Boys aged 3-6 will have a phenomenon: that is, they like to stimulate themselves *** to get satisfaction. Therefore, Freud designated the age of three to six as the genital period.
At this stage, there are two significant changes in children: first, gender recognition; Second, he began to be curious about the question that people come from **, and he comes from **. Children's intellectual curiosity and instinct for exploration begin to emerge.
Variation. 1. At this time, although he can distinguish between men and women very well, they do not fully accept the physiological differences between men and women.
For example, some little boys will ask their mother, why does he have a little JJ and his mother doesn't? Some mothers will explain: I didn't because my mother is a girl and you are a boy, so you have. This mom did the right thing.
When faced with such questions from children, parents should patiently guide their babies, tell them the biological differences between men and women, and make them aware of the spiritual value of gender.
For example, boys should be brave, responsible, and talented; The girl is very gentle, kind, and versatile. Through such guidance, children can not focus on the differences, but instead pursue a spiritual gender identity.
In life, there are many old people who especially like to tease boys' little jj, which is particularly bad. Because, when adults like to tease little jj, children will naturally love and pay more attention to their own ***.
Then, in the future, his attention will be focused on his own ***. Such consequences have been more verified in adult men.
For example, many adult men are very concerned about their own size, and do not pay attention to whether he is responsible and responsible as a man, and whether he has the qualities that a man should have?
Therefore, in the face of the above situation, parents should give appropriate stops, but do not emphasize too much, because sometimes it will backfire. Faced with such a situation, it is better to divert attention and develop other aspects of the child's interests.
At the same time, parents should also reflect: have they recently paid less attention to their children, and they have not paid enough attention to their children, making them feel lonely? That's why children need to be happy in this way. If this is the case, it is necessary to strengthen the communication with the child and improve the parent-child relationship.
Variation. 2. Children will ask where they come from? Freud said that at this stage all children create a theory of fertility.
There was once a little girl who said: I know that I came from **, my mother gave birth to my upper body, my father gave birth to my lower body, and then they put me together and became me.
A little boy once said: I was born by my mother, I used to be in my mother's belly, and my mother had a navel eye on her belly, and I came out of that navel eye.
You can ask a lot of children about this question, and you will find that children's imagination, creativity really amazes all of us adults. However, if we don't handle it well, our child's creativity may be curtailed to a certain extent.
For example, adults like to deceive children by saying that they picked them up from a garbage dump and picked them up on the side of the road. Such an answer can be traumatic to the child to varying degrees.
Because, when a child has an unpleasant relationship with his parents, he may think: he must find his biological parents, and he may have deep doubts about his parents.
In fact, parents can use some creative ways to tell their children that they are from, just like their children. Because, the child's creativity is also generated at this time.
At this stage, their curiosity and desire to explore develop in tandem. If we protect it, scientists will be born in the future.
Don't hit your child and stifle their curiosity when you can't answer your child's question, then go online and search for the answer to that question.
Either you can confess to your child that mom or dad doesn't know, and when you grow up, you can look up books, or you can ask the teacher when you go to school. We must protect our children's desire to explore.
Because only in this way can they continue to overcome difficulties, raise problems, and solve problems in the process of learning knowledge in the future.
Summary:Children enter the stage of development of the genital phase between the ages of three and six. At this stage, the child begins to identify the gender and is curious about where he came from, accompanied by other curiosity and desire to learn. In the face of changes in children, parents should guide them patiently, let them face up to gender differences, and protect their curiosity to explore the world.
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