A lot of people have similar questions. Life after marriage has become very boring, and every day seems to swallow up the enthusiasm and passion of married life.
The romance and heartbeat of the past seem to have been replaced by strollers, feeding bottles, and housework. They find themselves often saying "live like this" with understatement, and feel that this normal life may be the fate of most people.
Is this really our fate?
Maybe you can explore the answer to this question by digging into some key points.
So why is the relationship between husband and wife becoming more and more cold?
Lose your charm. Attraction is a key factor that motivates a relationship between two people.
However, over time, the attraction may fade due to the couple's familiarity with each other.
If we don't maintain a certain sense of mystery, we fall into the trap of being too familiar with each other.
Divert attention.
After the birth of a child, mothers tend to focus more on the child and family, while fathers may be more concerned about career development, so mothers take the importance of managing and maintaining relationships very seriously.
Lack of freshness.
As both parties get to know each other better, the novelty fades away.
At this time, due to the inconsistency of the values of both parties and the shortcomings of the other party, if these problems cannot be resolved amicably, the relationship may lose the freshness that each other once had.
It seems like a natural tendency to slow down after getting married.
But this is not the case. As long as you manage it carefully, your marriage relationship can completely maintain its original intention.
Is there a way to keep our marriage fresh?
The first point is to always consider the relationship as the most important part of any relationship.
Instead of treating children and parents as the most important elements in a marriage, it is better to strengthen communication and solve problems together.
The second key point is to optimize yourself, and by extension, your relationships.
Trying to change the notion that someone else is wrong. The right way is to change yourself first, and then slowly influence the other person to build a positive relationship.
The third point is to learn and practice scientific marriage management.
Marriage management is not simply emotional comfort, it is a science that requires a long period of study, understanding and practice.
Being able to speak, knowing the secrets of the boudoir, handling the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, how to create a romantic home environment, how to celebrate a partner's birthday, etc., are all essential skills. Please master.
Only through continuous learning and growth will the spiritual understanding between husband and wife become higher and higher, and the degree of harmony in the depths of the soul will become higher and higher.
As long as one of you can express your love in the way you want, starting from the other person's preferences and expectations, when the other person feels love, they will reciprocate you in the way you want.
Love is mutual, and so is happiness.
As long as love flows, the marriage will not change and will retain its original aroma.