The Irish poet Roy Creeft wrote in Love:
I love you, not only because of the way you look, but also because of the way I am when I'm with you. I love you, not only for what you do for me, but also for what I can do for you. ”
True love is mutual respect and dependence, you have me, I have you, two people will get better and better together.
For men, the more they love someone, the more they will respect each other from the bottom of their bones, and there will never be any slackness and offense.
At the same time, the more he cares about a person in his heart, the more he will regard the other person as more important than himself, and no matter how long he gets along, he will give respect and love.
On the contrary, when a man unscrupulously starts to touch the following two places frequently, it means that he must not love you so much, let alone care about you so much.
Everyone has their own weakness, which is the most untouchable place, and tends to be kept in the deepest part of the heart.
Every time I think about it, it is definitely not pleasant, but a painful memory.
When a man really loves a woman, he often will never easily touch the weakness of the other party, but will do his best to protect it, because he does not want to see his lover sad, and it is not easy to see his beloved woman sad again.
However, if a man says that he loves each other, but in actual action he doesn't care about the other person's feelings at all, and repeatedly touches the woman's weakness, embarrasses her, and makes her angry, but he doesn't realize the mistake at all.
Such a man doesn't love this man at all from the bottom of his heart, no matter how he hides it, he will only expose his true nature when he is in a hurry.
The more you don't care, the more you will not care about each other's feelings, and frequently touch each other's weaknesses many times, and stab each other's hearts, which is clearly not love, but hate.
From a psychological point of view, when a person repeatedly uses the other party's privacy and weakness to publicly ridicule and talk about things, even if he says that he is just joking, it proves that this person is just selfish and not worthy of deep friendship.
If a man really loves a woman, he will be the umbrella of the other party's wind and rain, and the tree of the scorching sun, he hopes to use his own strength to bring more warmth to the woman, rather than hoping that she will be hurt again.
So, don't just look at what this man says, but look at his attitude towards your weakness, so that you can clearly understand whether he is in love with you or is acting on the spot.
As the saying goes: Trees are afraid of hurting their roots, and people are afraid of being sad. ”
It takes too many years to warm a heart, but to cool a heart, as long as you don't care about the other party's bottom line, it's enough.
If a man never cares about his woman's bottom line, tramples on and insults at will, regardless of the other party's feelings, and only thinks that he can vent, such a man is definitely not worthy of deep love.
There is a netizen on Zhihu who has posted his personal experience.
Since she had just given birth and had been resting at home, the two had an argument over a trivial matter.
Unexpectedly, her husband's words instantly chilled her.
The husband pointed to her nose and said:
What do you have now, and it's not that I'm making money to support you? You're as fat as a pig now, and I'm in the water to marry a wife like you...”
To be honest, no matter which woman hears this, she will be instantly speechless.
That time, she didn't say anything, and returned to her parents' house in tears, no matter how the other party invited her later, she didn't go back.
For this matter, the following comment from a netizen hit the nail on the head:
treats his lover, if he inadvertently says something that breaks through the bottom line, I will never forgive, because a lot of angry words are what he says in his heart. ”
A man who really loves a woman is not willing to hurt each other at all, and he will not say anything that breaks through the bottom line without scruples, which is not caring, let alone cherishing.
On the contrary, the more he cares about a person in his heart, the more he will understand the taboos of the other party, he will always keep it in mind, and he will not touch it easily at any time, and he will maintain it everywhere.
There is a saying: this is the bottom line, and crossing it is destruction. ”
Whether it is a lover or a husband and wife, each other has their own bottom line for how to behave in the world, and as the person you love the most, you should know how to maintain it, rather than crossing the bottom line again and again and making each other uncomfortable.
This is disrespectful, and even less cherished.
Life is like a journey, and being able to choose a partner that suits you has a great impact on your life.
If you want to really see a man, you can actually be clear from two aspects: whether he will touch your weakness and bottom line.
Love without respect will not last long, but there will be no happiness at all, and it will only allow you to be trapped in it, in addition to suffering, and unable to extricate yourself.
There is no love that cares, just treating you as a dispensable stranger, no matter how much you give, it will be empty after all.
end- One person and one sentence cheer for the graduate school entrance examination ***Photo.com.