"It's easy to fall in love, but it's hard to get along; It's easy to get along, but it's hard to be together. ”
You may only feel it for a moment. They love each other, but it takes long-term hard work and dedication to get along and stay together.
The process of becoming friends requires both parties to take care of their feelings so that they can overcome the ups and downs of life together.
There are three types of longest-lasting relationships between the sexes:
01 No need to please.
In relationships, there are people who try to please others without any consequences, even if they repeatedly give in, lose themselves, and belittle themselves. Dust.
There's a good saying. "If a relationship requires you to make an effort to please the other person, then the relationship itself is most likely not for you. ”
If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb", there is such a girl. "Her boyfriend is self-centered and doesn't care about her feelings at all. She always goes out first to her destination and waits for the boy. When the boy gets angry, she reassures him. Boy But when she said this, somehow she didn't have the courage to go the other way.
The tutor asked her what she wanted. She said she only wished the boy would care about her at least a little.
Blindly catering to others can only show that you don't value yourself in your heart.
In fact, the best way for a person to get the attention of others is to make them understand that you can have a good life whether they value you or not.
Everyone should firmly believe that there is no unworthy person in this world.
If you're good enough, all good things will happen.
02 Respect each other.
It was said. "The best relationship is one that respects your choices. ”
I firmly believe that people who truly respect you will understand you better without you having to say anything.
When Su Shi was demoted to Huangzhou, he was humiliated all his life, but Chaoyun always accompanied him and shared weal and woe with him.
When Su Shi wrote poems, she added fragrance to his red sleeves; When Su Shi was in a low mood, she comforted him with kind words.
Su Shi also cared about Chaoyun and knew that Chaoyun was very talented, so he encouraged her to learn cultural knowledge and discuss poetry.
Wang Chaoyun once said: "It is not appropriate for single people to be full-fed. ”
Su Shi responded. "My wife knows me. ”
These four simple words represent the silent tacit understanding between the two people. Understand.
The most important thing in getting along with others is to respect each other's choices and decisions, rather than imposing one's own will on each other.
Mencius said, "He who loves others will always be loved by others; People who respect others will always be respected by others. ”
Only by knowing how to respect others can we win the respect of others.
This respect is not superficial respect, but genuine acceptance and understanding.
03 Mutual trust.
All relationships in the world are not smooth sailing, there are always ups and downs. Only by trusting each other deeply can the two overcome obstacles together and sustain their daily lives. Boredom consumes all your natural love.
As Bacon said, "The best trust between people is the trust that keeps promises." ”
I once witnessed a beautiful love. The heroes and heroines are my best friend Armin and his wife Xiaoxiao.
Their love story made me deeply appreciate the importance of trust in relationships.
Ah Ming and Xiao Xiao met on campus, and after graduation, the two started a long-distance relationship.
They often only see each other once in a few months due to their work.
However, distance is not an obstacle between them, as they trust each other enough.
When they go out, Ah Ming and Xiaoxiao share the bits and pieces of their lives through **. They don't doubt the loyalty of the other person, nor do they doubt the other person's lack of timely response to messages.
Later, Xiaoxiao quit her job for Ah Ming and came to his city.
They ended their long-distance relationship and entered the palace of marriage.
Rabindranath Tagore said: "If you love her, let your love surround her like sunshine and set her free. ”
Trust is the bond that holds you together. Trust can bind the hearts of two people together. Live together. Love can only last if you trust each other.
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