Falling in love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a combination of two families, and the family model determines whether we are happy or challenged in marriage, depending on our discernment.
Therefore, when we look for our partner, we are not blinded by the love in front of us.
Please be sure to do a full investigation and careful thinking before receiving the certificate.
Domestic violence and all kinds of addictive behaviors in the family.
Xiao Li lived in an environment where his father was an alcoholic and beat his mother when he was drunk, and he grew up in a scolding throughout his childhood, and he vowed not to drink or beat his wife no matter what he grew up.
But in fact, when he was 45 years old, due to a setback in his career, he fell into a slump and began to drink heavily and beat his wife. The pattern is exactly the same as his father's.
The behavior he once hated for his father is still happening to him.
Psychology says: Where we criticize our fathers and mothers, we will one day become such people.
Girls, don't leave it to chance, thinking that we can save these kinds of people.
Mom Bao male family
This kind of family generally refers to a strong mother in the family, and the mother has to control the son in everything, or manipulate the son in a subtle way. For example: When my mother gave birth to you, she almost died, and if you don't treat me well when you grow up in the future, I just raised a white-eyed wolf or something.
The son who grew up like this, deep in their subconscious, hated his mother's control and manipulation of him on the one hand. On the other hand, in order to be filial and repay the kindness of his parents, if he wants to be good to them, he will obey his words and be a good son.
In his heart, he is very **, the internal friction is very serious, he can't tell how to get along with his wife, he feels misogynistic when he gets close, and he feels very guilty when he is far away.
If you want to think that he can give us happiness for a long time, I am afraid it will be difficult to ascend to the sky.
Machismo family
Xiao Huan's husband is full of machismo, his husband's values are male superiority and inferiority, when he gets home from work, he takes off his shoes, takes a mobile phone and sits on the sofa, waiting for the meal, and the children also want Xiao Huan to take care of it.
Everything Xiao Huan has done for the family, his husband has never praised it, and he takes it for granted. Sometimes I still mess with flowers and grass outside, and my husband thinks it's normal, what man doesn't have a few women, that's a successful man.
A macho person like this, the belief that is ingrained in his mind, if he changes, I am afraid that the daylily will be cold.
Of course, the above situations are all of the more extreme types of special cases.
To sum up the above, the true meaning of marriage is that two people go both ways, work together, tolerate and understand each other, and both parties are willing to change for the sake of happiness.
After all, the purpose of marriage is to run for happiness.
In short, the girls keep their eyes open before they get married, and they manage it with their hearts after they get married.
I believe that the door to happiness is open for us
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Account Author Introduction.
Peng Jin uses psychology to heal his relationship with his husband every day, while healing and supporting the growth of students, while bringing 2 babies, family and career are not wrong. If you are confused about finding a partner, please leave a message in the comment area for one-on-one consultation.