifu is only 19 years old, and he has no offspring of his own, so such an oath is not insignificant.
His affection, his pain, and his loneliness all touched people deeply.
Tang Shouqian felt deeply sorry after hearing this, thinking that Ma Yifu did not need to defend his daughter. He even expressed his willingness to marry his third daughter to him to help him recover from the loss of his wife.
However, Ma Yifu politely rejected his kindness. Only he understands that Tang Xiaochou's position in his heart is irreplaceable, and he doesn't want anyone to replace him. The whole world may have forgotten Tang Xiaochou, but Ma Yifu remembered it, and in order to commemorate his deceased wife, he even grew a long beard.
He kept this promise for 65 years, until he was 84 years old. During this time, he never remarried, nor did he have any emotional entanglements with any other woman. Before her death, the eldest sister of the Ma family was still worried about her younger brother's future.
How should an old man, without his wife and offspring to take care of, how can he live? The eldest sister of the Ma family could only tell her daughter-in-law to take good care of Ma Yifu, and when she went with confidence, her daughter-in-law also agreed to her request.
Ten years before Tang Shou Qianma Yifu died, their lives were all taken care of by a young and lovely girl, Tang Xiaochou. At the moment of Ma Yifu's death, he recalled Tang Xiaoshu's face, she was still so young and beautiful, but he had become a gray-haired old man.
Although Tang Xiaochou is just a passer-by in the life of the Ma family, in Ma Yifu's heart, she occupies a position that can never be replaced.