Written by Rouran.
Someone once lamented: "Many relationships are not as strong as we imagined, they can't stand the test, and they are lost to time."
A little disconnection, and it slowly became dispensable to each other. ”
Disconnection is also the touchstone of love, people who have you in their hearts will take the initiative to look for you, and people who don't have you in their hearts will be indifferent to you.
To see if a relationship is strong, just disconnect.
My colleague Zifeng was absent-minded at work that day, looking sullen, and looked at his phone every once in a while.
I asked him what was wrong, and he said with a bitter face: "My girlfriend had a fight with me last night and blocked me, and I didn't reply to the text messages I sent her.
It made me panic, and now I just want to see her after work, solve the misunderstanding, and explain things clearly, otherwise both of them will be uncomfortable. ”
As soon as there was a sound at 12:00, Zifeng immediately got up to pack his things, grabbed his bag and rushed out.
For two people who love each other, every minute and second of not being able to contact is torment, and the world without you seems to have lost its color and become boring.
The person who loves you will be nervous about you, and even if there are conflicts and quarrels between the two, they will resolve them as soon as possible, and they can't bear to stimulate you with a long disconnection.
Because I am afraid of losing, I am eager to redeem it, and after the disconnection, I try my best to contact you and look for you all over the world.
If you are not afraid of losing someone, you will ignore your feelings, even if you know that you are anxiously waiting for news from him, you will eat, drink and have fun at the same time, and tell him that he doesn't care with boundless indifference.
You must know that the person who is willing to feel sorry for your sadness is the one who really puts you in your heart.
To ignore is to have no love, not to take the initiative is not to take you to heart, don't find a reason for yourself to continue to persevere, and there is no need to make excuses for the other party, sometimes you see it clearly, and you look down on it.
In the movie "Predecessor Three", Meng Yun and Lin Jia, who have been in love for five years, have already entered a dull period in their relationship.
Because of an ordinary quarrel, Lin Jia pulled her suitcase and ran away, Meng Yun didn't feel good in her heart, but she still watched Lin Jia go out.
disapprovingly thought that the other party would take the initiative to come back to him, and did not choose to apologize and curry.
After a few months of disconnection, no one took the initiative to send a message to the other party, and Meng Yun went to her many times later, but she didn't take action because she couldn't let go of her self-esteem.
The two of them were unhappy during the breakup, although they were worried about each other in their hearts, they didn't admit defeat.
remembered that Lin Jia had given Meng Yun a chance at that time, and she looked back frequently, always expecting the other party to take the initiative to say the words "stay" and "it was my mistake".
It's a pity that she didn't wait for anything until the end, only regrets and misses.
Many people think that the two of them are too hypocritical, but in fact, they are not, and all the ininitiative is just that they don't love so much.
The people who love you will come to you against all odds, even if they are far away.
The person who doesn't love you so much will value his face more than his feelings, he knows that during the Cold War, you feel uncomfortable, but he just doesn't bow his head and doesn't take the initiative.
As Mr. Yang Jiang said: "When a man ignores you, he will be treated as sick, and if he does not contact you for a week, he will be hospitalized; If he doesn't contact you for a month, he'll be treated as if he's gone. ”
If you don't reach out to your person, just let him go.
I like a sentence very much: "In any relationship, know how to submit to each other and bow your head in turn, so that you will not be easily separated." ”
All long-term relationships in this world are just one that knows how to tolerate and accommodate, and the other knows how to stop in moderation.
Disconnection is a mirror of feelings, which can reflect the depth of emotions in each other's hearts.
Someone who doesn't love you will ignore your sadness and sadness, if you don't look for him, he won't come to you, even if you cut off contact with him, it won't affect his life at all.
Love and dislove are really obvious, just look at his actions after the disconnection.