In this story, we learn about a custom about a married woman not returning to her parents' home for the New Year. After the protagonist of the story, Jin Ling, got married, and went back to her parents' house for the New Year, she was told by her family that she could not do this, because it would affect her brother's fortune. This made Jinling feel very sad and helpless, because she has always been the first person who has worked hard to make money in her family, and she also has a share of the family's property. However, behind this custom lies a calculating approach to girls, which limits their participation in the distribution of resources in their families of origin.
The role of Jinling represents the helplessness and restriction of many girls under traditional customs. In the past, boys were considered to be the breadwinners of the family, able to inherit the property, take care of their parents and continue the family lineage. Girls, by contrast, are seen as the moon in the water, and those who marry become members of someone else's family, and the distribution of resources to the family of origin may be limited. As a result, girls who return to their parents' homes for the New Year after marriage will be subject to various restrictions, especially worries about property and financial luck.
This story reveals the truth behind the custom that married women returning to their parents' homes for the New Year would affect their brothers' fortunes. In fact, this custom is a calculation of women in order to limit the distribution of resources of the family of origin among women. In a family, resources are limited, especially in rural areas. As a result, parents tend to spend resources on their sons, believing that they are the ones who will be able to take care of their parents and continue the family lineage in the future. The daughter is considered to have nothing to do with the original family after marrying out, and no longer enjoys the rights and interests of the family property.
This unfair hukou system and resource distribution is not limited to rural areas, but also to large cities. In big cities, though, parents usually have more resources and are more open-minded. Some parents will even give the house to their daughter to ensure that the daughter can still enjoy certain rights after marriage. As a result, in big cities, daughters can still return to their parents' homes for the New Year after marriage, and the distribution of resources and the relationship between siblings are relatively equal.
It is in the story of Jinling that we realize the importance of returning home for the Chinese New Year. In traditional culture, the Chinese New Year is a time for family reunion and an important embodiment of people's traditional customs. Returning home, getting together with loved ones, and spending quality time with them is a manifestation of emotional sustenance and family values. However, the restriction on returning to their parents' homes for the Chinese New Year is not only contrary to this traditional meaning, but also deprives women of their right to participate in family activities.
The meaning of returning to your parents' home for the New Year is not only material feedback, but also a kind of emotional and relationship maintenance. With the development of social change, people are gradually realizing the importance of gender equality and family relations. Women should not be restricted from returning to their parents' homes for the New Year because they get married, but should be able to share the joy of reunion with their families and inherit the warmth and love of the family.
This story provoked me to reflect on unreasonable customs. Are there similar irrational customs and customs in our lives?
In fact, unreasonable customs are not uncommon in life, especially under the influence of traditional ideas and customs. These unreasonable customs often hide a certain class and gender bias, and deprive certain groups of their rights and interests.
We should examine these traditional customs with an open mind, not be bound by them, and stand up bravely to speak up for our own rights and the rights of others. It is only through constant reflection and rejection that we can gradually eliminate these unreasonable customs and move towards a more egalitarian and inclusive society. Let everyone be able to enjoy the rights and dignity they deserve.
Through the story of Jinling, we see the constraints and restrictions on women caused by unreasonable customs and habits in a family. Behind this custom lies a calculating approach to girls, which limits their participation in the distribution of resources in their families of origin. However, with the continuous progress of society and the improvement of women's status, this unreasonable custom will eventually be gradually changed.
As modern people, we should pay more attention to the equality and harmony of the family, and abandon those concepts that are prejudiced and unreasonable. Everyone should have equal rights and opportunities, and both men and women should be able to enjoy the dignity and freedom they deserve in the family.
Let us use our actions to change, promote the development and progress of society, and strive for a more equal and inclusive future!