During the Chinese New Year, visiting leaders has become a routine for employees of many enterprises and institutions. This is not only a polite thing on the surface, but also a way to connect with feelings, which contains a human touch. However,The level of emotional intelligence often determines the gains.
During the Spring Festival of the first year that Xiao Li entered the new company, he specially prepared a box of big red robes to visit his direct leader, Director Wang. Director Wang took the gift with a smile and said casually: "Oh, don't bring anything next time, we are all our own people." Xiao Li was originally a person with a wooden personality, and when he heard this, he hurriedly said: "Good leader, I remember." "Since then,He was honest and honest with Director Wang, and he didn't dare to make any additional moves.
And Xiao Zhao, a person with high emotional intelligence, will skillfully grasp the opportunity in the face of the same situation to further narrow the relationship with the leader. He will respond just right:"Leader, that's what you said. We are our own people. So, next time I can bring you the special snacks of my hometown to try, I believe you will like the taste of your hometown. ”
Director Wang laughed when he heard this: "Okay, okay, I just want to taste the taste of your hometown." It seems like a simple sentence, but Xiao Zhao seized the opportunity to establish a personal relationship with the leader. Since then,He will send some hometown specialties to the leaders from time to time, and sometimes he will stay to chat with the leaders. The benefits of this relationship to his work can be imagined.
Here's another example. At the beginning of her tenure, Manager Liu, the new leader of Xiaofang's department, prepared a beautiful gift box to visit. Manager Liu said with a smile: "We are our own people, don't bring these things in the future." Xiaofang realized that this was a good opportunity to improve the relationship, and immediately responded:"Manager, I see what you mean. We're our own people, yes. In this case, I don't know when you are free, I can bring my family to your house to chat and take care of each other's lives, which is like my own people. ”
Manager Liu laughed after hearing this, and the two agreed to go out for dinner as a family on a weekend. Wait for Xiaofang to return to the company,found that Manager Liu's attitude towards her was obviously much more enthusiastic than before, and he would take the initiative to help her coordinate some difficult things. Xiaofang just took the leader's sentence of "his own people" to the extreme, and gained greater support in his career.
Smart people will seize the opportunity to deepen their relationship with each other when they say "they are all their own people" to the leader; And honest people often find it difficult to transform this ambiguous opportunity, and finally stop at the identity of ordinary employees. The difference is the embodiment of emotional intelligence in interpersonal communication.
So, after the leader says "it's all our own people", how can we subtly deepen the relationship? Here are a few suggestions::
First, express gratitude. Let the leader feel the warmth of being valued and respected, which will greatly enhance his favorability towards you.
Second, give a reasonable explanation for the gift to avoid misunderstanding. At the same time, explain your original intention clearly, so that the leader will be more impressed by your character.
Third, express your determination to work and show that you are worthy of leadership and cultivation. This will increase the motivation of the leader to carry you.
Fourth, take the initiative to invite private contact. Appropriately close to the leader's life circle and deepen the emotional foundation. It's the best way to get closer.
Of course, when interacting with leaders, we also need to pay attention to methods and proportions, and avoid being too pandering. As long as we have a positive and enterprising attitude, we will naturally be able to build deep connections in the workplace. This is the most valuable asset in our career development.