Friendship is important in friendship.
Fellowship with profit, and dissipate when profit is exhausted; Intersect with potential, and tilt when defeated; Intersect with power, and abandon power if you lose it; Fellowship with affection, and hurt with affection. Only by communing with the heart can it become long-lasting.
In life, we will meet many people, and some people will become their iron buddies, good girlfriends, or even confidants after years of precipitation;
And some people fade out of their lives over time and become strangers who pass by.
When you become a passerby, there will be a moment when you feel in your heart that this person cannot be deeply acquainted with, and you must keep your distance, or even stay away.
For example:When you are playing chess together, you suddenly leave for a while, and when you come back, you find that the game has passed and you have changed the pieces.
Some people may feel that this matter is insignificant, there is no need to go online, in fact, the view is subtle, and the whole leopard is known at a glance:
1.Originally, it was just entertainment, what if you win, what if you lose? But the fact that he attaches so much importance to the result shows that this person has a strong desire to win.
2.Engaging in small moves in a game of chess shows that he is likely to use unseemly means in order to achieve his goals.
Don't look at it, it's just a stealing of chess pieces, but there is a word "stealing" in it, which is enough to explain everything, the ancients have long known: gambling is like character, and it is the most intuitive to see people's hearts in things.
Another example:When eating together, they frequently turn the tabletop, completely ignoring whether others are picking up the dishes, and even the chopsticks fly up and down, fiddling in the dishes, and picking the parts you like to eat.
It shows that this person is most likely selfish and lacks empathy, at least it is a lack of banquet etiquette, or at worst it is a lack of education, and the quality of the parents at home can be seen.
Instead of becoming friends, there is a high probability that they will ask for you excessively in the future, completely ignoring your situation, and once they do not meet their expectations, they may be slandered and slandered behind their backs, and they will be harmed excessively.
Another example:When I went to the house of some friends with better family conditions, I saw that he was extremely impatient with the nanny at home, and often scolded and even spoke ill of him.
When he turned his head to talk to the guest, he immediately changed his expression and smiled all over his face.
We often ridicule this kind of person as a two-faced person, and on the surface, he is not friendly enough to people and speaks harshly;
After a deeper analysis, he will most likely be a person who is "flattering and bullying", how bitter and mean he is to those who are not as good as himself, and how flattering he will be to those who are superior.
Don't think that these are trivial things, you can't be careless when making friends, the people who can harm you are the people around you, and strangers can't say anything if they want to hurt you;
And often the person who knows you best hurts you the most, because he knows you too well, knows that ** is your weakness, and knows where to stab you the most.
Starting from small things, you can often avoid possible risks, and if you wake up in big things, there is a high probability that it will hurt your muscles and bones, you say?
Of course, no one is perfect, and non-principled small shortcomings, as a friend, you should be tolerant, and recognizing him is not only to appreciate his strengths, but also to accept and tolerate the shortcomings of others.
If everything is perfect, then no one in the world can be your friend.
People who pursue perfection too much in this regard are likely to be difficult to get along with, and in the end they can only stand alone and be alone.
It is enough to have a confidant in life! But do good deeds, don't ask about the future, it is gratifying to have it, if you really haven't encountered it, just look at it with a normal heart.
Finally, I wish all the destined people in front of the screen are good people, don't worry about the road ahead without knowing yourself, who in the world doesn't know you?
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